Pretty as a picture, but I decided not to take it

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 GREC# 169695

Last night my Donald and I went out to dinner.  We went to Down South Seafood, cause everything's better down south.  Dinner was fantastic and we enjoyed the company of a couple dozen other folks we were dining with.  But, I'll write that post another time.  This post is about the sky and turning off the phone and computer for the evening.

The sun had just set when we left the restaurant.  All around was beautiful hues of pink, red and orange.  It was so magnificent.  My left brain was screaming to get the camera out of the glove box and snap that photo for some future ad or blog.  I resisted.  I drove home watching the beauty, soaking it all in.  Donald and I didn't even talk, but I did reach over and we did hold hands.  And without ever talking about it I know we will both remember that sky, that quiet ride home.  Sometimes you don't need a photo to remember.  And sometimes the beauty is not meant to be shared.

I recently noticed that my Donald had "cut back" on the time he spent on line when I was home.  We haven't really "decided" or discussed it, but I have followed his lead and cut back on my at home on line time too.  I mean will the world end if a new listing doesn't make it to the web site until day 2?  Or if a client emails me at 9 p.m. to see homes will they be angry if I don't email them back until morning?  I sort of doubt it. 

Honestly I really think that if I spend more time being a better friend and wife to Donald in the evenings that I will just somehow be happier, more balanced and in the end more focused at work too. And sorry there's no photo here.  Just close your eyes for a minute and recall the most beautiful sunset you've ever seen.  Do you remember what you were doing?  Who you were with?  Tell me about it.


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Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

Oh I could tell you....many beautiful ones at my cabin, wrapped in my husband's arms. I'm so glad to read this and to realize that people out there appreciate what they have....I did also. :)

Aug 25, 2012 04:14 AM #77
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

No one will ever wish they had seen fewer sunrises or sunsets...or taken less time to smell the roses...

Aug 25, 2012 04:53 AM #78
Bill Gillhespy
16 Sunview Blvd - Fort Myers Beach, FL
Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos

AH, Tammy,   so well said.  Here on Fort Myers Beach we have so many amazing sunsets and i can't tell you the last time my wife and I walked the beach and soaked up the last rays of sunshine !

Aug 25, 2012 05:04 AM #79
Jennifer Prestwich
Henderson, Thornton, Broomfield and Westminster - Henderson, CO
Madison & Co Properties

This is so lovely, Tammy.  Thank you for "sharing" the decision you and your husband have made to live in the moment when you are together!  It is way too easy to get caught up in what's online... the true key is to get caught up it who is right next to you!

Aug 25, 2012 05:05 AM #80
Caroline Fitzgerald -
Real Estate Client Prep - Richmond, VA

Thanks for sharing your lovely evening with us, and what a great reminder that we all ought to check in with ourselves about our online time...and check in with those in our actual presence more often!


Aug 25, 2012 05:11 AM #81
Amada Slade
Island Realty of the Lowcountry - Beaufort, SC

Tammy, I love it.  Beautifully expressed I love the way you say "my Donald"  It seems as if you both now realize that time together is priceless. And yes, the rest can wait.  It will be there tomorrow.  Thank you for sharing and making all of us stop to think for a moment that the technology treadmill can wait.  Going to play hooky tonight and enjoy a romantic dinner with my man.

Aug 25, 2012 05:36 AM #82
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Karen- I am glad you have those happy memories

Sally and David- I bet you are right

Bill- from what I hear about your weather today might not be the right day, but make it soon.

Jennifer- It was a wonderful moment and I'd love for all of us to have as many of those as we can

Caroline- I totally agree

Amada- good for you.  enjoy.

Aug 25, 2012 06:45 AM #83
Tom Esposito
Alpharetta Home Solutions - Alpharetta, GA

Great post!  Every now and then we all need to stop and smell the roses.  Thanks for reminding me.

Aug 25, 2012 10:37 AM #84
Sharon & Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette, IN - Lafayette, IN
West Lafayette homes for sale

Tammy, thanks for the reminder that it takes WORK and TIME TOGETHER to make a relationship stronger!  I think its time to log off Active Rain and join my wife!!!!   ^_~

Aug 25, 2012 01:00 PM #85
Karen Baker
Sunset Beach and Beyond Realty - Sunset Beach, NC
Professional Help with Rapid Responses...
Tammy ~ never a day goes by without grasping a few moments with Frank to stop and enjoy the beautiful sunsets where we live in Sunset Beach ..... Some nights are truly amazing with the vibrant pinks and purples splashed all over the sky. I thank God every day for the time I have with my Frank ...... Enjoy all with your Donald!
Aug 25, 2012 10:33 PM #86
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Tom- it took efort to turn my blogging brain off

Bruce- you'll be glad you did.

Karen- many days my Donald isn't even home by sunset from wrok, but we will enjoy the ones we can.

Aug 25, 2012 10:40 PM #87
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Beautiful post, Tammy. I'm glad you and your Donald are finding that important balance in life.

Aug 26, 2012 12:44 AM #88
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Tammy- I've many beautiful sunsets to picture in my mind, and I think it was a choice well made.

Aug 26, 2012 04:46 PM #89
Regina P. Brown
MBA Broker Consultants - Carlsbad, CA
M.B.A., Broker, Instructor

Tammy, your description of that sunset already made me think of what it really was.  That was a beautiful site indeed, especially if we are with our family.  That's what I called priceless moment!

Aug 26, 2012 06:10 PM #90
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I think you have good priorities.  I think Donald is a lucky man.

Aug 27, 2012 01:51 AM #91
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Lottie- me too, sometimes it's easy to forget and people need to re-evaluate.  I did

Christine- I have a couple from southern California too. 

Regina- And the memory we have is better than a photo.

Gene- I'm a lucky girl.

Aug 27, 2012 02:43 AM #92
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%
RE/MAX Gold - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

Several years ago my husband suggested I turn off my computer at dinner time and leave it off for the night. You'd a thunk he'd asked me to whack at my hair with an axe or starve the cat -- it was unthinkable. But I tried it. Shut it down at 7 PM. Turned off my cellphone, too.

Today I sell more homes than ever, it hasn't hurt my business one iota, and I'm a much happier, more relaxed individual.

Aug 27, 2012 03:33 AM #93
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Elizabeth- Donald didn't ask me, but somehow I just knew that's what he really wanted.  So I'm "going there"  I admit it's not easy.  Last night I kinda had to force myself to not answer an email on a pending deal.  But in the end I'm sure my buyer didn't care that I waited until morning.

Aug 27, 2012 04:03 AM #94
Arizona Home Group RE/MAX Excalibur
The Arizona Home Group - Scottsdale, AZ

So very true! It is so hard to 'unplug' these days between lap tops and getting your emails on your phone. I went to a class recently that challenged everyone to NOT look at your phone in the morning for at least 20 minutes. Get up, stretch, whatever, but don't look at your phone or email first thing. Plan your day and what you want to accomplish then get on the computer. He said that by looking at your phone/email first thing, you are instantly RE-acting instead of acting on what you want to do or how you want to spend your day. It hit me as so true! I don't want to spend my entire day reacting, I want to choose how I work and what I do...that's one of the biggest reasons I got into real estate, to be my own boss, not to be a slave to my electronics. 

Aug 27, 2012 04:42 AM #95
Wayne B. Pruner
Oregon First - Tigard, OR
Tigard Oregon Homes for Sale, Realtor, GRI

Good for you Tammy. There is more to life than real estate success.

Nov 19, 2012 01:21 PM #96
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