How to Not Get a Listing - Or do I want to Know

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Anson Properties LLC

This story takes the cake and I am still trying to get my mouth closed after hearing it. 

About 6 months ago I hired a woman, I will refer to as Mary, for a marketing project I was working on.  It was simple in nature and did not require any more skills than the use of a camera.  This was nothing fancy so there was not a need to hire a professional, I needed pictures in the raw.

After 3 hours my temp hire Mary came back with only 8 photos which left me scratching me head.  I gave directions and specific instructions and in 3 hours time I expected about 30 - 40 pictures to work with. Frustrated, I brought the woman into my office thanked her, paid her for her time and told her I was moving in a different direction.

Fast forward to July 2012, I recieve a call from no other than Mary.  She called to let me know her neighbor needed help with short selling his home, gave me his contact information and asked for me to call him.  I was floored that she 1, remembered me and 2 that she knew that I specialized in short sales. 

As with most of my clients, I establish a fairly good rapport and for whatever reason end up with TMI!  Wow do I get earfuls of what I do not want to know ever!  But I always smile or show compassion, lend my ear and let it be. Not this time boys and girls this story is just too darn funny.

I meet with the referral, list the home, walk him through the short sale process, put the home under contract in the first few days and stay in constant communication to ease the worry, frustration and all other emotions the seller goes through during this time.

I scheduled a time to stop over to pick up the remaining documents needed for the short sale and as I am sitting at the kitchen table I asked the seller if he had interviewed any other agents and why he chose to work with me other than being a referral. I was expecting a pretty typical response but I had the quite a mouth dropping oh wow moment.

See the seller is going through a divorce and in doing so was putting his life back together, finding networking groups to join and creating a social life.  He joined one particular professional networking group that meets at various times and has a website where you can post a profile.  In doing so he was contacted by another member who asked him if he wanted to go out sometime and meet at a social. Not thinking twice he agreed to meet the woman and was happy to forget what he was going through for a while and just get out of the home. She was nice enough, he thought, easy to talk to. The discussion veered towards short sales and divorce (both were going through divorce at the time).

Well the woman turns out to be his so called neighbor Mary, the same Mary that worked 1 day for me.  Mary does not live in his neighborhood, she does not know him at all as she had told me.  In fact, Mary, after only meeting the seller 1 time calls him at 9pm one evening and tells him she is only 2 minutes away from his home and would like to come over.  She is very adamant and says it is extremely important.  The seller declines and Mary states "well I am just right outside so let me in, I will not stay long".  What did not dawn on the seller at that moment is that he never gave her his address....

At this point I am slightly alarmed and waiting for something positive to come from it.  Upon letting her in, she becomes very aggressive with him in a manner most women would dial 911.  He decides to leave the room to process the strange behavior and find a way to get her out while letting Mary preserve her dignity.  He walks back into the room to a naked Mary and with all the kindness he could muster he told her she must leave NOW.

Let's talk about TMI and awkward.  I had no idea what to say, but one dreadful question came to mind...remember, she gave me his contact information and ask I call him.  So Mr. Seller, did this happen before or after I contacted you?  He said After and I then asked, why in the world would you take my call or even want to work with me.  Here is my only saving grace..... "Well I was not going to contact you back.  I figured any person that was friends with Mary may be unstable like Mary.  However, I decided I should look you up and find out more about you.  I saw your short sale blog, Gainesville Short Sale Agents, and read your articles and watched your videos and figured there was no way you were crazy like Mary and you sounded as if you knew what you were doing and I needed help."

I then shared with Mr. Seller how I came to briefly know Mary and had zero ongoing communication with her whatsoever and would rather not speak with her again.

Well let me just say guys, this was the weirdest way to get a referral.  Without my Blog, I may have been an indirect bad taste in Mr. Seller's mouth.

I appreciate the refferral but I would rather Mary not refer me to anyone.  I just hope she does not scare anymore potential clients I or others may have...It is a small world you know.

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Debbie Gartner
The Flooring Girl - White Plains, NY
The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers

Oh my goodness, what a bizarre story and set of coincidences.  It's funny how life brings people together sometimes.

Aug 09, 2012 09:15 PM #24
Tatyana Makarov
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - South Windsor, CT
Your Greater Hartford Area Realtor

Wow, Stephanie,

what a story to tell.. What can I say, our business is a fun business. You always meet all kinds of people.

Aug 09, 2012 10:11 PM #25
Athina Boukas
Virginia Capital Realty - Richmond, VA
Certified Residential Specialist (CRS)

Oh my. This is a people business for sure! All kinds. 


