I know and understand what it is to chase someone else's definition of success. I'm a personal and business coach who was once a highly-driven, successful international sales exec. I commuted and worked 60-hour weeks and served on many boards than I can remember. I was good at my job, and I rose fast. I was caught up in the allure of a certain way of having success; someone else's way. I often ask my clients, friends and colleagues, "Why do you go to work today?" Their answer usually is "Because I have to." However you and I both know there is virtually nothing that wehave to do in this country (besides serve our country if called upon).
Right now you can make a decision: to go back to school, change careers, teach others, grow spiritually, learn a new language, spend more time with others or live in another country. You can do almost anything.
Make one small decision right now to change your destiny forever. What's your destiny and how do we get you there? There are many coaches, mentors, motivational speakers, professors and the like who wrote on this subject. The best of the best is here to view.
Put into action a couple things and make them habitual. Explore what you want. And pick only one. Write it down. Take action. That same day. Change what's not working. Change your approach until you succeed.
These folks below did just that. Who were these folks and why did they do what they did matter. Matters because they decided to make a stand and decided to move forward.
Rosa Parks for NOT giving up her seat on the bus
Gandhi by not giving into violence.
Ed Roberts for facing his fears of physical limitations.
The "how" will reveal itself as soon as you commit to making it happen Read Manifest Your Destiny A must read...The Nine Spiritual Principles for Getting Everything You Want by Dr Wayne Dyer
Patrick Snow wrote on the top 10 things one must do to create his or her own destiny... 10. Lead and Leverage Your Network Share your goals with other like-minded individuals in your network. You never know who can help you to achieve your dreams. W. Clement Stone said, “If you want something bad enough, tell enough others what it is that you want and sooner or later someone or something will show up in your life and help you get it.” 9. Focus on Your Health and Nutrition Wealth without health is not worth its weight in gold. If you are truly to achieve your destiny, you need to focus as equally on your health goals as your wealth goals. Howard Howell said, “You must either diet or die.” 8.
Become an Entrepreneur (The Employer, Not the Employee) Sooner or later, all jobs come to an end. Therefore, keep your day job while you simultaneously build your business. Your day job becomes the seed money to support your business. When you are employed working for “the Man,” you help someone else to create his or her destiny, not yours. The only way to earn your true worth is by becoming an entrepreneur.
7. Execute Your Plan Daily Your actions equal your results, so the best way to pursue your destiny is to do something every single day for the rest of your life to pursue your goals. John Addison said, “I will do today what others won’t so I will have tomorrow what others don’t.”
6. Overcome Your Fears Only two things in life can hold you back from your destiny: your fears and your self- limiting beliefs. David Joseph Schwartz said, “Do what you fear and your fears will disappear,” and the Reverend Dick Gregory said, “Fear and God do not occupy the same space.”
“If you can't you must, and if you must you can.” ― Anthony Robbins
“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” ― Anthony Robbins
“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of your relationships.” ― Anthony Robbins
"Your story is your life," says Loehr. As human beings, we continually tell ourselves stories -- of success or failure; of power or victimhood; stories that endure for an hour, or a day, or an entire lifetime. We have stories about our work, our families and relationships, our health; about what we want and what we're capable of achieving. Yet, while our stories profoundly affect how others see us and we see ourselves, too few of us even recognize that we're telling stories, or what they are, or that we can change them -- and, in turn, transform our very destinies. Telling ourselves stories provides structure and direction as we navigate life's challenges and opportunities, and helps us interpret our goals and skills. Stories make sense of chaos; they organize our many divergent experiences into a coherent thread; they shape our entire reality. And far too many of our stories, says Loehr, are dysfunctional, in need of serious editing.
First, he asks you to answer the question, "In which areas of my life is it clear that I cannot achieve my goals with the story I've got?" He then shows you how to create new, reality-based stories that inspire you to action, and take you where you want to go both in your work and personal life. For decades, at the Human Performance Institute, Loehr has been examining the power of story to increase engagement and productivity, and Fortune 500 companies have paid millions to send employees to his program, in which he applies the principles and methods that he now offers in this book. Global business leaders, world-class athletes, military special forces, and thousands of individuals from every walk of life have sought out and benefited from his life-altering insight and expertise. Our capacity to tell stories is one of our profoundest gifts. Loehr's approach to creating deeply engaging stories will give you the tools to wield the power of storytelling and forever change your business and personal life.
And finally... 7 Tips for Creating Your Own Destiny
Are you working on your life or just in it? Here is the perspective and method you need to plan and execute the life and career worthy of your potential. Too many people whine about not having the life they want. The main reason people fall short of their own expectations is the same reason most companies fail to achieve their objectives: poor planning and execution. In fact, I am amazed at how many successful executives create strategy for their business, leaving their life to chance. Often it's more comfortable (note I didn't say easier) to complain and blame outside factors for lack of accomplishment or unhappiness than to take time to work on life rather than in it. http://www.inc.com/kevin-daum/7-tips-for-creating-your-own-destiny.html