My Dance with Cancer - Absence from AR Revealed

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 My Dance with Cancer - Absence from AR Revealed

I had been very active in the rain for some time. In early June I went from 60 to 0 overnight.  It wasn’t long before some members noticed I seemed to have disappeared. I received emails from many people asking if I was okay.

Those who connected with me … you know who you are. I can’t type these words without tears flowing down my face.  Words alone cannot express the love and gratitude I hold in my heart for each of you.  I know your support, prayers and encouragement throughout my journey helped tremendously.  What can I say … Love heals. Thank you all so much!

Prior to June 6, 2012 I thought jumping out of an airplane would be the most challenging thing I would ever do in my lifetime.  Perhaps that Mother’s Day jump in 2012 was designed to prepare me for the challenges that were ahead.

One phone call from the surgeon confirming I had cancer and my life as I knew it changed in an instant. The following is a snapshot of my journey kicking cancer in the ass!

·       May 31, 2012 – lump found in breast – mammogram 1 year OVERDUE!

·       June 4, 2012 – biopsy of breast and lymph nodes

·       June 6, 2012 – stage 3 breast cancer – moved to lymph nodes

Suddenly my new full time job became a series of medical appointments to prepare me for chemo therapy, surgery and many unexpected complications. I now had two full-time jobs ... dancing with cancer and managing my real estate business.  

·       June 11, 2012 – Complete blood work

·       June 12,2012 – EEG

·       June 13, 2012 – Mammogram – Did I mention this was 1 year OVERDUE? Don't let this be you.  Early detection is important. 

·       June 13, 2012 – Breast MRI

·       June 16, 2012 – Surgical implant of Mediport – this is used for infusing chemo therapy

·       June 18, 2012 – Chemo Teach – 3 hours of education to prepare me for what’s to come

·       June 19, 2012 – PET CT Scan

·       June 19, 2012 – First Chemo therapy infusion

·       June 20, 2012 – Follow up shot to boost white blood cells

·       June 27, 2012 – Emergency Room – Massive blood clot found in left jugular vein extending down left arm.  Yes, I thought I was having a heart attack! If I threw a clot the results would have been worse than a heart attack. 

·       June 27, 2012 – began taking Coumadin to thin my blood and took a series of shots in the belly for 5 days.  This was to boost the blood thinning.  Saturday and Sunday I had to give myself the shots. 

Jumping out of an airplane feels like a cakewalk when compared to the hell of cancer and chemo.    

·      Four (4) months of chemo therapy administered every two weeks.

·      Severe neuropathy (numbing of hands and feet) meant that the eighth and final treatment would not be given.

We are done with chemo because I can’t feel my hands and feet!  At this point the risk of another treatment far outweighed the benefit.  I was responding well to chemo therapy despite the side effects and complications.

·       September 18, 2012 – Post chemo ultrasound of breast – no sign of the tumor!

·       October 1, 2012 – Ultrasound of neck to ensure blood clot was gone prior to surgery.  Blood clot gone!  It did leave a narrowing of my left jugular vein which I can feel by the tightness in my neck. 

·       October 3, 2012 – Post chemo Breast MRI – no sign of tumor in breast or lymph nodes!

·       October 6th, 2012 – Celebrating the end of chemo doing what I love to do.

riding horse on beach

·       October 8, 2012 – Pre-op EKG

·       October 11, 2012 – surgery – breast, lymph node(s) and removal of the Mediport

waiting to surgery

Chemo does cause hair loss. I lost my hair, eyebrows and eyelashes

Howie Mandel has nothing on me!

·       October 12, 2012 – Ouch … The cancer bug bit me but I bit back and Won!  Winning has never really been important to me … this was an exception.

·       October 17, 2012 – Email message from my Oncologist: “How are you feeling?  I hope the surgery recovery is going well.  I got the path report and there was no cancer at all in the breast or lymph node, so you had what we call a complete pathologic response.  Those results predict for the best survival after the surgery.  So fantastic news!”

·       October 19, 2012 - Celebrating with friends ... we had a pink party!

My cancer diagnosis was not a life sentence. A diagnosis is not a prognosis. My cancer was aggressive and fast growing and why we jumped on treatment so quickly.

I cannot candy-coat the experience.  I had little time to process before being catapulted into the world of medical care (that is another blog) which one must be prepared to manage and be an active participant in the process.  Let's suffice it to say, mistakes are made.

I made the decision in advance that I would not be “a cancer patient.” Cancer treatment was just something that I was “going to do.”  My chemo treatments were scheduled as “spa day.”  Infusions literally took all day.

Did I feel horrible?  You bet I did!  Chemo knocked me down for days yet I refused to let it keep me down. The right attitude helped with the healing process. 

I also changed my diet.  I began juicing every day. I started eating mostly raw green foods.  I cut out sugar … the cancer I had feeds on sugar. All the greens I ate created an environment where the cancer could not life. I became a student of better nutrition … and food labeling (that is another blog). 

October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month 

October is also the month in which I offically became cancer free. 

Today is my 58th Birthday and why I choose today to share my celebration of life in an entirely new way ... fearless. 

I've missed being active in the Rain. I continue to get stronger every day and hope I will very soon be back to blogging daily in the Rain.  This place Rocks!

Thank you Active Rain! 

Thanks to my Active Rain friends and supporters!

Most importantly ... Thank you GOD for my new lease on Life!



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Pat & Steve Pribisko
Keller Williams Greater Cleveland West - Westlake, OH

Kathleen, I just read this blog through a link in Joan Cox's Blog.  I read your blog word by word.  It is a wonderful story about a topic that is very bad.  Congrats on your recovery.  May you stay in remission for a very long life!

