On the rails to thankful...

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Real Estate Agent with Edina Realty

Trains

If you've ever felt like you were looking out the window of your life, hanging onto your hat and watching it all whiz by... you've probably felt like it's time to slow down the train and get off the fast track (at least for a bit).

We were at the Y this week and my son was blow drying his hair under the blower and I realized that he's grown so much that he can't stand up straight under it anymore. What happened?  My son has grown... a lot. Pretty sure it happened this summer when I wasn't paying attention, but yowzers!

At our house we try every day to slow the wheels on the track, take time to sit back and relax. It usually happens at night during 'reading' time, but every day. And, every day I'm blessed at what my children teach me and share with me.

Sometimes it's easy to ignore them, to let them play and to do my own thing. I love it during the day when school work is done and they are occupying their own time while I work. But, the moment still comes when I have to choose between what I'm doing and their need for my attention. That's when I have to look at my track and decide which way to go. Do I take the time for the little ones or push them away until later.

The choice came this week for me. I was making great progress at cleaning off my table and accomplishing some things that had been forgotten and set aside. It felt so good. But then son came in carrying a cardboard box. He'd created a game and asked if I'd play it with him. A quick look at my table, a split second thought process fighting it in my mind... and I gave in.

Not only was this game my son created ingenious, fun and witty... it took my breath away. The details he'd put into the 'rules' and the thoughts he'd put behind the 'moves' were astounding and I almost missed his success. The track to my success needed a pit stop... and it was worth it! It only took a few minutes to show my son that I cared about his work. It only took a few minutes for me to realize what a gift he'd made for us to cherish and remember together.

This game has been floating around our house now for a few days. I caught the boys playing it yesterday and the creator said to his brother, "Mom is really good at this. You should see her play... it's like it was made for her or something." Awwwww. I'm so glad I took the time. The time to cherish a moment instead of watch it flit by while holding my hat and watching out the window!

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MaryKay Shumway
The Kellstrom Ray Agency, Inc. (Est. 1948) - Sister Bay, WI
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In this area we have a new popular saying because of a mother who lost a dear son.  YOLO--You only live once.  I am learning to re-prioritize what is truly important.  It is true, we always need the next commission, we need our listing clients to depend on us....but lawyers, doctors and other professionals keep set hours.  I'm learning, because a Trulia lead can come in at 2 a.m.  I used to be instant action (light sleeper, phone in bedroom)....now I wait until morning.  Great post!

Oct 21, 2012 08:22 AM #5
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Kristi DeFazio
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My boys are 16 and 13 and I miss those days when they needed me sometimes. I seriously feel like I blinked and they both grew up to be young men. I try to cherish each day with them and will gladly put away work if one of them needs me. I don't want to have any regrets!

Oct 21, 2012 08:23 AM #6
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Tatyana Makarov
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You are right, Lindsey,

Nothing is more important in your life than your family... I have two boys, 15 and 8 years old. I remember like it was yesterday when they were babies.

Oct 21, 2012 09:00 AM #7
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Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
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Lindsey--My "little" boys are both away at college now so I don't have as many of those opportunities as I once had. Cherish them--time really does fly! :)

Oct 21, 2012 09:10 AM #8
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Pippa Mac
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Awesome Lindsey!   Today I took off to spend with my 3 kids, whatever they wanted to do.  I even turned off my phone, so I wasn't tempted to "help" my clients.   It was relaxing and we all had fun!   pippa

Oct 21, 2012 10:05 AM #9
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Kathy Streib
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Lindsey- sounds like you know the secret of life!  You can always come back and clean the table but those little moments with your loved ones need to be grabbed every chance you get!  Good for you!

Oct 21, 2012 10:21 AM #10
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Tanya Nouwens
RE/MAX ROYAL (JORDAN) INC. / Tanya Nouwens Inc. www.readysetsold.ca - Montreal West Island, QC
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What a beautiful post, Lindsey. My boys are 14 and 11, and they are growing so fast. You're so right when you say that it really doesn't take but a few minutes to make them feel like we've listened and paid attention. The key is to make those few minutes count. Despite my best intentions, I'm sure I'll one day have regrets - I think that's just part of the package - but it's always good to hear things like your post here, to help me ensure I stay aligned with what really matters. Thank you.
Oct 21, 2012 10:32 AM #11
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If we don't take the time to appreciate life, then we're losing sight of the target. Nice post

Oct 21, 2012 10:35 AM #12
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Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX

Yesterday we took the whole family to a pumpkin patch.  One of my twin granddaughters said "I love you and that makes me happy"  A 3 Million dollar sale would not have been worth missing that minute!

Oct 21, 2012 11:14 AM #13
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Beth Paterson
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Lindsey, I'm glad you got off the fast track to spend some time with your ingenious son and play the game he created.  What a wonderful reminder that we all need to do this.  I love the photo too - I'm a big fan of trains. Thanks for sharing!

Oct 21, 2012 12:15 PM #14
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Laura Cerrano
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Yup. Take time to notice the miracle of every moment. :)

Oct 21, 2012 12:50 PM #15
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Laura Cerrano
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I know of a little austic boy who also made a double sided game just likewhat you describe. ;)

 

Love and light,

Laura

Oct 21, 2012 12:52 PM #16
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Karen Anne Stone
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Lindsey:  I am so glad you enjoy being "present" with your boys.  They DO grow up so fast, don't they?

If you don't already do this, I might suggest you either keep a diary, or even start one of those FREE WordPress blogs, just keep it private... for your own eyes... and use it to write all the special stuff that you just know you will be glad you have some day when the boys are grown.

Also... wayyyy down the road it may very well be a great gift to them when they are your age.  We Moms can forget so much.

Oct 21, 2012 02:45 PM #17
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That is a very cool photo. I think many of us feel like we are off the tracks
Oct 21, 2012 04:27 PM #18
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Melissa Marro
Keller Williams First Coast Realty - The Marro Team - Orange Park, FL
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One of the questions we often need to ask ourselves is why we work so hard. Ultimately it is to share moments like these, so it sounds like you made the right choice.

Oct 22, 2012 01:33 AM #19
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Joni Bailey
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"The track to my success needed a pit stop... " I think NOT. You were right on track for the ulitmate of success!

Oct 22, 2012 01:50 AM #20
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Brian Kuhns
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so true Lindsay...i'm saddened by the passing of each summer where I'm able to enjoy my boys playing baseball throughout the midwest. I feel blessed that while it's sometimes a difficult decision to make between work and the kids...it's mine alone to make! Thanks for sharing this wonderful post

Oct 22, 2012 03:02 AM #21
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Don Sabinske
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Those are the memories he will take with him for life....just as you will.  Smart move in the game of life.

Oct 22, 2012 06:13 AM #22
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Ron Marshall
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I agree with Don.  Those memories you are making with your children will hold them for a lifetime.  Thanks for taking the time to raise two young men who will understand empathy and kindness.

Oct 23, 2012 07:36 PM #23
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Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - BoiseMeridianRealEstate.com - Boise, ID
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This is so so true!  I am a Realtor full time and so is my husband.  We are lucky enough to work at home and do not have our daughter in daycare and we just make sure we work our schedules so one of us is available to be with her.  Sometimes I get frustrated that I can't get as much done in the day as I want to and I end up working late into the night when she is sleeping, but I have totally been thinking this same thing lately, as she is growing up fast and she is so fun right now.  -Kasey

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