Sometimes You Are the Windshield - Sometimes You Are the Bug

Real Estate Agent with GreatWest Realty DRE# 00827565

This has been a difficult week.  Had I not been able to find some irony and humor in it, it likely would have been far worse.

My cat friend, Sybil died on Thursday afternoon.  Sybil was 15, and shared home with me, and my dog Kodi, for most of her years.  I have written about these two before.  Sybil loved Kodi, but Kodi only tolerated Sybil. 

Since Sybil has left us, Kodi has been quite depressed.  On the first day, and part of yesterday, he was found much of the time, laying on the little grave created for her.  I stayed close to home Thursday and Friday because of it.  But he seems a little better today. 

This morning it was time to get out of the house for a while and run a couple errands – a trip to the local Farmer’s Market, and a trip to PetSmart for a bag of Kodi’s dog food. 


While I dressed, there were a couple phone calls.   It’s been hot here in Sacramento, so while talking to my cousin in Kansas, I reached for a lightweight blouse.  Over the head it went.  Again, the phone rings.  While pulling on my socks, I giggled as I listened to a neighbor tell of a humorous adventure with another neighbor.  I brushed my hair, and put on lipstick, feeling so proud I was able to multi-task, while gossiping on the phone. 

With the last call ended, it was time to jump in the car and take off.   I turned the car CD player to Dire Strait’s “The Bug.”  I love the lyrics, which go:


Well it's a strange old game - you learn it slow
One step forward and it's back to go
You're standing on the throttle
You're standing on the breaks
In the groove 'til you make a mistake

Sometime you're the windshield
Sometime you're the bug
Sometime it all comes together baby
Sometime you're a fool in love
Sometime you're the louisville slugger
Sometime you're the ball
Sometime it all come together baby
Sometime you're gonna lose it all. . .


I’m half way to the Farmer’s Market when I look down and notice I forgot to put on my jeans.  My feet had socks, but no shoes.  I’m sitting at a major intersection along Sunrise Boulevard without my pants on!

I had only once done something similar to this.  But it had been years, and I thought the experience had been significantly traumatic enough, that I would never repeat it.  Alas, I was wrong!

I consider myself better than average when it comes to multi-tasking.  I’m not as proficient as Elizabeth Weintraub however.  I’ve actually watched that woman run an escrow on her cell phone, while simultaneously managing a pair of chopsticks and sushi with her other hand, during lunch.  I might be able to do it with a fork rather than chopsticks.  But chopsticks – NO WAY!

Life is all about the lessons!  You keep getting the same ole lesson, until you get the lesson, and then you get another lesson!  It’s simply how the universe works.  My lesson today, was about navigating times of stress.  Trying times require us to slow down, breathe deeply, and regroup!  If we don’t master the lesson, then we can easily find ourselves at a busy intersection - without pants on!



(Sybil and Kodi Bear sharing space during a storm) 


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Michael Jacobs
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393

Hello Myrl --- first, I am so sorry for the loss of Sybil but I have to admit the rest of your story was so funny -- I didn't see that coming.  While there may be tough times going forward, you will always have some wonderful memories as your photo reveals.   Best wishes.   

Aug 19, 2012 01:59 AM #19
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Debbie - I think I use humor as a strong coping measure. . .I need a sign that hangs in the garage, "No Mas Pantalones"

Toni - When I see how Kodi has reacted to our loss, I keep remembering all the times that Sybil would rub up against him, and kiss him.  He was absolutely aloof to her all those years.  And now he's depressed.  What is wrong with males that they often don't know what they have until it is gone. . .LOL

Now Roy - I want you to know there are folks who have done things like that, who are not seniors.  However, in their case drugs and alcohol may have been involved:-)

Elizabeth - I'm gonna get through this ok.  Afterall, I'm a tough, independent career woman. . .whah, whah, whah, whah :-(

Michael - If you didn't see it coming, you can blame it on my kamikaze technique of writing.  I apologize for that.  I hope you are having a good weekend:-)

Aug 19, 2012 03:34 AM #20
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Hey, Myrl, I included this post in Last Week's Favorites.  Please check it out, and have a great week!

Aug 19, 2012 03:50 AM #21
Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor

So sorry for your loss........pets are important in our lives and I have lost some dear pet friends in my lifetime.

Aug 19, 2012 05:01 AM #22
Cindy Jones
Integrity Real Estate Group - Woodbridge, VA
Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News

Myrl sorry to hear you lost your lovely kitty Sybil.  Fortunately the fashion police or the regular police weren't out doing routine checks for pantless shoeless motorists.  You are right sometimes we do have to slow down for a few minutes to see if we have it all together. 

Aug 19, 2012 05:10 AM #23
Jay Markanich
Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC - Bristow, VA
Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia

We had to put down our little 17.5 year Jack Russell.  She was wonderful.  I understand how you feel.

Good thing you weren't pulled over on the way home to put on your pants!

Aug 19, 2012 05:25 AM #24
Ron Marshall
Marshall Enterprises - Saint Michael, MN
Birdhouse Builder Extraordinaire

My greatest sympathies on the loss of Sybil.  And, it is usually the other way around, the dog loves the cat, but the cat only tolerates the dog.  At any rate, I am glad that Kodi is recovering.  Our Felknapp still isn''t quite over the loss of his pal, Ranger, in June.  But then, neither am I.

