Whatever happened to self-discipline? Have you ever said something you regretted and said to yourself, “You did not say that, did you?” I have. The cross words, the gossip, the colorful language, the accusations and the painful words have crossed the abyss from my mind to my tongue and out my mouth. This has caused me regret.
I have also reflected at the end of a day and recognized some of my best decisions were to refrain from speaking. The moments I held my tongue, refrained from criticizing another and simply listened or walked away have been among my wisest decisions.
I must admit I do not respect politicians who call reporters, “Idiot.” There is a much better way to challenge another one without calling him or her a name. Even when you are shown disrespect, you need not respond with actions of disrespect. Our society needs more folks who show respect in the face of disrespect. Too many cheer on and welcome crass behavior. This does not make sense to me.
Whether facing conflict, expressing an opinion or stating beliefs, practice self-discipline. A practice which has helped me immensely is to state my viewpoints with “I” statements, not “you” statements. I believe. I feel. I expect. This requires me to accept responsibility for myself, my beliefs, my feelings and my opinions.
In real estate, it is too easy to accuse the other agent of this or that without adequate knowledge or even facts. Next time, “hold your tongue and ask some questions of clarification.” Show respect and you will hold your head high with dignity.
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