And I Shaved My Legs For This?

Real Estate Broker/Owner with North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate

Blind DateLong ago, my girlfriends and I would often call one another to fret about the trials and tribulations of dating and courtship. Filled with hope and anticipation, we looked forward to celebrating the thrill and excitement of any new, blossoming relationships on the horizon.  Unfortunately, we usually ended up commiserating over failed love connections that somehow fizzled from the start.  Yet, despite  our disillusionment, we always managed to share a good laugh when someone uttered the words:  "And I shaved my legs for this?"  Because, in the end, we knew we would confidently pick ourselves up and try all over again.  Interestingly, the challenges and perils of dating and business prospecting are not that much different from one another.

Please ... no more dead-end, go-nowhere, potential business prospects.  Obviously, networking, prospecting, and other lead-generating techniques are necessary prerequisites for any viable, successful, business-building plan.  However, like dating, the pitfalls of developing and nurturing potential business relationships could involve excessive time expenditures and ultimately frustration and exasperation.  You will meet with people who insist on connecting with you, scheduling an appointment with you, and then proceed to cancel on you.  Three times.  You will meet well-meaning people urging you to call their 'friend' who is in need of your services.  When you call their 'friend,' perhaps the 'friend' will have absolutely no idea why you would be calling.  At first glance, most of these "dreamy" potential business contacts seem so promising and appealing.  What's going on?  Misleading mixed signals?  Change of heart?  They found someone better?

In the dating world, we've all heard the saying:  "Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince."  I suppose the business world translation to this phrase would be:  "Sometimes you have to hear "No" numerous times before you hear "Yes."  Disappointment is part of life.  Rejection is part of life.  Failure is part of life.  We all know it is imperative to never give up.  Plus, at the onset, we should approach each prospective opportunity as if it was truly the one we've been waiting for all of our lives.  Recently, I heard another wonderful quote:  "A winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time."  Very profound and makes total sense.  It's just that sometimes in life we all start to feel a little weary from having to kiss so many toads.

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Michael Clarkson
Snow Coast Real Estate - Littleton, CO

I feel somewhat differently...

I am concerned: JUST how hairy are your girlfriends' and your legs that you shave them so much? 

On a serious note, I take the tack: I am available and responsive. But if YOU (the client) ARE NOT, then I move on. 

Just like dating...I won't waste my time.  It's the one thing you can never get back.


PS. I do shave MY legs and they are SPECTACULAR!!!!


Sep 13, 2012 03:34 AM #50
Ivette Rodriguez Anderson
Keller Williams Success Realty - Lake in the Hills, IL

That one caught me off guard.  You're right on target though - that's a beautiful analogy - re-learning this one on a regular basis.  THANK YOU for the reminder - you missed all the balls you don't swing at! 

Sep 13, 2012 03:52 AM #51
Bill Gillhespy
16 Sunview Blvd - Fort Myers Beach, FL
Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos

Hi Carie,  You terrific title got me !  Great analogy and a life lesson learned !

Sep 13, 2012 04:22 AM #52
Gay E. Rosen
Julia B. Fee Sotheby's International Realty - Larchmont, NY
As Real as Real Estate Gets!

Carie - so very very true... a great analogy - I too shave my legs each day... we never know who we will meet!

Sep 13, 2012 05:23 AM #53
Joy Daniels
Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd. - Harrisburg, PA

What a fun comparison - I love the analogy.  :)  Thanks for sharing. 

Sep 13, 2012 05:32 AM #54
Debbe Perry
Real Living Carolina Property - Morganton, NC
828.439.3084 Morganton/Lake James NC

Yup, shaving my legs and kissing toads are two of my un-favorite things to do. This does remind me of a quote that I think is attributed to Mark Twain: "Eat a love toad in the morning, and it will be probably be the worst thing you have to do all day" - or something to that effect. I use this quote to get the yucky stuff done first-thing, but some days it's all yucky stuff!

Sep 13, 2012 05:59 AM #55
Kevin Mackessy
Blue Olive Properties, LLC - Highlands Ranch, CO
Dedicated. Qualified. Local.