Aug 09, 2012 10:38 PM #26
Kevin Vitali
EXIT Realty- Massachusetts Short Sales & Residential Sales - Tewksbury, MA
Helping Massachusetts Home Buyers and Home Sellers

Very strange story....

Aug 09, 2012 11:16 PM #27
Fernando Herboso - Broker for Maxus Realty Group
Maxus Realty Group - Broker 301-246-0001 - Gaithersburg, MD
301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA

Be prepared for Mary to show up back in your life. . .specially right after you complete the short sale. .

Aug 09, 2012 11:17 PM #28
Kim Boekholder Utah Real Estate
Results Real Estate 801.580.5624 - Draper, UT
Broker, Results Real Estate
You just never know what's going to happen from day to day in our business. Congrats on the listing and thank goodness he researched you and found out the truth instead of assuming you were like Mary. Yikes
Aug 09, 2012 11:26 PM #29
Stephanie Anson
Anson Properties LLC - Gainesville, FL

Sonja, Mary actually was a referral from a young lady who works for a company that refers me business.  She told me she was a single mother recently divorced that needed a little side work while she was working for permanent employment.  I have always had great referrals from this company.  Who would of thunk it!

Jeff yes the names have been protected.  I surely do not want her popping back up!

Story Strange - Yes, I felt like I was in the twilight zone and why did the seller have to be so brutually honest with me about it.  I could have gone without the knowledge but then again I may have called Mary or sent her a thank you card.  No communication is the best method and I really hope I do not hear from her again. 

Katerina and Petra - thank you...I learned it from the best out there:)

Aug 09, 2012 11:38 PM #30
Ron Fowler
Fowler Copywriting - Vancouver, WA

Yikes, I hope your client doesn't leave a forwarding address so that Mary can find him again. Sounds like she needs some serious help!

Aug 10, 2012 01:08 AM #31
Kalene Bagwell
Realty Executives Of Kansas City - Blue Springs, MO
Realtor - Selling Blue Springs - Kansas City Metro

Wow! What a drama! Your AR Blog saved the day!

Aug 10, 2012 01:11 AM #32
Bryan Robertson
Intero Real Estate - Los Altos, CA
Broker, Author, Speaker

That is one really crazy story!  At least the guy took the time to do some research and found you were good to work with.

Aug 10, 2012 01:36 AM #33
Kimberly Tapscott
Keller Williams Prestige Properties - Stamford, CT
Giving you the service you deserve!
Stephanie- really weird. But it's the wildest referral stories I've ever heard. Glad you got the listing inspire of your connection with Mary.
Aug 10, 2012 02:37 AM #34
Gary Frimann
Eagle Ridge Realty / Signature Homes & Estates - Gilroy, CA
REALTOR and Broker

Stephanie, that is a great story!!  You had me on the edge of  my seat.  Another great recommendations for blogging as it turns out.

Aug 10, 2012 02:46 AM #35
Bob Willis
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Orange, CA
Orange County & L.A. County Real Estate Agent

What a bizarre story!  Just when you think you've heard it all, you hear something new like this one.  There's something about Mary, for sure.

Aug 10, 2012 04:08 AM #36
Tamra Lee Ulmer
Arizona Resource Realty - Payson, AZ
FORCE~NRBA ~ Over 1000 REO Assets SOLD!

Stephanie, we get The good The Bad and The Wierd in this business but that story sure tops them all so far. How creepy... But congrats for your Listing!

Aug 10, 2012 06:53 AM #37
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA


good thing your client was persistent and looked you up.  That is such a strange story.  I think Mary needs help.

Aug 10, 2012 06:58 AM #38
Donna Harris
Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - - Austin, TX
Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator

That is hilarious... sad, but hilarious! I feel for the guy. He's going through a tough situation, and Mary doesn't make it any easier. Wow!

Aug 10, 2012 07:35 AM #39
John J. Woods
Aardvark Appraisals - Palm Desert, CA


   Great story!  I hope Mary doesn't read these comments...


Aug 10, 2012 07:43 AM #40
Tim Bradley
Contour Investment Properties - Jackson Hole, WY
Commercial Real Estate Expert in Jackson Hole, WY

Yikes! Can't say as I've ever encountered THAT situation before.

Aug 10, 2012 09:02 AM #41
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Stephanie~ great post! I think you're right,  we're always one blog away from a new customer! Keep blogging and have new customers!

Aug 10, 2012 10:41 AM #42
Adrian Willanger
206 909-7536 - Seattle, WA
Profit from my two decades of experience

Stephanie, that's a funny story in a very weird way. Keep blogging!

Aug 11, 2012 03:17 AM #43
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