Tea with June Cleaver

By
Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty

Do you ever find it difficult to write in a book if it’s too beautiful?  I recently had a friend tell me that years ago she was given a special book to write her life story to pass down to her children, but the pages remain empty.  She said she just doesn’t yet know what to write. This struck a chord with me because I too, have a beautiful journal with gold lined pages on my book shelf, yet it is the spiral notebook that collects my thoughts.  It reminds me of china in the china cabinet, or the formal living space that is barely lived in.  What is it about a perfect space that makes us feel uncomfortable?  I believe it is our inherent sense of inadequacy.  We want to have that Martha Stewart home and garden, to be strong, successful business women, and still be that Leave it to Beaver mom, always perfect in appearance and etiquette.  I wonder if I would feel comfortable having tea with June Cleaver.  I think I would, but I am sure I’d be scrambling over what I would wear and prepping my kids to be on their best behavior before walking in the door.  How many of us are more like Eddie Haskell?  What if we stopped measuring and started opening our doors?

Eddie Haskell: "Wally, if your dumb brother tags along, I'm gonna - oh, good afternoon, Mrs. Cleaver. I was just telling Wallace how pleasant it would be for Theodore to accompany us to the movies."

Eddie Haskell: "Gee, your kitchen always looks so clean."
June Cleaver: "Why, thank you, Eddie."
Eddie Haskell: "My mother says it looks as though you never do any work in here."

 

 

 

 

 

Comments (51)

Leslie Godbold
WZGM AM1350 Independent Asheville Radio - Asheville, NC
Motivation Speaker, Radio host "Positively Living"

I would feel welcome at June Cleaver's house any day over current TV Mom's :.) Yes, we have to live in today. But Just because we live in today does NOT mean we should lower our standards. Great Post!

Mar 13, 2012 09:13 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Put on your high heels, shirt waist dress (yicks !) dimestore pearls and you are all ready to meet June !

Mar 13, 2012 09:29 PM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thanks for reminding me of a nice TV show. I enjoyed reading the post.

Mar 13, 2012 09:39 PM
Richard Weisser
Richard Weisser Realty - Newnan, GA
Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional

Jolie...

Eddie Haskell always thought that he was so smooth, but June and Ward never fell for his puffery! Great post, I enjoyed reading it.

Mar 13, 2012 10:46 PM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Jolie, welcome to ActiveRain! The Cleaver family made life seem so simple in the 50's. Made for good prime time entertainment. Congratulations on the featured post.

Mar 13, 2012 10:51 PM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566
That is funny. Comfy cozy is more inviting and more useful than stiff and formal and perfect stuff! Just like living rooms versus rec room usage!
Mar 13, 2012 10:51 PM
Margie Kopp Sorrell
Coldwell Banker Lake Oconee Realty and Lake Country - Greensboro, GA
Lake Oconee Real Estate

i've started many a journal over the years, only never to complete one. i think it's that fear that if one day someone was to read it, they wouldn't find it entertaining that keeps me from completing one. my friend, on other hand, started writing in journals when we were fourteen and she has now filled over 100. what an incredibly honest look at their mom her children will have one day. that will be so special and cool.

Mar 14, 2012 12:02 AM
Jolie Kirsten
Keller Williams Realty - Austin, TX

I think June Cleaver would have been delighted to visit Mrs. Haskell, if she had been invited.  It may have been an opportunity for June to breathe and let her guard down.  Chances are, Mrs. Haskell, would never invite Mrs. Cleaver for dinner, not because she wouldn't enjoy her company, but because of Mrs. Haskell's own insecurities.  I fight that part of Mrs. Haskell in me.

Mar 14, 2012 12:03 AM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Jolie:  I don't really think you'd have to have worried about having tea with Mrs. Cleaver.  Although it seemed she always was calm and in control in her own life, she also seemed kind and accepting.  I doubt you would have felt nervous around her.  My mom's June Cleaver is real life.  Everything looks effortless.  Things are spotless.  Yet no one would ever feel nervous around her.  Grab the kids .. and head on over ...

