Remember A Leopard Can't Change Its Spots

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Leopard In TreeSome people drift through life a bit too naive at phases of their lives. With real estate negotiations and also with your relationships with people,

Remember A Leopard Can't Change Its Spots.

This old maxim means a leopard is a leopard not a zebra or a giraffe. We all are born with certain predispositions and are molded by our family and environment from birth to age ten, and it is solidified much more as a process from age ten to age 20. THEN we have our spots. It is who we are, SLOWLY if at all changing that CORE part of us from early adulthood on.

A "generally" mean and nasty revolting person stays mean. Irresponsible can be some folk's spots.

A nice, gentle, and high integrity person generally stays that way. I use the adverb generally because we all have the power on a given day to change OURSELVES. But like an alcoholic or junkie at age 20, only about 5% ever can go without relapse. Why? It is who we are at our core with our biological, emotional, mental state.

You see women in relationships trying to RESCUE or CHANGE men. Preposterous looking back on it with them failing to do so. In negotiation, you see someone giving a liar the benefit of the doubt countless times. Why? Their own spots are Mr. Nice Guy and they are stubborn to learn every one is not like them.

I do remember a fire and brim stone evangelical Billy Graham in his younger days coming off as more righteous than everyone else. Into his 90's now, Billy Graham has MELLOWED with the energy level, and you might say he has different spots. But his core spots of being spiritual are still there. A good person will shine forth, while a depraved mind will spread trouble every where they go. You hear it in their speech, you can clearly see it in their behavior.

Be QUICK on the uptake in assessing other people's spots. And for heaven sakes accept them as they are if you choose to keep them in your life, and NEVER think you have a chance of CHANGING THEM.


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Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

good post as always Gary. I recommended it for a feature post. I think this is a subject that should be talked about more.

Aug 10, 2012 02:46 AM #1
John McCormack
Albuquerque Homes Realty * - Albuquerque, NM, Albuquerque Homes Realty

Excellent post again my friend.  I agree with Jeff and now count this post as twice SUGGESTED.

Aug 10, 2012 02:51 AM #2
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

So I guess what you are saying is once a WILY always a WILY Smiling

Aug 10, 2012 03:44 AM #3
Paul S. Henderson, REALTORĀ®,CRS,
RE/MAX Professionals. - Tacoma, WA
Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority!

Spot on Gary! You see this a lot at high school reunions. The nice people of your past still are the same today and vice versa...

Aug 10, 2012 04:19 AM #4
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Sitterle Homes - Richmond, TX
Sitterle Homes


        I absolutley love this blog. I too have seen women try to change men you can't. You can bring the best out in someone and vice-versa but the core is you! Thanks for stopping by my blog I appreciate the support!

Aug 10, 2012 04:26 AM #5
Barb Szabo, CRS
RE/MAX Trinity Brecksville Ohio - Cleveland, OH
E-pro Realtor, Cleveland Ohio Homes

So true in all walks of life...marriage, family, work etc... words to live by!

Aug 10, 2012 04:45 AM #6
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

It is very hard to get womeone to change, and most of the time not worth the effort.  Take people at face value and work with it.

Aug 10, 2012 07:49 AM #7
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Gary, I was having this conversation with someone recently. A person from my past has returned to my life and though they are acting differently I'm afraid to trust them too much. I'm hoping for the best.

Aug 10, 2012 07:56 AM #8
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

I've missed some of your recent posts but this was a good one. It's so true that you have more or less the same personality your entire life.

Aug 16, 2012 12:58 PM #9
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