Jan 13, 2013 11:49 PM #112
Beth and Richard Witt
Long Island Cash Home Buyer - Huntington, NY
Long Island Cash Home Buyer 516-330-6940

Beautiful attitude... thanks for sharing and may you walk forward in perfect health... God Bless...

Jan 14, 2013 12:54 AM #113
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I have been out a lot too and this is the first I heard.  You are a smart woman and faced it with courage.  You look great bald this could be trend!  Glad you a back on track.  

Jan 15, 2013 05:07 AM #114
Ken Baris
Jordan Baris, Inc. - West Orange, NJ
Jordan Baris, Inc. Realtors

Kathleen - Simply put - You are an inspiration!

Jan 15, 2013 10:24 PM #115
Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Pat & Steve, The topic is not one I ever imagined experiencing or writing about. Thankfully, I am here to talk about it.  Thank you for your comment.

Richard & Beth, Thank you. I'm focused on perfect health and God's blessings.

Gene, Bald may be better than the new hair I have coming in.  It's very dark ... looks black and of course, lots of gray. Thanks for stopping by.

Ken, I read your entry. Talk about inspiration ... Wow!  Thank you for your comment.

Jan 16, 2013 01:53 AM #116
Christine O'Shea
Christine E O'Shea Broker-Associate - Naples, FL

Kathleen, Congratulations on beating the cancer and best wishes for your continued success.  Once we go through something like this, our lives and outlook on life will never be the same, we see things differently!

Jan 22, 2013 10:57 AM #117
Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Christine, We sure do see things differently!  This cannot be explained .. it must be experienced.  Thank you for your comment.

Jan 22, 2013 11:07 AM #118
Nevin Williams
Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation - Cary, NC
Senior Mortgage Advisor

Kathleen - Somehow I missed this post.  I am so grateful that you caught it in time and are a survivor.  Way to go Kathleen!

Jan 25, 2013 10:30 AM #119
Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Nevin, Me too.  I wear my hats proudly :-) Thank you!

Jan 25, 2013 11:50 AM #120
Juli Vosmik
Dominion Fine Properties - Scottsdale, AZ
Scottsdale/Cave Creek, AZ real estate 480-710-0739

OMG - do you know how long it took me to find this blog, going back month by month?  I need to talk to Kerrie, LOL.  Kathleen, you'll know why I took the time, later - for now, you'll just have to be in suspense. 

Jun 11, 2013 04:44 AM #121
Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Juli, I'm glad we spoke today. The photo is not my home ... it is the home of my friends. 

Jun 11, 2013 08:57 AM #122
Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette/West Lafayette, Indiana - West Lafayette, IN

Kathleen, you are a fighter and I have read that about sugar and about how changing our diet can be a BIG factor while undergoing treatment.  From what I have read your mental state and changed diet make all the difference in the world.  You are an inspiration and a fighter, Kathleen!

May 12, 2015 06:25 AM #123
Eagle Ridge Realty
Eagle Ridge Realty - Gilroy, CA
"Our Performance Will Move You!"

Kathleen, always good stuff and a joy to read.  We recommend Kathleen Daniels for your real estate needs in San Jose, California.  

Dec 23, 2016 07:39 PM #124
The Villages Realty
The Villages Realty - San Jose, CA
"Our Performance Will Move You!"

The Villages Realty recommends Kathleen Daniels for your real estate needs in Silicon Valley.   

Dec 23, 2016 08:00 PM #125
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

I can't believe I just saw this on Patricia Feager 's reblog.... I lived under a rock... so happy you're well and I see you everyday.... you're my hero, for sure.... I can't tell you how happy I am that you're a healthy gal... 

Sep 07, 2017 07:13 AM #126
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Kathleen Daniels I was missing from AR when you went through this, sorry I wasnot around to support you. I went through my own dance with prostate cancer a couple of years ago after losing my sister to breast cancer. My mother in law also died of cancer. We caught it early and attacked it aggressively so I was lucky to not go through chemo and radiation, selecting surgery. Like you mine was an aggressive form likely to spread so we did not hesitate. I hate the term survivor because after a battle the spoils go to the victor, so I like to call my self a Victor. I congratulate you on your post and your vulnerability, it is never easy to reveal personal stuff about ourselves. 

Sep 07, 2017 08:55 AM #127
Curtis Van Carter
Better Homes & Gardens Wine Country Group - Yountville, CA
Your Napa Valley Broker Extraordinaire


I came across this via Patricia Feager's reposting and telling us about woes. Her and you are two brave souls and as you had said in your posts, it's all about one's attitude. Your and her remain the two tough broads you are. a friend, cheers cvc

Sep 07, 2017 09:38 AM #128
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

I remember reading this with tears in my eyes and I have no idea how my comment either didn't take or couldn't be finished from the tears, Kathleen! Your amazing attitude and fight is what turned this into a dance for you - you are one amazing woman and I'm so proud of & elated for you for kicking cancer's ass!

And, as I told Patricia - who on earth looks that damned good with no hair but, you?! 

Sep 07, 2017 09:38 PM #129
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Even in the midst of all of this, your beauty just shined through, Kathleen!! Your can-doism is such a magical trait, and I wish you could just use it like fairy dust and spread it throughout the world. Thank goodness for our dear Patricia Feager, quite the magic fairy in her own right! 

Sep 07, 2017 09:49 PM #130
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

Attitude is everything and it shows that you have the right attitude to handle whatever comes your way.  Wishing you a joyful weekend.

Sep 08, 2017 07:33 PM #131
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