How Do You Gauge Success?

Industry Observer with The Wine Siren & Agent Caffeine


When I first started in the world of business I equated success as having the top title and the biggest paycheck.  It took me a lot of hard work, a loss of my personal life and cost me a lost relationship.  Once I achieved the goal I thought I wanted I realized not only was it an empty goal, but it was a goal that once acheived left me feeling unfulilled, unhappy and looking to reinvent myself.

It also made me look at what I considered success with a more detached eye.  A chance to analyze it, to look at people I felt were successful from many different fields and come to a more highly evolved determination at what success was.  Indeed, what my later, more highly evolved definition of success became is vastly different from what I thought it was back in my early years.  The way I see it, success is not success if you say to yourself, boy look at me, I'm successful.  Success an ongoing ability to realize you can make positive change in our world in big and small ways, affect that change, and help people in such a way that you've changed their lives in a positive way.  It means giving back without asking for in return.  It means being open to others whether they can do something for you or not.  It means giving back in many ways, not a single charity or event.  It has to be a way of life.


In real estate I've found the tremendous duty an agent has to represent their clientele appropriately.  The responsibility of giving sound advice, and helping them make the right decisions with all the available information whether it costs you "the deal" or not.  It's not about "the deal" it's about the relationship.  How successful I am relies completely on my ability to help my client's achieve their dreams, understand the benefits of investing in real estate and making decisions that fit their goals to buy and sell real estate that will benefit them most.   It humbles me.



Yesterday a friend told me how successful I was in the business of real estate.  I told her it wasn't me.  It was my clients who were responsible.  I had been given their trust and the opportunity to give advice, recommendations and share with my clients my knowledge base. 


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Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Agent
Maybe it is you, Kelly. You were smart enough to pick customers that would implement your brilliant advise.
Jan 02, 2007 09:23 PM #1
Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate
Majestic Properties - Miami Beach, FL

Wow Kelly - That is really inspirational - you are so right, I've been there too - success is not about being the top dog or how much you have.  I also consider a successful person as a balanced person.  One that spends time with their family, on that has time for themselves, and one that gives on a regular basis.  Thanks for your insight.


Jan 03, 2007 12:26 AM #2
Anthony Clark
Clark Partners - Fayetteville, AR
Real Estate. It's About Lifestyle!
Nice blog!  In my short 28 years of life I have made 2 major career changes already.  Both were for "balance" & a better quality of life and came with significant monetary concessions.  In both instances I was better off personally and financially after only 6 months!  Live for happiness and follow your gut.
Jan 03, 2007 03:38 AM #3
Kelly Mitchell
The Wine Siren & Agent Caffeine - Napa, CA Food | Wine | Fab *Napa Valley
Hi Anthony, Isn't it amazing, the trials and tribulations to find the ultimate in success and happiness?  Thanks for visiting
Jan 04, 2007 06:41 AM #4
Tina Maraj
RE/MAX North Orange County - Fullerton, CA
#1 Selling Agent in Fullerton 2016 714-403-7901

I feel Kelly is right. Too many Realtors get caught up in their own sales production that they fail to see that what they are really doing is being a service provider and helping PEOPLE. I have been in this business for 18 years now and I have been through various types of training  seminars and listed to speakers that refer to the client as a deal or a number.

My business was mildly successful but when I began to be more of a community minded person and a better service provider my business doubled. My real success came from my past clients and the bonds we had built.

Feb 07, 2007 03:08 AM #5
Kelly Mitchell
The Wine Siren & Agent Caffeine - Napa, CA Food | Wine | Fab *Napa Valley
Congratulations Tina!  Your head is definitely in the right place.  People with the right focus will see their businesses remain more stable as the market continues to stabilize.
Feb 11, 2007 12:01 PM #6
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