Maybe you can go home again....

Real Estate Broker/Owner with RE/MAX Professionals 94238


Life has a funny way of reminding you of things you said and things you did.


Many years ago I told my parents "As soon as I graduate from high school I am out of here. I can't stand living in Tacoma!" I also said "I could never imagine having kids!"


For many years I did just that. I lived in Seattle and I worked at a variety of jobs that I allowed to suck the marrow out of my bones. The one good thing was that I was lucky enough to be a dad to two fantastic kids. The problem with being their dad was that I lived in Seattle and they lived in Cincinnati. Needless to say quality time with my kids for a number of years was lacking. Funny, didn't I just say I could not imagine being a parent?


A little over eight years ago my oldest child informed me that he wanted to leave Cincinnati and move in with me. This was great news! at least at first it was great news. I was in a long term relationship and when I told her the good news that my son wanted to move in with us she gently corrected me and said "He will be moving in with you" I had one month to figure out what I was going to do. I was working for a large corporation in downtown Seattle so I had to chuckle when my parents said "Why don't you move back to Tacoma? We could help you keep an eye on Nick" The first thought that went through my head was TACOMA! are you CRAZY? I won't live in Tacoma again!....25 days later guess what. That's right I was living in Tacoma.


I moved to the north end of Tacoma an area filled with classic homes and wonderfully tree lined streets. At first it was hard for me to say anything positive but the truth of the matter is North Tacoma is fantastic. It is a great place to raise kids. My son was doing well and I was working for a non-profit that was only slightly more gentle at sucking the marrow out of my bones. I was living in Tacoma and I was cough, cough enjoying it.


Four years of living in the north end and my next bit of news was that my youngest wants to live with me now. Deja Vu I will spare you the details but I can sum it up by this statement "It's either me or your daughter." Wow, again really? I sure do know how to pick them...


My daughter moves to Tacoma six weeks later and the three of us are all living together. It took a year to work the bugs out of the arrangement but the end result was that we became a happy well-functioning family.


My daughter is presented with an opportunity to be an exchange student for her senior year of high school. I am presented with an opportunity to purchase the home I grew up in from my parents. A month before my daughter leaves for Norway we move into the house I grew up in the Summit View area between Puyallup and Tacoma.


Guess you can go home again. Oh, and for those who know history repeats itself. Guess what my daughter told me before she left for Norway? That's right " I am out of here! I can’t' live in Tacoma!" So far she has lived up to her word. She is living in Seattle working at a job that hopefully is not sucking the marrow out of her bones.She visits frequently not sure if it is Tacoma calling her back or the free meals.

 What does this have to do with real estate? Not much frankly. Does it need to?

 Well for one thing I got my start blogging here on Active Rain. I stopped blogging here in 2010. I think it just might be time for me to come home to the Rain.

Without moving to Tacoma I would most likely never put myself in the position to sell real estate. I would have sat on the sidelines wondering what if? By living in Tacoma my life was disrupted enough that I was able to seize an opportunity. An opportunity that I have not looked back on in over six years! I am lucky that I have moved home to Pierce County and that I am helping people buy and sell homes in Tacoma, Puyallup, and throughout the entire county.  Maybe, just maybe you can go home again....and maybe you should.

Home Sweet Home












Comments (30)

Brian Kuhns
Coldwell Banker Roth Wehrly Graber - Fort Wayne, IN
Fort Wayne Real Estate by Brian Kuhns

And now that you've gone back can sell the homes of all the other friends you grew up with that said the same thing about Tacoma. Congratulations,by the way, on making the obvious choice between your children and the self serving partners you had at the time...your kids will appreciate this someday

Sep 23, 2012 10:56 PM
Janis Borgueta
Newburgh, NY
Retired RE Salesperson

Welcome back to ActiveRain.. it is home for many that work and play here... and it seems that for you a place to hang your hat again.. Glad things have worked out so well.. Life throws us many curve balls... Never say never!

Sep 23, 2012 10:58 PM
Doug Rogers
RE/MAX Coastal Properties - Destin, FL
Your Real Estate Resource!

Great blog post! Just subscribed to your blog!

Sep 23, 2012 11:05 PM
Catherine Ulrey
Keller Williams Capital City - Salem, OR
Equestrian and Acreage Property Specialist

Great post,and I think it have EVERYTHING to do with real estate.  It is a great example of how life changes, our housing needs change.  I am sure we have all had a client that said words like yours, "This is our last house"  or " we are never selling...."

