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Simplifying My Life By Staying In The Moment!

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Homes Arizona Real Estate LLC

I personally tend to "over think" or "obsess" or "feel overwhelmed" about all of the "stuff" I have to do or "need" to do.

A couple of evenings ago as my husband and I were playing Sequence with another couple - good friends - I noticed something that I hadn't really thought about before. It was an "ah-ha" moment for me.

 

The other woman was verbally fretting about what happened yesterday, worrying and concerned over myriad situations in the future which she was not looking forward to, etc., etc. I laughingly told her to "stay in the moment," to enjoy what we were doing now instead of obsessing about tomorrow, next week, next month. Seriously, out of my mouth came those words. Good thing we're good friends, huh? Her husband immediately responded to that in a positive way and reiterated those words to her.

 

Today I was thinking about just that. We can't change yesterday, and who knows about tomorrow, but I can think about today - in a positive way and make things happen - today! I can see how that would increase my productivity and help keep me from feeling overwhelmed about tomorrow. Tomorrow I will work on that day. I will take one bite at a time from the apple. Not try and cram the entire thing down my throat. (That's a bit dramatic, huh?)

 

Too many times we are so stressed about our lives that we don't "stay in the moment" and enjoy what is happening then. Like when I take a bath - I let myself enjoy that experience - bubbles and all. When I'm playing golf, I enjoy the trees, the blue sky and the beautiful weather and maybe a few good drives. When I'm visiting with my daughter, I'm enjoying her as she shares with me her life. When my husband and I are hanging out, I enjoy and treasure him. When I'm working on Real Estate, I enjoy that, but it's definitely not my first or my only priority. We each need to enjoy those moments - it will help bring tranquility and peace into our lives.

 

I know it isn't easy - at least it's difficult for me. I'm just taking a DEEP breath and enjoying where I am right now. We will simply our lives and we will feel much more at peace - by staying in the moment.

 

Now, I pose a question to all of you who read this post. Do you think that women are more likely to obsess than men?

 

Comments(48)

Thesa Chambers
West + Main - Bend, OR
Principal Broker - Licensed in Oregon
awe yes great advice - I sure have missed your posts it is nice to be back
Dec 27, 2007 02:45 PM
Kevin Whitty
Poughkeepsie, NY
Yes,but they proably stay in the moment better than men also. 
Dec 27, 2007 04:01 PM
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AzLadyInRed

Thesa where have you been girl? I was just moments ago wondering about you. Glad to see you back. :-)

Dec 28, 2007 03:19 AM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker
Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

If you asked my husband this question, the answer would be unequivocally and a resounding yes. :)


Dec 28, 2007 04:15 AM
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AzLadyInRed

Elizabeth, well you notice the responses are primarily from women? LOL, I know. Men are much less complicated than us females.

Dec 28, 2007 04:21 AM
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AzLadyInRed

Kevin, really! That's something I hadn't considered. Thanks for your input.

Dec 28, 2007 04:40 AM
Jo-Anne Smith
Oakville, ON

Teri,  I enjoyed reading this post very much.  I'm like you, I live in the moment. I find it's so freeing....

No, I don't think that women fret more than men...in fact, I don't think it's specific to gender. I know men who are great worriers and fret over every little thing.....honestly, I don't know of any women like this.

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Jo 

Dec 29, 2007 02:03 AM
Renee Parker
Coldwell Banker Hubbell BriarWood - Lansing, MI
Lansing Realtor
There are certain things I do that can guarantee me being in the moment.  Photography for one.  When I am taking pictures, my mind can be no other place than that very moment.  Art is another one.  When painting or working in clay, I find my mind is totally THERE.  Nature is another good place to be that keeps me in the NOW.  Thanks again for this post. 
Dec 29, 2007 02:10 AM
Mesa, Arizona Real Estate Mesa Arizona Realtor
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AzLadyInRed

Jo, thank you so much. You're one of the healthier ones I think. Many do stress and worry about what happened yesterday or what will happen tomorrow. I have to take myself in tow from time to time and change my thinking to what is NOW - not yesterday. It's not always easy, but I am determined to do just that.

Renee, Wonderful example. I, too, love photography and am always saying to my husband. I should have brought my camera. Nature is so peaceful. Golf is also very helpful for me or reading a good book. Thanks so much for stopping by.

Dec 29, 2007 03:21 AM
Kate Bourland
Marketing with Kate - Redding, CA
Onlilne Marketing Mobile Marketing
Teri, great post I amost didnt read it.  A great way to do that is to startyour day by saying "thank-you" 20 times.   Gratitude for what you have is a powerful tool to helping us stay in the moment. 
Dec 29, 2007 03:32 AM
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AzLadyInRed

Kate, I appreciate your stopping by and reading and commenting on my post. Gratitude is a great tool. Thank you for sharing!

Dec 29, 2007 06:20 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals
Hi Teri aka Lady in Red!-what a great ah ha moment...seems as we get older we get more of them huh?  I am right there with you on those thoughts...in the moment...in the here and now...Happy New Year lovely lady....may you have a year of success and much happiness. 
Dec 30, 2007 11:05 PM
Mike Frazier
Carousel Realty of Dyer County - Dyersburg, TN
Northwest Tennessee Realtor

Teri,

My wife and I take turns stressing over stuff. You are right, don't look back and live for today. Good luck in 08!

Dec 30, 2007 11:14 PM
Mesa, Arizona Real Estate Mesa Arizona Realtor
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AzLadyInRed

Midori, thank you so much. Aging does make a difference in our perspective, huh? Happy New Year Midori, and thanks for stopping by.

Mike, thanks for coming by and for your comment. At least you take turns, huh? Happy New Year.

Dec 31, 2007 01:44 AM
Tom Plant
WINEormous.com - Murrieta, CA
Teri - Such great advice. I tend to think women do obsess more than men. There are exceptions to every rule, though...
Jan 03, 2008 12:17 AM
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AzLadyInRed

Tom, thank you. I think you're right - on both counts. :-) Thanks for coming by.

Jan 03, 2008 02:05 AM
Adam Waldman
Westcott Group Real Estate Company - Hauppauge, NY
Realtor - Long Island
TERI - I think that it takes a lot of discipline to be able to truly live in each moment without allowing yesterday's or tomorrow's worries to creep in.  However, I do think that it is something that we all should strive for, and this was an excellent reminder.
Jan 03, 2008 10:08 AM
Mesa, Arizona Real Estate Mesa Arizona Realtor
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AzLadyInRed

Adam, thanks for coming by and commenting. It can be a challenge at times to stay where you are, but if you're aware that it's something that is needful and healthy and wonderful, it makes it easier don't you think. :-)

Jan 03, 2008 10:11 AM
Kent Simpson
Realty One Group Mountain Desert - Tucson, AZ
Real Estate Is About People
Hi Teri--thank you for posting something that never hurts to read, re-read and then read again!  I mentally thank whoever wrote the Serenity Prayer on a daily basis for helping to keep me centered and focused on what is in front of me.
Jan 03, 2008 10:16 AM
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AzLadyInRed

Kent, hi. You are welcome. It's a great reminder to me as well. Too many times we get caught up in the recycling of past stuff and cannot stay and enjoy the moment. I, too, love the Serenity Prayer. It's a step by step way to do what my post suggested. Thank you for coming by and for commenting.

Jan 03, 2008 10:25 AM