Aug 19, 2012 07:21 AM #25
Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX

So sorry about your kitty. We lost our Kitty Buddy two years ago and still miss him.  On the other hand, I feel so much better about putting my cell phone in the fridge and trying to put the frozen hamburger in my purse.



Aug 19, 2012 07:27 AM #26
Hella Mitschke Rothwell
(831) 626-4000 - Honolulu, HI
Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker

Myrl: We are often so concerned about the feelings of those around us when there is a loss such as yours, that we forget our own. Glad you had a sense of humour about your pantless plight. Driving home and hoping you wouldn't get stopped must have been something.

Aug 19, 2012 07:38 AM #27
Mel Ahrens, MBA, Kelly Right Real Estate
Kelly Right Real Estate - Hood River, OR
Customized Choices for your Real Estate Needs

So sorry to hear of your loss... you are both so lucky to have had each other! Also love the analogy of being the bug or the windshield. I think I'm the bug way too often!


Aug 19, 2012 09:07 AM #28
Jennifer Fivelsdal
JFIVE Home Realty LLC | 845-758-6842|162 Deer Run Rd Red Hook NY 12571 - Rhinebeck, NY
Mid Hudson Valley real estate connection

Myrl  I am so sorry you lost Sybil and I hope Kodi will get out of his depressed state.  Did you have a good laugh about the pants situation?  Too much mult-tasking can get us into a pickle :)

Have a gret week.

Aug 19, 2012 10:29 AM #29
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Patricia - Thank you for the inclusion into your "Last Week's Favorites" list.  It is greatly appreciated!

Barbara-Jo - Thank you!  I hope you have had a great week, and are looking forward to a good week!

Cindy - Just a few days before, near that spot in the road, the police had set up a little roadblock.  It could have easily turned ugly had I not had a skirt on. . .Visions of psychiatric evaluation come to mind:-)

Jay - I'm not known for especially good driving habits.  But, I didn't drive on any sidewalks or break any speeding limits returning home:-)

Ron - I had always thought it so odd, that it was the cat which was more affectionate toward the dog.  Especially since the dog has always been so very affectionate toward most everyone.

Aug 19, 2012 12:19 PM #30
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Hello Mryl. I am so touched by this post and so very very sorry for your loss. On so many levels this story hits home. I hope you give yourself the time and grace you need. Perhaps in time you will honor Sybil by rescuing another who wouldn't survive otherwise. Pants and shoes are over rated.

Aug 19, 2012 12:20 PM #31
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Jeanne - I am convinced that refrigerators are Hell holes.  The ole cellphone or car keys in the refrigerator trick is one of those things that seems to happen occassionally.  Now why would any perfectly good refrigerator really want our cellphone or keys, that's the question. . .LOL

Hella - You are right.  Those first two days I was so worried about Kodi, that I didn't have a lot of opportunity to think of myself.  However, I had been expecting Sybil's passing for a few days, and had done a lot of grieving before it actually happened.

Gretchen - I'm going to keep a scoreboard in the future.  I really would like to tally how many times I get to be the windshield rather than the bug. . .I want my fair share:-)

Jennifer - After getting back home, I spent a few minutes just shaking my head in disbelief.  I shed a few tears. . .Some for Kodi, and some for my memory lapse:-)

Aug 19, 2012 12:28 PM #32
Rose King
UTR, Texas Realtors - Friendswood, TX
Friendswood / Pearland / Houston Bay Area

Hi Myrl! I'm so sorry to hear about your precious kitty. It always amazes me how animals grieve after the loss of one of their animal friends.

Aug 19, 2012 01:51 PM #33
NoCo Home Team
C3 Real Estate Solutions - Fort Collins, CO
Sell Smart, Buy Wise & Live Well in Nrthn Colorado

I feel like I've just endured a mood swing, Myrl.  I went from feeling so sad for you to literally "LOL". I sure hope that you made it back inside without any neighbors around.  I'm sending you some warm thoughts for both you and Kodi as you start to heal around the hole that Sybil's passing has made.  I hope you have a much better week this week.


Aug 19, 2012 02:08 PM #34
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224
Myrl- I'm sorry about the loss of your cat Sybil. I know how hard it can be too loose a pet. Your pants story is hysterical...I did arrive at the mall once with 2 different shoes.
Aug 19, 2012 02:21 PM #35
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Rose - This is the first time I had an pet that became as depressed.  It was amazing and heartbreaking to watch!  Kodi seems better today!

Dee - I am very grateful for automatic garage door openers.  I left and returned to my house without being outside my car:-)

Kathy - These wardrobe malfunctions can happen. . .LOL

Aug 19, 2012 02:33 PM #36
Steve and Jan Bachman
RE/MAX Gateway, Reston, Herndon, Ashburn, Sterling, Fairfax - Herndon, VA
Realtors - Northern Virginia


fairfax county real estate agents Jan and Steve BachmanAhhh. This is a bittersweet post Myrl.

All of us can relate to the emotions around your loss of Sybil.

The sweetness comes from a story that will live forever not only in your circles but with everyone else who has read it. I know I just added it to my repertoire.

My wife made it as far as the front porch with pants but just a bra once...but I stopped her before more damage was done.

Aug 20, 2012 11:19 PM #37
Sandy Acevedo
951-290-8588 - Chino Hills, CA
RE/MAX Masters, Inland Empire Homes for Sale

Hi Myrl, so sad about your cat friend.... On the other hand your pants story was hilarious!! Thanks to you and Sybil for the laugh.

Aug 21, 2012 04:36 AM #38
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