“Show Me Someone that Doesn’t Have Stress in their Life”
I dare you…….I have heard all my life about good stress and bad stress. I have no clue what the difference is, to me stress is stress, not matter how it is defined.
The other day, at 5:30 in the afternoon I got a call from a client that was at a closing and the lender misspelled her name on all the documents and asked what should I do? I told her I would contact the lender. I contacted the inside person, who was at home, explained the problem. He said I will handle it and will email a new set of documents to the attorney’s office in the next ten minutes.
I called the client and let her know, a new set of documents will be in her attorney’s office in the next few minutes. She commented that the attorney will owe me an apology. I didn’t think too much about the comment, but was delighted the issue was resolved.
I called the client later that evening to verify that everything was corrected and the mortgage closed to her satisfaction. She told me that when she pointed out to her attorney that there was a misspelling, he had a meltdown. She immediately called me at that point, so that the problem could get fixed.
She told me that the attorney commented, you’ll not get you mortgage person at 5:30, wrong. Then commented, he’ll not find anyone to correct the problem, wrong again.
I decided to call the attorney, who I had never worked with before. Once on the phone, I thanked him for working with our mutual client, especially during a stressful situation. His comment, no problem. Oh, by the way do you do business in Vermont, I told him I did. I shared with him, that I do mortgages in all of New England, NY and FL. He thanked me and we said our good byes.
I got an email from him yesterday, referring his sister for a refinance. In his email, he commented that she will need a lot of handholding throughout the process.
We all deal with stress differently. It seems the more chaos that is going on the calmer I get.
20 Stress Management Tips for Peak Performance
Structural engineers get paid big bucks to design buildings strong enough to withstand the damaging impact brought on by Mother Nature’s fury. They use computer simulations to help them identify and mitigate stress-fatigue factors, which might contribute to the collapse of the building. Ironically, people, like buildings, are also susceptible to stress-fatigue factors and physical collapse brought on by the crippling affects derived from excessive fear, anxiety and worry.
Research indicates that a person will react to stressful situations based upon the temperament style that he or she was born into. For example, aggressive people have “anger management”, expressive people have “emotional management”, passive people have “self-esteem management” and analytical people have “stress management.” In other words, people who tend to be extremely detailed, organized, critical and shy attract stress into their lives like metal shavings are drawn to a magnet.
The major behaviors associated with people under stress include; aloofness, increased sadness, panic attacks, overly sarcastic humor and extreme negative self-talk. Stress occurs when an analytical or “melancholy” type of person is overwhelmed by his or her attempts to balance their physical, financial, personal, spiritual and career interests. The long-term affects of prolonged stress are accumulative and can be physically and mentally damaging over time. Stress manifests in the body as TMJ / teeth grinding, tension headaches, neck / shoulder pain and lower back pain. Here are several practical ideas that you can use to help you dramatically reduce your stress level and live a much more productive life.
Stress Management Tips
1. Get plenty of sleep.
2. Eat balanced meals and avoid eating junk food.
3. Drink plenty of water and avoid nicotine, excessive caffeine and other stimulants.
4. Avoid drinking alcohol in excess.
5. Learn to make decisions quickly and let go of the need to over-analyze everything.
6. Express your feelings appropriately and don’t bottle up your emotions.
7. Avoid trying for perfection and don’t sweat the small stuff.
8. Maintain a positive mental attitude by utilizing affirmative “self-talk.”
9. Stop worrying so much and look at situations more optimistically.
10. Smile and laugh frequently throughout the day, don’t take yourself so seriously.
11. Mix leisure with work: take breaks and get away when you can.
12. Make a point to spend quality time with your friends and family.
13. Become more tolerant and don’t be overly critical of yourself or others.
14. Always be kind and gentle with yourself.
15. Listen to upbeat music or watch your favorite movie.
16. Exercise for cardiovascular fitness three to four times a week.
17. Set written goals, plan your time and prioritize your activates.
18. Keep a list of “things to do” and stay focused on short-term accomplishments.
19. Get a massage or take a warm bath.
20. Do something nice for someone else.
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