Sep 23, 2012 11:28 PM
Scott Cowan
RE/MAX Professionals - Olympia, WA

Thank you eveyone who has taken the time to make me feel so welcome again! I am looking forward to connecting with each of you.




Sep 24, 2012 12:09 AM
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa
Welcome back! We all say things and we live to eat those words too! :) I hope you have better luck in choosing a mate that is less interested in herself than all involved. Geez, twice? Such is life. I am sure many people can relate.
Sep 24, 2012 12:50 AM
Wayne Zuhl
Remax First Realty II - Cranford, NJ
The Last Name You'll Ever Need in Real Estate

Good morning Scott - what a great story! Sometimes the very things we WON'T want when we're young are the very things we gravitate toward when we're mature!

Sep 24, 2012 01:37 AM
Paul McFadden
Responsive Pest Control - Seattle, WA
Pest Control, Seattle, WA.

Scott: Someone may have already said it here. There is no place like home! My hometown is Pullman and I would love to go back. It's a little bit slim on the job front though. Thanks for the post and congratulations on your feature!

Sep 24, 2012 01:39 AM
Tamara Inzunza
Realty One Group Capital - Alexandria, VA
Close-In Alexandria and Arlington Living

So glad that you are able to (and want to) be there to provide stability for your kids.  What a blessing.

Sep 24, 2012 04:19 AM
Nancy Lamb
Home Smart LifeStyles - Fountain Hills, AZ
& Loving AZ Team-Fountain Hills AZ
Scott. Your story has come full circle and rings true for me on so many levels. I really enjoyed reading it, and will subscribe to your blog to follow the future developments.
Sep 24, 2012 05:17 AM
Spectrum Inspection Group
Spectrum Inspection Group - Las Vegas, NV

What an entertaining post!  Washington is a beautiful state and a great place to raise children.  Glad you ended up where you 'belong' at heart!  :)

Sep 24, 2012 05:33 AM
Bruce Kunz
C21 Solid Gold Realty, Brick, NJ, 732-920-2100 - Howell, NJ
REALTOR®, Brick & Howell NJ Homes for Sale

Great story, Scott!  Never say Never, right?  It was good to read that things have worked out well for you. Funny how perspective changes over time!
Thanks for sharing,


Sep 24, 2012 07:38 AM
Pamela Seley
West Coast Realty Division - Murrieta, CA
Residential Real Estate Agent serving SW RivCo CA

Scott, I love your story! You definitely have a way with words. Glad you're enjoying being back home in Tacoma WA. I look forward to reading your future posts.

Sep 24, 2012 09:27 AM
Rhonda Duffy
Duffy Realty of Atlanta & Rainmaker Realty - Milton, GA
#1 Retail Listing Agent in the U.S.

So many people have the same experience- what a great circle. Thank you for sharing

Sep 24, 2012 10:36 AM
Eric Michael
Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI - Livonia, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519

I day dream about moving away from Metro Detroit here and there, but really, I don't think I'd be able to.        

Sep 24, 2012 11:14 AM
Gail Robinson
William Raveis Real Estate - Southport, CT
CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT

Scott - You made the right choice choosing your kids over your girlfriends.  When I met my husband he had four step grandchildren that he was raising with his former mother-in-law (his wife had died and the mother of the children was incapacitated).  We took two of them in when the other two moved out of state to live with relatives.  It made our lives richer.  I would not have traded that for anything.  Your girlfriends were foolish and you made some wise choices of the heart.

Sep 24, 2012 11:22 AM
Regina P. Brown
MBA Broker Consultants - Carlsbad, CA
M.B.A., Broker, Instructor

Scott, I enjoyed reading your story.  Welcome back!  I'm glad you made the right choice of moving with your kids.  I'm sure they appreciate it.

Sep 24, 2012 12:28 PM
Scott Cowan
RE/MAX Professionals - Olympia, WA

Again thank you to everyone who took the time to read and to comment on my post. This has been an amazing welcome back to the rain for me.



Sep 27, 2012 11:42 PM
Rene Fabre
ARFCO Media - Renton, WA
Practicing Philosophical Eclectic of the Arts

Cool story, Scott... and welcome home to the Rain... Our stories aren't so different and I feel the same way about Renton... See you soon.

Sep 28, 2012 02:05 AM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker
Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

What a great story and read! After 20-some years in California, I went home again, too, and bought homes in my old neighborhood where I grew up. I even worked at nonprofit. We've share some parallels there. No kids, though.  Except, after 10 years I said to myself: What the hell am I doing here? And I went back to California.

Oct 02, 2012 01:54 AM