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Don't Fall in Love with a House Until It's Yours

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty East Valley

'Don't Fall In Love HouseThe excitement of house hunting has worn off, you've been working with your buyers for months and after submitting 4 contracts on 4 different houses your buyer's offer is THE ONE the seller agrees to.  Sigh of relief and high fives all around?  Not just yet!

I always tell my buyers to never fall in love with a house because we all know what happens when you fall in love. There is a little dose of reality to content with that enters between that signed contract and ownership but instead of the in-laws it's the mortgage approval, home inspection and appraisal that could foil the deal.

After the proposal can you afford the marriage.  All of my buyers are prequalified which in a few cases surfaced bad credit issues and other concerns which puts house hunting on hold and credit repair into gear.  Once they are prequalified they dive right into preapproval.  We're in a seller's market and a preapproved can give them an edge in a multiple offer situation, it can also take away any risk that the deal could fall through because the buyers can't qualify for a mortgage or their financial situation could delay mortgage approval beyond what is acceptable to the seller.  My last buyers had yet to file their taxes for 2012 (or 2011, 2010....).  The word COMMITMENT starts entering the buyer's vocabulary - in all CAPS!

The engagment period.  This might just be the longest 10 days of their (and your) lives. This house is true bliss.  It has the workshop in the garage he wanted  and granite she wanted, she even loves laundry room.  What could go wrong?  Reality check time! It's the insepction period! Time to decide if this house is happy ever after or misery in the making. Time to get intimate with the plumbing and the wiring and the roof. My buyers walk through the house with the SPDS and make a list of items they want the inspector to be sure to check. If it's an as-is property they just do a walkthrough but still create that list.  They see flaws for the first time and some of the glow starts to wane. Next is THE DAY.  After the inspection the buyers go through the findings in exhausting detail with the inspector.  They are now wondering if they will ever love this house like they used to. Is it time to break it off now or can they make it work?  No matter how many homes a buyer has purchased the inspection period is definitely harrowing and an important time as a real estate agent to truly support your client's best interest.

The final blessing.  Mortgage - check!  Inspection - check!  Buyers, please don't start measuring for furniture just yet because the most difficult hurdle still looms - the appraisal. During this period I feel the most helpless as a buyer's agent. I touch base with the listing agent to see how they will support the appraisal, see if I can assist and then I hope and pray. If the home appraises low in most cases the buyers are forced to walk unless they can come up with additional funds or the seller is willing to reduce the price. Neither is common in our current market but low ball appraisals are. 

As a buyer's agent the best advise I was given was to never think about the commission until the deal is done.  Now is the time to ensure the buyers have the resources they need to make one of the most important decisions they will ever make.  It'll also be the final impression your buyers have of you as their real estate agent so make it a positive one. 

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Valerie Tourangeau
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Kathy Stoltman
Ventura, CA
RETIRED

This is good advice for buyers but with a few different words it has meaning for the sellers as well.  Just had a buyer back out of a sale and my seller was really disappointed even after she had been advised that it is not a done deal until the property is recorded in the buyers name(s)!

Jul 12, 2012 03:52 AM
Joanna Cohlan
Fresh Eyes For Your Home - Chappaqua, NY
Designing, Decorating & Staging Westchester Homes

Excellent advice Val and congratulations on the feature.  I am an interior decorator but I have had my own house hunts that have ended in disappointment because of a bad inspection.  You never know.

Jul 12, 2012 04:03 AM
Jean French-Turner
Southport Realty, Inc. - Southport, NC

Not until the closing is COMPLETE and the deed is recorded is the house sold. I have seen deals fall apart at the closing table.

Jul 12, 2012 04:19 AM
Diana Foster
BKG brokerage - Braselton, GA
Realtor- Helping you find the perfect home!!

Good advice for all involved. Thanks for posting :)

Jul 12, 2012 04:28 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Such a cute blog and so true.  It ain't done til it's done is about as good as I can say it.

Jul 12, 2012 05:09 AM
Robin Dampier REALTOR®
Coldwell Banker King - Hendersonville, NC
Hendersonville & Western NC Real Estate Source

Sound advice for all parties to heed in a Contract.  It can be a very rocky road to reach the finish line and the monies dispersed and the Title recorded.  Cool professional heads are needed to keep things on track.

Sue of Robin and Sue

Jul 12, 2012 05:45 AM
Adrian Willanger
206 909-7536 AdrianWillanger-broker.com - Seattle, WA
Profit from my two decades of experience

Val, yep! Lots of hurdles for buyers to get over before the deal is done, it can be an emotional roller-coaster. Good advise. 

Jul 12, 2012 05:48 AM
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

My motto:  A done deal is a closed deal.  And your post echos this nicely.  There's a lot that can happen after mutual acceptance. 

Jul 12, 2012 06:02 AM
David Burrows
Classic Realty - Fairfax, VA
No Pressure, Just Seriously Devoted to Real Estate

I really agree with you about NOT falling in love with the house too early. It has the potential of bringing heartbreak to the buyers.

Jul 12, 2012 08:40 AM
Valerie Tourangeau
Keller Williams Realty East Valley - Chandler, AZ
Your Healthy Home Realtor

Thanks everyone for all of the thoughtful comments and meaningrul advice.  I'm new to Active Rain so this has been a real honor and of course I'll definitely be blogging more often. 

Jul 12, 2012 09:28 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Valerie

A thoughtful post on falling in love...house wise. We have all seen it happen, with a deal falling apart, or buyers LOVING a home only to get beaten out in the offer stage. But it's hard to NOT feel that emotion, even before the title is recorded and it's yours.

Congratulations on getting featured!! We look forward to hearing more from you!!

Jeff

Jul 12, 2012 11:09 AM
Eric Michael
Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI - Livonia, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519

Valerie, love is for suckers. I agree totally with your post. You don't get to kiss the bride until the closing is finally over.

Jul 12, 2012 11:23 AM
Cari Dandy
Russ Lyon Sotheby’s International Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Homes for Sale - Scottsdale AZ

Valerie, I love your analogy - perfect! It's hard for not only the buyers, but the buyer's agent, listing agent and sellers to not be married to the deal from the get-go! But experience helps!

Jul 12, 2012 11:39 AM
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa

This is a great analogy and way to look at the process. Getting the offer accepted is just the first step of many to getting the keys in your buyers hot little hands.  Congrats on the feature!

Jul 12, 2012 11:55 AM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

It may be best not to fall in love at all if you want to make the best business decision.

Jul 12, 2012 01:17 PM
Charles Stallions Property Manager
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pace, FL
Pensacola, Pace & Gulf Breeze Property Management

Now this is a post that explains it well. It really hurts if the deal goes south doesn't.

Jul 12, 2012 01:20 PM
Charlie Dresen
The Group, Inc - Steamboat Springs, CO
Steamboat Springs, CO e-Pro

Great post!  It was an excellent reminder of how important it is to live in the present.

Jul 12, 2012 01:45 PM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Wow, I think this is a really hard thing to do. I usually hold my breath until we get past the contingencies. But for most people, they are already moving in when they get the house under contract.

Jul 12, 2012 02:43 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Valerie - I always tell my clients they can't fall in love until I hand them the keys though sometimes it's hard.

Jul 12, 2012 03:20 PM
Tiffany Sniezek
RE/MAX The Woodlands & Spring, TX 713-594-9639 direct, - The Woodlands, TX
Tiffany Sniezek 713-594-9639 RE/MAX Woodlands TX
So true! Have definitely had to explain this one before.
Jul 13, 2012 12:25 PM