Gene

Mar 14, 2012 12:13 AM
Jolie Kirsten
Keller Williams Realty - Austin, TX

Hi Margie, I think you should just pick up where you left off in your journal.  Who says the next chapter can't be five years later?  My journals are sporadic too. Maybe you should try writing letters that can be compiled into a book later, at your discretion.  My husband and I were penpals for over a year after we met in Time Square.  We have binders full of letters that my kids and grandkids will enjoy reading one day.  I know I will.

Mar 14, 2012 12:21 AM
Earl Payne
Carolina's Best Home Inspections - Fayetteville, NC
Experienced Home Inspector

I, too, have a very nice bound book that I was given to write memories in for my grandchildren, and have not even begun.

Life goes by TOO fast!

Mar 14, 2012 03:04 AM
Margie Kopp Sorrell
Coldwell Banker Lake Oconee Realty and Lake Country - Greensboro, GA
Lake Oconee Real Estate

Jolie- My husband and I traveled on a sailboat together and we maintained a blog the entire we were out there. So in sense, it's like a journal. People tell me all the time I need to print all the entries out and make a book out of them to keep for years. Fortunately (& unfortunately sometimes), the internet is permanent so they are there for the reading.

Mar 14, 2012 04:00 AM
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Jolie~ Insecurities are not real, if you don't pay attention to insecurities they won't be their and they disappear!

Mar 14, 2012 05:03 AM
Susan Neal
RE/MAX Gold, Fair Oaks - Fair Oaks, CA
Fair Oaks CA & Sacramento Area Real Estate Broker

Pretty funny analogy.  As for June Cleaver, I'm reminded by your post that years ago, my father, who was a general contractor, did some work for Barbara Billingsley in her Beverly Hills home, which was gorgeous.  She was so pleased that she invited my dad to bring his entire family to stay at her beach house in Malibu for several days, which we did.  It too was gorgeous, and neither kitchen "looked like she did any work in them", although she was an excellent cook - just kept a spotless house.

Mar 14, 2012 05:19 AM
Mary Borth
Bloomington-Normal, IL
LuxeHomesBN.com

Well, last Christmas my Bunco group and I drank cinnamon schnapps from her antique teacups. It was lovely and we agreed to make it a holiday tradition!

Mar 14, 2012 06:29 AM
Robert Hammerstein -201-315-8618
Christie's International Real Estate - Hillsdale, NJ
Bergen County NJ Real Estate

Jolie - Ahh the memories of a simpler time.... Just wouldn't cut it in this day and age of course... You made my day with this post....

Mar 14, 2012 08:13 AM
Jolie Kirsten
Keller Williams Realty - Austin, TX

Susan, thanks for sharing.  What a wonderful experience.  I am glad to know she was just as wonderful in person.  I wonder how many of us feel more like Mrs. Haskell, but appear to others as having it all together?  Or I should say I wonder if Barbara Billingsley saw herself like June Cleaver.

I hope one day my kids will echo the words of Gene Mundt.  Thanks Gene for loving and appreciating your mother so much.  My mom had a plaque in her kitchen that said, "You labor for those you love" Keeping up the standard of the Cleavers is labor even if she has the talent to make it look easy. 

Mary, I love the schnapps in the antique teacups! 

Thanks for sharing

Mar 14, 2012 11:16 AM
Daniel J. Brudnok, REALTOR
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Fox & Roach, REALTORS - Exton - PA License #RS-225179-L / Delaware License #RS-0025038 - Downingtown, PA
SRES, e-PRO,ABR,GREEN,CSP

Jolie,

I think we all can remember a Eddie Haskell from our childhoods.....I know our parents can, LOL.

Mar 26, 2012 01:16 AM
Anonymous
Julie Ben-Victor

I think our memories of life are always in the imperfect moments anyway...not the perfect ones!  I love your blogs!  I think you should go dirty up that pretty journal with stories of your perfectly beautiful and yet beautifully imperfect life!  I love you sis!  xoxoxo

May 03, 2012 03:17 PM
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Jolie Kirsten
Keller Williams Realty - Austin, TX

Julie, I just now read your comment almost 6 months later.  You are the one who bought me that beautiful journal :)  

I have started a new blog, www.joliekirsten.wordpress.com.  So far I'm writing for myself because I don't think anyone knows its out there.  Please read and comment if you have a moment, to help me with SEO ;)

Nov 01, 2012 03:26 AM