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Word Of The Week: QUIET

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Home Stager with Owner, The Refreshed Home White Plains NY

Word Of The Week: QUIET

A singular word can be very powerful. Doesn't have to be extraordinary, either. There are SO many words available to us, sometimes we don't hear them anymore. That's one of the reasons I do this series, to focus on all that a single word can be. The word I've chosen this week is QUIET.

Instinctively, the first images that come to my mind are harried parents, or a library. Both cases admonishments, a forced condition. But today I'd like to ruminate about QUIET as A CONCIOUS CHOICE.

In a career-in a life-heck, in a WORLD where you get ahead by the number of connections, and degree to which you are connected to them all, QUIET would seem to be counter-productive. It's hard to turn off the noise, and slowing down the flow of adreneline feels awkward.

Years ago I was having a conversation about meditation...actually, I was doing most of the listening, I just didn't get it. Still remember the look on her face when I said based on her description, didn't see any difference between that and sleeping!!

QUIET is a DISCIPLINE. Talk and activity fills time and space, and QUIET is about LISTENING, and BEING OPEN. Open to others, open to ideas, or just open to whatever is waiting in the wings, that you might not have noticed because your head was full of noise.

Professionally, I know I can get to the heart of the matter with someone sooner when I am quiet...people tell you the most amazing things when you let them!!

Sometimes quiet is confident, but sometimes it is fearful, but I think it is always about suspending your inner noise, and having trust or faith is someone, or something outside yourself. At the very least, QUIET brings me back to CENTER, and ADDS PERSPECTIVE.

It's not an accident that this word came to me today, during this special, solemn and joyous shared holiday weekend of Passover and Easter.

In my personal life I am not a big joiner of group activities. Partially because my schedule doesn't really permit it, but sometimes I just really like doing things myself.

One of my semi-annual rituals in recent years has been helping physically prepare my church building for the Easter and Christmas holidays. Now, because I'm a decorator, you might be thinking I'd be placing flowers and hanging wreaths and such. It's be a logical guess, but nope. 

Father Tim works with Mary Ann and Catherine Amodio (of the most amazing third-generation Amodio's Flower and Garden Shop fame) and their staff, to make the magic happen. Me? I vacuum after. YUP.

After the church is fully and beautifully decorated, I show up and vacuum. The mindless, repetitive motion, as well as the white noise of the vacuum clears my mind, while making conversation all but impossible. This 'quiet' time in this beautiful peaceful space takes me out of the stupid stuff every time.

IF you are observing anything this weekend, I wish you a glorious time of it. If you are not, may you find and enjoy some quiet on your own. And as always, thanks for reading.

 

 

 

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Hillary Sheperd
Servpro of Scarsdale / Mount Vernon - Scarsdale, NY
Co-Owner ~ Servpro of Scarsdale / Mount Vernon, NY

Marie ~ how wonderfully profound and your picture of the beautifully decorated Nave makes me want to go to Mass, or at least meditate on the photo.  Most of us should find more quiet and listen more...great reminder.  Happy Easter and hope you get some of that tranquility this weekend.

Apr 07, 2012 08:09 AM
Emily Medvec
eXp Realty LLC - Santa Fe, NM
Broker | Realtor | Serving Santa Fe & Northern NM

Quiet is certainly a multi-dimensional word. Your experience and story from your perspective is an excellent reminder to listen more and respect the quiet needs of others. Your image is beyond a 1000 words of peace.  It reminds me of how important places of worship can be in our lives when reflection and meditation is needed.

Apr 07, 2012 09:06 AM
Kathy Sheehan
Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021 - Atlanta, GA
Senior Loan Officer

Marie, you are very intuitive woman.  Quiet is a required part of my day.  Happy Easter to you!

Apr 07, 2012 10:36 PM
Marie Graham
Owner, The Refreshed Home White Plains NY - White Plains, NY
Westchester County Interior Decorator, Home Stager

Hi Hillary! It's not a terrific-quality photo, but glad it resonnated with you as well. Thank you for stopping by, and yes, hope you are having a wonderful holiday!

Emily-I love how you see things, and better, can explain what you are thinking. Appreciate your sharing the connection, and yes, peace always.

Thanks Kathy. Funny it took me time being quiet to come up with this weeks' word...silly how the obvious can be right in front of us all along~Happy Easter to you as well!

 

Apr 08, 2012 03:29 AM
Nick T Pappas
Assoc. Broker ABR, CRS, SFR, e-Pro, @Homes Realty Group, Broker/Providence Property Mgmnt, LLC Huntsville AL - Huntsville, AL
Madison & Huntsville Alabama Real Estate Resource

Marie, I still have the "quiet" battle with myself when clients are sharing something that I should be paying attention to.  It's just so easy for me to jump in and want to add something to the conversation...you probably get some of that when we talk on the phone. 

Anyway, I had plenty of quiet time this last weekend...11-1/2 hours driving one way to Chicago then back...now that I think of it I was on the phone with clients almost the entire trip in both directions.....nevermind!

Apr 10, 2012 01:25 PM
Marie Graham
Owner, The Refreshed Home White Plains NY - White Plains, NY
Westchester County Interior Decorator, Home Stager

NICK! Wondered where you were! Hope you had a great holiday. Quiet is hard, that's for sure. LUCKILY we can practice it at will.

Apr 11, 2012 01:20 PM