That was a witty title and analogy.  Congratulations on your feature post.

Sep 13, 2012 07:10 AM #56
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

You know you've been in this business long enough when you actually don't shave your legs for this!  HA HA HA.  Cute post and analogy.

Sep 13, 2012 07:27 AM #57
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA


I like your title, it sure got my attention. Unfortunately, in our job we do have kiss a lot of frogs before we find our prince.  We hear more "nos" than "yeses."

Sep 13, 2012 07:35 AM #58
Jennifer Chiongbian
Specializing in all types of Manhattan apts & townhouses - Manhattan, NY
Real Estate Broker - NYC

LOL!  I always say real estate is a numbers game very much like dating.  Great humor on the post!

Sep 13, 2012 08:55 AM #59
Jay Markanich
Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC - Bristow, VA
Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia

I haven't shaved my legs since college.  I played three sports and for soccer and basketball I needed my ankles wrapped.  That went much easier with shaved legs!

Sep 13, 2012 10:59 AM #60
Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Carie~ There are a LOT of similarities between real estate and dating.  You have to have an abundance of patience for both.

Sep 13, 2012 11:28 AM #61
Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

Carie, you had me at the title - I didn't care what the rest of it was about! :) So so true in life and business!


Sep 13, 2012 12:10 PM #62
Brenda Mullen
RE/MAX Access - Schertz, TX
Your San Antonio TX Real Estate Agent!!

I LOVE that quote, a winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time!  Awesome..but I feel ya.  Sometimes it can be a bit tiresome.  Many times I am convinced that those of us in Real Estate are a glutton for punishment because we get up every day and many times get smacked around by those who think we and what we do are disposable.  

It's all made better though when we find the "one" that makes our jobs thoroughly worth it :)!  

Sep 13, 2012 12:12 PM #63
Nancy Laswick
United Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
Your REALTORĀ® For The Valley Of The Sun

Sometimes I feel like I'm the girl who gets a pile of horse manure on her birthday and with a smile on her face jumps in and starts digging around... when she's asked why she is so excited her response is... "with all this manure there must be a pony in their somewhere".

Sep 13, 2012 06:34 PM #64
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Hi ActiveRain Friends!

I'm usually very good about responding to comments written on my posts.  Yesterday, however, I was at an all day seminar/networking event learning new skills, shaking hands, and meeting extraordinary people.  No computer or wifi access.  <Gasp!>  So, I just wanted to say "Thank You" -- and even though I'm unable to reply individually, please know how much I appreciate each and every thoughtful comment.  And, as they say:  "Keep On Keepin' On" :)

Sep 14, 2012 01:59 AM #65
Bill & Cyndi Daves
Hiawassee, Young Harris, Blairsville, Hayesville, Murphy and Beyond! - Hiawassee, GA
TeamDAVES - Your REALTORS In the GA/NC Mountains!

Carie - Congrats on another great feature!  I definitely agree with you too.  Fortunately for me, I've found my prince (of course I still shave my legs so I can KEEP him)!  It is overwhelming sometimes the number of leads you have to weed through in order to get to one that is going to be worth your time.  But, you have to do it!


Sep 15, 2012 03:43 AM #66
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!
Carie dropping back by to wish you a great day and thank you for your support in the Rain.
Sep 18, 2012 04:23 AM #67
Janis Borgueta
Key Properties of the Hudson Valley - Newburgh, NY
LIC RE Salesperson

Carie ~ I guess i missed this when I was away... LOVE the title.. and I can definitely relate to that.. LOL and as far as the toads... well.. I think they get a bad deal sometimes.. they too have to kiss a lot of unwarranted advances.. I enjoyed the post.. and well.. that goes without saying.. you have the gift of the written word

Sep 27, 2012 01:39 AM #68
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Priceless post Carie, it starts with a great title, keeps us laughing and very glad to be done with dating, and ends with a great quote, "A winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time."

Have a great weekend!!!

Sep 28, 2012 06:50 AM #69
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