"Bring Back, that Loving Feeling!" Building a Better Community - Blog Tips for Rain Drips

Real Estate Agent with Fathom Realty West Sound WA State 52404

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It's a normal progression in online social networks, as membership gets larger and larger, for the community to suffer from a league of growth-related issues. The more people who join, the more challenging it is to keep things intimate and personal. With increased numbers always comes a greater potential for the 'dregs' of cyberspace to find their way in and spoil all the fun.

* * * * * * * *   SOMETHING WICKED THIS WAY COMES   * * * * * * * *

An alarming common thread I've been hearing of late is that our beloved network community has become less and less loving. Seems as though a few bullies, flamers, and stalkers have found their way in among us, and are wreaking their havoc upon our cherished family.

Historically, one of the main attractions and benefits of this network has been the wonderful environment of encouragement and fostering meaningful relationships. It's been a safe haven of sorts, an oasis/retreat to find solace from the stresses/pressures of day-to-day life.

Unfortunately, there are a small minority of bad apples who are spoiling things for the majority. Allow me to restate a portion of the ActiveRain Community Guidelines, found on the HomePage:

  • Do not personally attack another person.
  • Do not slander another person. 
  • Do not send unsolicited emails, or faxes, or make unsolicited phone calls to another member.
  • We encourage free speech and defend everyone's right to express unpopular points of view. But we don't permit hate speech which contains slurs or the malicious use of stereotypes intended to attack or demean a particular gender, sexual orientation, race, religion, or nationality.
  • There is zero tolerance for predatory behavior, stalking, threats, harassment, invading privacy, or the revealing of other members' personal information. Anyone caught doing these things may be permanently banned from ActiveRain.

In my humble opinion, I think we've been a bit too lax on the 'Zero' tolerance policy. Not intentionally, mind you. The AR gods love this community they've built and place the greatest value on its members. But the community needs to know that these kind of issues, and the 'dregs' that cause them, will be dealt with swiftly and seriously.

So if you're one of these few Bad Apples, consider this post as putting you on notice. Shape up, or you WILL be shipped out!

* * * * * * * *   SPREADING THE LOVE!   * * * * * * * *

Okay, so for the rest of you Happy Campers, here's your homework for the coming week (yes, Virginia, there is homework!):

I want you to take a few minutes out of your day, and call another fellow Rainer. It has to be someone you've never talked to before. Spend a few minutes getting to know each other and sharing words of encouragement. This should be a regular part of your ActiveRain Network activities, just like making your daily comments, and consistent blog posting. Make it a point to call one AR member every week!

This is OUR community. WE are the ones who will make it become all that it can be!

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Rich Jacobson is a licensed real estate professional providing knowledgeable empowerment and relentless representation for his clients of residential properties and vacant land throughout all of Kitsap County WA and portions of Pierce, Mason, and Jefferson Counties. You can also find him at KitsapLife.com, SOUNDBITEBLOG and Crabbing in the Hood, or e-mail:  kitsapagent@gmail.com

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Rich Jacobson is a District Director for Fathom Realty and a licensed REALTOR®; an avid Crab Hunter, Clam Digger, and Oyster Shucker, He is the Social Media Evangelist for Life on the Kitsap Peninsula & The Western Puget Sound in scenic WA State.


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Kate Bourland
Marketing with Kate - Redding, CA
Onlilne Marketing Mobile Marketing
Rich, how did I miss your blog for so long.  When I see negative content I tend to personally blacklist that person.  I won't even read their blogs.  Don't have time for toxicity in my life.  Thanks for the reminder.  Hopefully some of the bad apples will read it and get a clue!
Jan 08, 2008 05:43 AM #80
Rich Jacobson
Fathom Realty West Sound - Poulsbo, WA
Your Kitsap County WA Real Estate Broker

Gary - I ran across the same 'music' person, and made the same kind suggestion, and received the same response. Oh well, to each their own, I suppose...

I would support public outings...maybe not necessarily with names, but specifics on why they were penalized or kicked off, so that other members would know that actions are, in fact, being taken, and policies being enforced. Not a bad idea...

Jan 08, 2008 05:55 AM #81
Maureen McCabe
HER Realtors - Columbus, OH
Columbus Ohio Real Estate

I did extra credit home work....  I called another member.  Don Fabrizio-Garcia.... I have only known Don since maybe 2005?  I invited Don to ActiveRain... and have never talked to him on the phone.  His voice is deeper than what it sounds like via blog or email but so is mine. 

Jan 08, 2008 06:27 AM #82
Rich Jacobson
Fathom Realty West Sound - Poulsbo, WA
Your Kitsap County WA Real Estate Broker
Maureen - I am proud of you! Keep it up!
Jan 08, 2008 06:35 AM #83
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

Late to the fiesta, haven't done my homework yet.  I need an Active Rain Dartboard to figure out who the heck I'm going to call.


