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You Pick your Friends and they Become your Family

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Real Estate Agent with Pilkerton Realtors

You Pick your Friends and they Become your Family

If you're new to ActiveRain, you're probably still finding your way. You've been taught to write good content and to read the posts of others. Hopefully, you've learned to respond to the comments on your posts. reciprocate and develop relationships with the members here. It takes a while but the friendships you make here are real and solid.

The first time I met someone I knew online was odd for me. I'm pretty shy. But only for a few seconds. Then I realized that I really knew them already, even though we hadn't shaken hands or hugged.

I recently lost my Father. He was only 76 and it was very unexpectActiveRain Familyed. I was sitting at my desk when they called. I had to immediately shut down everything I was doing and race home to pack a bag for Ohio.

For the next 2 weeks I lived in a fog. To Ohio, to Nashville, to Alabama, to Nashville to Ohio to Nashville.

Somewhere along the coming and going I was able to post something about it on Facebook and then her on ActiveRain. Even before I made it public, my friends showered me with love. Calls, text messages, emails, comments and messages on FB.

Now several weeks later, they continue to send me support. It's an amazing feeling to know that people care about you and continue to reach out. When you loose someone, there really is nothing, or very little, that anyone can do. You have to grow through it. You grow in ways you don't expect.

When things/life is tough it's wonderful to know that your friends love you like family. They're not just "online friends". They're there for you.

I know I'm way more melancholy than most of you are used to but I just want you to know how much you, my ActiveRain friends, mean to me.

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Connie Harveyis a local agent with Pilkerton Realtors, serving home buyers and sellers in Nashville, TN, Brentwood TN, and Franklin TN. Let her help you realize your Real Estate goals. She can be reached at 615-371-2474.


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Comments (28)

Adam Brett
The Adam and Eric Group - Fullerton, CA
The Adam and Eric Group, Fullerton's Finest

Connie, 

 

You really summed up what Activerain is truly about to us. I wish you and your family nothing but the best.

My condolences.

 

Adam.

May 30, 2012 02:40 AM
Kate McQueen
Realty Associates Texas - Cypress, TX
Tailored service for your real estate needs!

Sorry for your loss!  It is nice having the added "territory" that social media provides us, to expand our friendships far and wide.  I find that on-line friends can be very supportive.

May 30, 2012 03:04 AM
Karen Kruschka
RE/MAX Executives - Woodbridge, VA
- "My Experience Isn't Expensive - It's PRICELESS"

Connie  It is at times like these that we realize our virtual friends do care about us - beautifully and you have our sympathy

May 30, 2012 03:05 AM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Carie - You're so sweet. It's been very hard to start back blogging but I promised myself on the way home from Ohio that this week I would get back to work. I've really missed the constant contact with my AR friends. Hope to meet you too! :)

Fernando - Thank you so much. Sometimes you have to share the sad to explain the good of it all.

May 30, 2012 03:47 AM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Connie, I have never had the pleasure of meeting anyone here. With the exception of you when we ran into each other at Lake Providence. But I have had the opportunity to connect with other AR members on the phone.

I do feel connected to them in the same way I am connected with people I come in contact with here. Just the other day, while sharing an AR story I said, "I have a friend in FL...". My point is that agent is a friend. The fact that we've never met of no consequence.

Praying for peace for you during this time.

May 30, 2012 03:50 AM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Sandy - Life comes at you from unexpected directions and having good support makes in bearable.

Gloria - Thank you. You need to stay connected too.

Lou - Thank you.

Adam - Who would have thought 4 years ago that I would have made so many friends here.

May 30, 2012 03:54 AM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Kate - That's a great way to put it! "Expanded Territory" I love it.

Karen - They really do. Even if they don't know what has happened for some reason, they often check in to see if we're ok because they haven't seen us on line.

Tammie - Speaking of which, we need to plan a Meetup! It was fun meeting you in such an unexpected place. I'm in town for a while so let me know when it's convenient for you to have lunch.

May 30, 2012 04:04 AM
Mary Stewart
HomeTrust Real Estate, LLC, Homes for Everyone - Wilsonville, OR
Wilsonville and Surrounding Portland Metro Areas

Connie, I am so sad to hear about your Father, please accept my sincere condolences.  It certainly is not easy to lose someone in life that is so dear to you and it sounds as though you were very close. I know you know he will always be here in Spirit for you and the teachings that he gave to you will come at the oddest of times.  But they will come and the love will flow throughout your being.  Active Rain certainly is a wonderful community of caring individuals and it truly shows at times like these.  Again, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

May 30, 2012 07:51 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

I'm glad that you feel supported by your AR and Facebook communities.  That's what we're here for.  

May 30, 2012 08:21 AM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M
Connie - I'm sorry for what you're going through and so understand how friends can become family.
May 30, 2012 10:21 AM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566
I am very sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking to lose a loved one.
May 30, 2012 08:12 PM
Conrad Allen
Re/Max Professional Associates - Webster, MA
Webster, Ma, Realtor

Hi Connie.  It is wonderful how AR has responded to your loss.

May 30, 2012 08:24 PM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Mary - You are always so kind. I know exactly where he is because I was with him when he was baptized a few years ago. That in itself is a huge blessing.

Chris Ann - I'm always sad when others don't realize that they can be open with us and let us support them during their trials. That's what friends are for.

May 30, 2012 10:41 PM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Christine - Thank you. It's the circle of life and not an experience we can avoid, unfortunately.

Cheryl - It's heart breaking when anyone dies before their time.

Conrad - People underestimate the importance of good friends.

May 30, 2012 10:56 PM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Connie, sounds great. Maybe one day next week. I've got several pans on the fire right now.

May 31, 2012 04:56 AM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Tammie - this week has already gotten away from me anyway! Next week will be great.

May 31, 2012 08:49 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Connie- I remember your post.  You did an excellent job of putting into words the strength of the ActiveRain community.  I think that we look at your smiling face and that's what we see.  We can sometimes forget that the person behind the smile may be aching.  You know that you have a lot of support here. 

Jun 01, 2012 07:28 AM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Kathy - My friends have been wonderful here! They have no idea how many times their messages came when I was at a low point and how they cheered me.

Jun 01, 2012 08:19 AM
Suzanne McLaughlin
Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael) - Saint Michael, MN
Sabinske & Associates, Realtor

Connie, I have been thinking about you quite a bit lately.  I knew that you were going through a rough patch, and I am like you, rather shy.  I didn't want to burden you with notes.  But, someday, I just want to sit down with you, and join you in that cup of coffee or tea, and chat.  God bless you, dear.

Jun 01, 2012 12:02 PM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate
Suzanne - I would absolutely love that.
Jun 03, 2012 09:13 PM