Is Perfectionism Hindering Your Success?

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Is Perfectionism Hindering Your Success?

The definition of perfectionism is “a personal standard, attitude, or philosophy that demands perfection and rejects anything less….”.  That definition sounds like a personality characteristic that could help every sales professional succeed.  But what if being a perfectionist could actual hinder your success?  The key to success or failure is actually if perfectionism RULES -  or RUINS -  – your business.  

There are two types of perfectionists.  The first type is adaptive or positive perfection.  This type of perfectionism will typically lead to success and achievement.  These people have very high standards and goals and strive to reach those standards.  They are competitive and extremely focused on achieving success. 

However, these individuals are not controlled by this perfectionism.  They consider it important to do things right, but they are not overly concerned over making mistakes.  They don’t have doubts about every action they take nor do they fear criticism from others if they do make a wrong choice.  


And guess what?  That’s a good thing!


WAIT!  Don’t we hear everyone complaining that no one really cares about doing a great job?  These perfectionists actually DO care about making right choices.  But if they do take a wrong turn in their business, it is not the end of the world.  They make the correction and go on. 

Thomas Edison said Negative results are just what I want. They’re just as valuable to me as positive results. I can never find the thing that does the job best until I find the ones that don’t.”

Enter the second type of perfectionism and the one that could hinder someone from becoming a success in their business.  That is called “maladaptive” perfectionism.  These perfectionists also consider it extremely important to do things the right way.  The difference?  They are often times paralyzed with fear that they will make a mistake or wrong choice, and that wrong decision will lead to catastrophe. 

A maladaptive perfectionist stays in an endless cycle of regret and blame that makes it difficult, and many times impossible, to move on from their mistakes.  They believe that a single error in judgment could lose them the respect of friends and colleagues.  The result can be they do nothing. 

It is interesting to note that studies of U.S. Olympic Champions have shown that the vast majority of these highly competitive athletes are positive perfectionist.  

Are you a perfectionist?  If so – which one are you?

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Melissa Zavala
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I have a little bit of the maladaptive type, but apparently it is not too strong. I scored like 99 deciseive and 86 cautious on the DISC test, which would indicate that I am cautious and decisive at the same time. Have you seen the test? You can do it for free on Tony Robbins' site.

Jul 23, 2012 11:23 PM #1
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Gay E. Rosen
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Hi Louise great  positive reinforcement on a hot summer's day! I have a son who is a two time Olympian and I am always amazed at how he perseveres and has such positive strength throughout...

Jul 23, 2012 11:24 PM #2
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Sheila Anderson
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Good morning Louise. I liked your title so here I am. My view is if you strive for perfection you will be okay. If you do the very best you can.....you're a winner.

Jul 23, 2012 11:26 PM #3
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Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
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Louise...I agree with much of what you say here. Everything will not go right all the time...we need to persevere!

Jul 23, 2012 11:42 PM #4
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Tamara Elliott-Deering
Central Metro Realty - Austin, TX

Louise,

Thanks for the post.  I'm definitely of the maladaptive bent, but I'm trying to just do something and build on it.

Tamara

Jul 24, 2012 12:11 AM #5
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Louise Thaxton NMLS 69996
Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp Louisiana NMLS#2289 Equal Housing Lender - Leesville, LA
Military Mtg Specialist - 866-960-9115 VA FHA USDA

Melissa - thanks for your comments and yes, I have taken the DISC analysis - I am a high D and I! 

 

Jul 24, 2012 01:38 AM #6
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Gay - how AWESOME to have an Olympian son!  And I'm sure as a parent, YOU had to persevere! Thanks for your comment!

Jul 24, 2012 01:38 AM #7
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Louise Thaxton NMLS 69996
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Sheila - you nailed it!  Great way to put it.  Thanks for your comment.

Jeffrey - Perseverence IS the key!

Tamara - most of us do have some "maladaptive" in us!  Trying to do the PERFECT job - but I am the same - trying to get better!

 

Jul 24, 2012 01:40 AM #8
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
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Louise,

Excellent points, and we love when everything is perfect, because luxury is in the details.  Have a great week.  A

Jul 24, 2012 10:21 AM #9
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Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® - Silver Spring, MD
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Hi Louise, I have to admit I'm probably a bit of both. I am most def. a perfectionist which comes in handy when completing paperwork etc. I double check and triple check and rarely miss a thing. On the other hand.. it's a lot of time that is involved and sometimes lost.

Jul 24, 2012 11:39 AM #10
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A - I would expect nothing less than PERFECT from you!

Andrea - I am a little of both also!

Thank you both for your comments!

 

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