....and listen to your gut!
In times of chaos, it is natural to be indecisive.
Should I go this way or should I do that. Do I stay in the business or do I cut my losses and go back to a previous industry? One day you tell your spouse you are going back to school and then the phone rings and its a buyer...nope, I am staying in real estate.
Until the next day when the buyer calls back and says they have changed their minds. All of this back and forth can lead you to a "schizophrenic" state of mind; "Should I let go of this and go for that?". To make it more interesting, once we have made a decision, we are constantly second guessing it. Our ego and limiting self-beliefs crawl in there to add their 2 cents. Pretty soon it feels like you are right back where you started.
Do not second guess yourself. Learning to listen to our "gut" isn't a quality that is celebrated often in our society, but sometimes it is all you have. When you are indecisive, it feels like you are on a boat with no oars. You are being pushed around by life and you are waiting for an external signal to indicate your path. The problem with that logic is, it assumes that the "universe" understands what you need better than you do. This is simply not the case.
The fear comes not from making the decision itself...but, from the fear of being "judged" for the decision. Fear of judgement is one of the strongest feelings we can have. It brings up all kinds of goodies like; shame, guilt, remorse, regret, low self esteem, ect. You know...the FUN stuff! However, taking time to consult your own inner guide, is well worth the effort.
When you are faced with your business this week, do not seek the council of others and instead, spend sometime getting in touch with your "gut" and see what he or she has to say in the matter. Forget the "pro's and con's" and "making the right decision", any decision is the right decision once you are comfortable with why you are making it.
Two book suggestions on the subject of fear:
"Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway" by Susan Jeffers
"The Gift of Fear" by Gavin De Becker
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