If My Dad Says Maybe It Means No - Reading between the Lines

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Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group S-96414

If My Dad Says Maybe It Means No -  Reading between the Lines

There are some things that just make you laugh. 

It happens to all of us in all aspects of life.   We ask a question.   We hear the answer, the words that are spoken that is, but we don't pay attention to the meaning.    In the back of our minds we are hearing the meaning behind the words, but we are either are too intent on hearing what we want to hear, or are too polite to put our thoughts to the words!winking boy

Looking at homes is hard work.   Many don't think so until they spend an afternoon or morning looking at properties.    Decisions made don't come easy, and the trade offs that one must make, regardless of price point will have an effect on their lifestyle.   See the post, Trade offs in a Real Estate Purchase.

To make the house hunting session most effective, we start with a real estate pre-flight.   A talk of what we are going to see, where and why we are choosing to view these particular properties.    Then comes the actual viewing.    

Next comes the debrief.  In my opinion, this step is crutial to a good working relationship with your buyers agent.    No one wants to waste precious time looking at properties that will not suit them.    It is also important to be able to reassess and evaluate the priorities after viewing.  Believe me, many times priorities do change.     I have often had a buyer that wanted an acre or more of land, only to do a 360 after looking at how much land an acre actually looks like.     Yes, the debrief is important.

So, this day, after viewing several homes and ruling out all but one, I ask the buyers if they are interested enough to make an offer or if they would like to see this home again. 

The Dad, says, "well, maybe".     Okay I am thinking.   This couple is tired.   They want to go home, put their feet up, have a glass of wine and discuss.   

Well, that's what I was thinking.     Their 5 year old son was thinking something else.    He looks right at me and says, "if my Dad says maybe, then it really means no!"    Lesson learned from the 5 year old.

Yes, there are some things that just make you laugh.  

Back to the drawing board!


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Comments (29)

Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi Chris Ann.  That 5 year old certainly knew more than I did.   Thanks for the feature!

Nov 18, 2012 10:07 AM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi  Brenda.  haha.   We all have our own secret meanings!   

Nov 18, 2012 10:07 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Funny, in my house, when my Mother said maybe, it was maybe, you still had a chance.  Yes was yes and no was no, but,  if she said "we'll see", you were doomed...........that was a definite NO!  She's 93 years old and we still hear the dreaded "we'll see".

Nov 19, 2012 12:45 AM
Sylvia Jonathan
Coldwell Banker Platinum Properties - Irvine, CA
Broker Associate, SFR

Cute story. Yes, the kid knows the father's M.O.

Nov 19, 2012 01:37 AM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi Roger.  That made me laugh.   I still get the we'll see too!   :)

Nov 19, 2012 01:47 AM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Thanks Sylvia!

Nov 19, 2012 01:47 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Great lesson here.  It is called getting to the no.  Sometimes it is helpful to ask them.  It saves you both trouble.

Nov 19, 2012 02:23 AM
Tolin Peterson
Preview Properties, Inc. - Seattle, WA

If only the father could have been as up front as his child.  It's tough when buyers don't mean what they say...

Nov 19, 2012 02:28 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Italian?  Do you think it's an Italian thing?

Nov 19, 2012 02:57 AM
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

Cute. People will make a decision today, tomorrow or never, so if it's not today, when specifically in the future or not at all? Either way, you'll get an answer immediately, won't you?

Nov 19, 2012 03:04 AM
Bob Miller
Keller Williams Cornerstone Realty - Ocala, FL
The Ocala Dream Team

Hi Al and Cal, maybe we should take that as lesson in honesty- belive the 5 year lod. lol

Nov 19, 2012 03:11 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

From the mouths of babes... the boy was tired too, and wanted to get that over with and go home.

Nov 19, 2012 03:42 AM
Shanna Hall
Real Estate Solutions - Kirkwood, MO
I love selling houses!!!St. Louis, MO 314-703-1311

Kids definitely have a sense about hem that the rest of us do not- great observation!

Nov 19, 2012 04:50 AM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi Grant.  Next time, I ask the kid!  LOL..

 

 

Nov 19, 2012 08:38 AM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi Tolin.  I know, right?

Nov 19, 2012 08:38 AM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi Roger.  Definately Italian.   Lasagna for Thanksgiving????

 

Nov 19, 2012 08:39 AM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi Kimo.   What you said!!!

 

Hi Bob.    Yes!  

 

Hi Marte.   You are probably right!!!

 

Hi Shanna.   You have that right.  

 

Thanks ALL for taking the time to read and comment.  I appreciate it!

Nov 19, 2012 08:42 AM
Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate

The kid told you the truth lol. I guess Dad spends too much time saying those words with no follow thru.

Nov 19, 2012 08:56 AM
EMILIA B COOPER, REALTOR® SFR.NCHSE.AHWD
LAROSA REALTY - Orlando, FL
Short Sales, Foreclosure & Bank Owned Real Estate

Al and Cal very good story, as Lyn said, the kid told you the truth...Thanks for sharing!

Nov 19, 2012 09:36 AM
Brian Kuhns
Coldwell Banker Roth Wehrly Graber - Fort Wayne, IN
Fort Wayne Real Estate by Brian Kuhns

Out of the mouth of babes....I think my kids would probably tell you the same thing after getting home from the store. 

Nov 21, 2012 10:47 PM