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What's It Like to be a Great Realtor?

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Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Properties

I lost a dear friend, and the world of real estate an incomparable Realtor/Broker when the inimitable Barry Colyer, Broker/Owner of RE/MAX Traditions, in Oakland, NJ, passed away last week.  Barry entered the world of real estate in the mid-80's, and it was soon clear that he was a natural. People gravitated to Barry because he didn't want anything from them, but rather wanted to help them. He was the kind of guy who could sense if you were having problems, and he'd take the time to as what he could do. The first person I literally ran into when I came to the Franklin Lakes RE/MAX office, in 1991, knees knocking as I climbed the staircase, was Barry bounding down the stairs right at me.  He stopped, smiled, took the books I was carrying, and walked back up the stairs with me.  "In case no one else remembers to tell you this, you've made one of the best decisions of your career (joing RE/MAX)," he said. "Everyone's scared _ _ _ _less when they get here. You're going to do fine; I can tell," he continued.

In less than a week, I saw a note on my desk from Barry. "Hey, Connoyer (clearly, he decided to re-name me), I don't have time to find a rental for these people. Can you do it? No referral fee."  And that was my first transaction at my new home.  Although Barry wasn't the manager of the office, he often got stuck helping the agents with tech questions, looking up real estate statutes, and refereeing internal disputes., There was never a question that if you needed anything, Barry was the first person you went to.

In addition to being one of the top agents in our business, Barry was also a single dad. It was like watching a whirling dervish when Barry was juggling clients, kids' appointments, his love of car racing, and the occasional date.  But because Barry was first a dad, then a Realtor, there wasn't much time for dating.  And then he met Karen. It didn't take long to figure out that the smile he couldn't wipe off his face was put there by the person he always referred to as "the love of my life."

Barry decided to stretch his wings and start a RE/MAX office of his own, along with his partner in all things --- Karen. He bought a beat-up old building, in Oakland, and transformed it, as he did all things. into a beautiful treasure. In stead of concentrating on filling the office as so many other companies do, Barry decided to pick agents he knew would work well together, and ended up with 20+ agents who became more like a family than an office of individuals.  And then Barry got sick.

A beautiful shining star went out in our world, and we are left fumbling in the dark. I fear there will never be another Barry, but all of us whom he taught so much carry a piece of him in our hearts.  As ee cummings said, "I carry his heart in my heart."

Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

I am sorry for your loss, a great mentor cannot be replaced.

May 22, 2012 03:28 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Oh Kate, your post touched me and I am sorry to hear about Barry's loss and that I didn't get to know him. Clearly Barry touched many. Sorry for your loss.

May 22, 2012 03:38 AM
Kate Conover
RE/MAX Properties - Franklin Lakes, NJ

Thanks to everyone for your kind comments.  Hi shoes are impossible to fill.

Blessings,

Kate

May 22, 2012 03:43 AM
Anonymous
Roberta

Kate,

Thank you so much for posting such a touching tribute to Barry. It is wonderful to see that agents outside of our own office will miss this incredible man as much as we will.

Best always,

Roberta

RE/MAX Traditions

May 23, 2012 05:45 AM
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Richard Iarossi
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Crofton, MD
Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate

Obviously, if Barry didn't deserve it, this tribute would not have been written.

May 24, 2012 01:16 AM
Bob Stewart
ActiveRain - Seattle, WA
ActiveRain Ambassador

Kate,

I'm not going to lie, this one got me a little bit choked up. Very early in my career in the real estate industry I lost a guy who was I considered a mentor. I wrote about him when he passed away. 

I'm sure it's with heavy heart that you share the story of your friend and mentor Barry. Everyone needs a Barry in their life. I'm so sorry for your loss.

May 24, 2012 01:36 AM
Diane Daley
Caron's Gateway Real Estate - Northumberland, NH

I'm sorry for your loss.  Sounds like Barry will be very missed by everyone.  Very nice tribute. RIP Barry

May 24, 2012 02:35 AM
Kate Conover
RE/MAX Properties - Franklin Lakes, NJ

Wow.  I'm overwhelmed by the kind words from the AR community.  It's nice to hear that so many of you have shared a friendship/mentor relationship in your careers.  Our business can be so cutthroat that we always seem surprised when a Barry Colyer comes along. Those of us who believe there's more to life than this earthly experience know that Barry is somewhere smiling at all the nice things being said about him.

Many thanks to all!

Warm regards,

Kate

May 24, 2012 02:58 AM
Adrian Willanger
206 909-7536 AdrianWillanger-broker.com - Seattle, WA
Profit from my two decades of experience

Hi Kate, I'm sorry for your loss. I got chills when I read about Barry, he must have been pretty special to have touched so many people. 

May 24, 2012 07:22 AM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA

Kate:

I am so sorry for your loss.  People like Barry don't come our way very often.  You are lucky to have had such a person as a friend.  Please accept my condolences.

May 24, 2012 08:54 AM
Linda Metallo DiBenardo
RE/MAX Impact, Lockport, Illinois - Lockport, IL

What a lovely tribute Kate.

May 24, 2012 09:16 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Ah, Kate!  What a bummer!  Finding a broker you nlove is something that takes many of us decades in the business.  What a loss!  So here's a big hug from Washington, DC.

May 24, 2012 09:29 AM
Anonymous
Anonymous
Thanks so much for taking the time to read and respond. Barry is the kind of person you never forget. I was truly blessed to have known him. All the best, Kate
May 24, 2012 09:33 AM
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Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Kate - In addition to the sadness he has left in his wake, Barry has left an outstanding legacy to the people he cared about and mentored.  It's obvious in your words what he meant to many.

May 24, 2012 03:14 PM
Kate Conover
RE/MAX Properties - Franklin Lakes, NJ

What a wonderful community of new friends AR is.  I continue to be overwhelmed by all the kind comments on my commentary on my dear friend, Barry Colyer.  I am finding that I am far from alone in my sadness.  It seems everywhere I go someone stops me to talk about him, and always in the most glowing terms.  It's sad to say that the Barrys in the world are few and far between, especially in our business.  Please don't misunderstand --- I've met some wonderful Realtors in my 23 years, and I am lucky to work at a job I love. I just wish there were more Barrys to work with.

Again, my deep thanks for all your kind words.

Go out and Sell!

Warm regards,

Kate

May 25, 2012 04:27 AM
Anonymous
Karen Colyer

Kate,

Thank you for writing this lovely tribute to Barry.  It's been so heartwarming to have people tell me their "Barry" stories and to read yours in print.  He touched so many people's lives, and the outpouring of support from so many has been truly overwhelming.   I was so proud to call him my husband, and even prouder when he called me his wife.  I wear his wedding band on my thumb, and it reminds me to be the best person I can be as I carry him in my heart.  Thanks, Katie!

With gratitude and love,

Karen Colyer

May 27, 2012 11:33 AM
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