Jan 08, 2008 08:44 AM #84
Alan 'AJ' Nisen California Contra Costa Mortgage Officer
A Large Bank in America - Lafayette, CA

you mean we have to phyiscally talk to a fellow Rainer?  How strange. My fingers will not know what to do!  I won't be able to hugh my computer. I loved the music.  The Righteous Brothers are one of my all time favorite groups.

Jan 08, 2008 01:58 PM #85
Mike Norvell Sr
Morris Williams Realty - Leesburg, FL
Norvell Consulting Group
Hey Rich, the number posted sent me to Dominos Pizza, did you get them confused??
Jan 09, 2008 05:58 AM #86
Janie Coffey
First Coast Sotheby’s International Realty - Ponte Vedra, FL
Uniting Extraordinary Homes w/ Extraordinary Lives
great point.  Rich, I love your consistency, your good heart, your no-nonsense, non-politiical just good solid input and the fact that you DO give a DAMN!  WE appreciate you!
Jan 09, 2008 11:38 PM #87
Ginger Wilcox
Sindeo - San Francisco, CA
I talked to Stephen Wolfe and Larry Bettag this week!  It was so great to make that real, live connection.  I can't wait to make more.
Jan 10, 2008 09:01 AM #88
Dale Baker
Baker Energy Audits and Commercial Properties Inspections - Claremont, NH
New Hampshire Relocation Real Estate Information

Howdy Rich

Sorry that I had not read your post before now. I will never understand why some can't just do the right thing. Be it in a online community or the community they live in.

I will do what your asking us all to do.

Thank you for a very fine post.

Have a good one


Jan 10, 2008 11:04 AM #89
Sue Prins
Five Star Real Estate - Forest Hills, MI
Realtor- Greater Grand Rapids, MI

Hi Rich, I am a newbee to AR. I am thankful for this new community. Thankfully I have only experienced encouragement so far from AR. I was so nervous taking the leap and doing something that was frankly, technologically challenging for me, so I do know that if I had been the victim early on of wha you were describing I would have been long gone. I am glad to hear you are watching out for this kind of thing.


Jan 10, 2008 02:39 PM #90
Rich Jacobson
Fathom Realty West Sound - Poulsbo, WA
Your Kitsap County WA Real Estate Broker
Sue - It's for new members just like you that I am so very passionate about working to help this network reach it's fullest potential. I want everyone to have the same life/business changing experience I have had as a result of my involvement here!
Jan 10, 2008 03:06 PM #91
Melissa Stewart
Coldwell Banker Elite - King George, VA
Your King George Realtor!
And I thought college was bad....Lovely post! I'm still fairly new and super shy but definitely read your post and thought about it. You are dead on with your points and it's great to be able to network with fine people such as yourself! Best wishes in 08!
Jan 11, 2008 02:56 PM #92
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Keller Williams Realty - Ann Arbor, MI
Ann Arbor Area Real Estate

Oh I am glad to read this blog and feel more secure in knowing we must all play nice.  As many have said, it is what our mothers taught us.  Isn't that a huge bestseller:  "Everthing I needed to learn in life I learned in kindergarden"? 

Anyway I'm happy to read this.  Thanks!

Jan 12, 2008 12:29 AM #93
Lindsey Hasford
Edina Realty - Elk River, MN
Bringing you home...
Thank you for this post. It's good to remember why we are here! The positivetly that I get from this sight keeps me going!
Jan 12, 2008 01:00 AM #94
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info
I left a message for Earl the Pearl.
Jan 17, 2008 11:19 AM #95
Julianna Hind
eXp Realty - Tacoma, WA
REALTOR, 206-679-4768, Tacoma Federal Way, Auburn, Kent, WA
Awesome post and song! thanks for keeping the "how" and "why" at the forefront!
Jan 17, 2008 03:02 PM #96
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

I did it!  Had a nice chat with Andrew Mooers up in Maine.  That's moose country.

Jan 17, 2008 06:39 PM #97
Deb Brooks
Brooks Prime Properties Wichita Falls Texas - Wichita Falls, TX

Rich, you are so right about feeling like a safe haven. When I first joined this place seemed huge and cold. All it takes is a little time and trust and you will find friends...and business. Thank you for the gentle reminder. Later in the rain~Deb

Jun 07, 2008 02:37 PM #98
"The Lovely Wife" (Broker Bryantnulls Wife) The One And Only TLW.
President-Tutas Towne Realty, Inc. - Kissimmee, FL

Gracious Rich...

I felt the urge to stop by and submit comment #100 on this AR Classic post :)


Jun 14, 2008 01:21 AM #99
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