Social Media vs Live Conversation

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Social Media vs Live Conversation

 

 

 

I was watching a program the other night that showed an experiment amongst four young female roommates who were asked to give up any social media interaction (iphones, etc) for two weeks. The results were quite interesting. One young lady actually felt a headache coming on within a half hour after giving up her right to text! They all suffered withdrawal, but what was wonderful to see was that they decided to have LIVE conversations with each other and felt a long lost connection. One girl found herself talking to a stranger sitting next to her in a restaurant. Imagine that!!  So, it wasn’t just about communication, it was about

 

 

 

INTERACTION

 

 

 

Which seems to be missing often today. I believe that with Facebook, Twitter, etc. we have the immediacy of touching bases with our whole social address book, BUT it’s also less personal and certainly addictive.

 

 

 

In our work world, certainly it’s EASY to send a text, or e-mail. But, you can’t see into someone’s eyes, read their body language, and formulate opinions about the nonverbal communication they're sending without having a one-on-one with someone LIVE AND IN PERSON. You can be much more effective in understanding your clients when you’re really with them. Emotion and intent can be misconstrued by words on a phone or laptop because the intended  perception may be different from sender to recipient.

 

 

Isn’t communication what we all need?  But, we also need human interaction. It’s a proven fact that babies, if not held and cuddled grow up to have more behavioral issues than those who are held regularly, given physical affection and attention by their mothers and other humans.

 

  

Really my point is: don’t lose touch with your fellow humans!

 

 

 

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John DL Arendsen
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I forgot to mention that my post was based on a chapter in Megatrends that directly addresses your post. It's called High Tech-High Touch. I think it will hit a few nerves and he wrote the book in 1980 before we ever had beepers let alone cell phones, texting and email.

Jan 09, 2013 12:29 AM #47
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
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Will be interesting to see how this current text obsessed generation does in the real business world--conducting business by phone, meeting pp in person and having conversations face to face.  I don't like clients that just text all the time either!

Jan 09, 2013 12:29 AM #48
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Fred Sed
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I found that show interesting as well. It's amazing when we realize how much we rely on social media for useless stuff that doesn't do much to further our relationships. As much as I believe in online interaction in my business, it is the personal touch that makes the difference in my relationships and the ability to connect with them.

Jan 09, 2013 12:30 AM #49
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John Dotson
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One of these days "In your face" will be a good thing!

Nothing can replace personal interaction at any level.

Jan 09, 2013 12:32 AM #50
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Jill Sackler
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My daughter wrote a paper about something similar when she lost her phone. She felt lost, light-headed, confused etc. You can only imagine!

Jan 09, 2013 12:56 AM #51
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Wika, so "neglect" goes both ways it sounds like...with kids and their peers, and parents to kids AND kids to parents. Scary.

Gita, sometimes it is easier when you have a tough topic to address to take the "weak" route and not address it face-to-face (especially if people don't do well with conflict). It doesn't mean it's the best course of action.

Mona, sadly, at the end of this piece, they were handed back their devices and before the commentator could get through her last questions, she lost them to their message boxes!!

Christina, well put. Without this platform, for example, folks and friends in New Jersey and Washington would never have heard about Fishhawk Lake and end up coming out to visit me last September!

The Christiansen Team, see you got it! And you didn't have to go to rehab....!!!!

Shanna, I often work through e-mail because I reach people all over the country to come look at property. It makes it easy to send MLS listings, FOR SURE. And paperwork--how the realtors in the 60s-70s did it makes me appreciate the ease of technology now. Good, but being balanced is highly necessary. Moderation!

Anne, "I also find some Gen X and Gen Y clients prefer to do a bit of txt/ email dance before meeting in person".  What does that say about the distrust that has crept into our society? 

Michael, I wonder if that happens in towns big and small...I would be interested to see the difference. Urban kids vs rural.

Ben, thank you. You can learn ALOT about someone from their handshake. My wonderful dad taught me early on to give a good strong handshake. I often surprise people--especially men.

John, I think I've read excerpts from that book. It's fascinating how accurate some people can be. I actually SOLD beepers and mobile phones for a national company in the early 80's and remember when the cell phone came out in NY City for the first time. WOW, if I'd only known then!

Mary, There has to be research coming from that very scenario or question.

Fred, what I found interesting is how many people who commented here saw this program Sunday night.

Hysterical, John!!!

 

Jan 09, 2013 01:06 AM #52
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Jill, I would love to see what she wrote about on her paper! That would make an interesting blog for you if she were willing to share it.

I wonder how young people on the show Survivor fare without that type of contact. They never address that piece on the show.

 

Jan 09, 2013 01:30 AM #53
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Larry and Marilyn Mennetti
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WHEN I GET NEARLY 200 EMAILS A DAY, I DON'T EVEN READ THEM...DELETE IS THE ONLY ATTENTION THEY GET. WE HAD A NATIONAL SPEAKER-COACH COME INTO OUR COMPANY FOR A SEMINAR WHO SAID THE SAME THING....HIS STATEMENT TO US WAS THAT DRIP EMAILS DO NOT WORK...MUCH TO THE CHAGRIN OF OUR COMPANY OWNER WHO HAD JUST SPENT A SMALL FORTUNE ON THIS KIND OF CAMPAIGN FOR US TO "IMPROVE" OUR VISABILITY.

Jan 09, 2013 01:41 AM #54
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Larry and Marilyn~ Well there you go! Poor fella....and you used one of my favorite words to describe his reaction: chagrin. I often hit the SPAM button, too!

Jan 09, 2013 01:50 AM #55
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Berni Kerr
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Gayle  Good one!   My favorite text is to my grown kids... Just Call Me! That usually works.

Jan 09, 2013 02:26 AM #56
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Karen Anne Stone
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Gayle:  Wow.  Humans actually interacting on a personal, face-to-face level with other humans.  What a concept.

Jan 09, 2013 02:55 AM #57
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Jon Kolsky
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Gayle~ we have to be personable in this business if we want to be excellent, we have to provide our clients the top-notch service that's valuable, and now we have to be seen online, as well. I love this blog because it shows that too much of anything is too much! It's all about being centered, and that's what I took from this blog...Awesome

Jan 09, 2013 02:55 AM #58
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Kimo Jarrett
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Interesting perception, yet social media is interaction, isn't it? I believe in the person to person live conversation to texting yet that is perceived as old school but it still works for me.

Jan 09, 2013 03:37 AM #59
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Interesting.  My faily is very addicted to social media.  I have only began my descent down the rabbit hole trying to market my buisiness.  I hope I don't come out a zombie like lender.

Jan 09, 2013 05:00 AM #60
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Berni, hey whatever works to get them to actual respond voice-to-voice!

Karen Anne-I KNOW. AMAZING.

Jon, you totally got my drift. So glad you loved it! It IS about balance--in everything.

Kimo~yes it IS somewhat about interaction...but not necessarily perceiving it the way it's meant. Balance, moderation, human contact, those are things that I would offer up.

Rob, my lender does ALOT through e-mail and quick phone calls BOTH. People hardly have to go into his office--really makes it so much easier. But, he DOES get in contact with them voice-to-voice when it is the right time to.

Jan 09, 2013 05:56 AM #61
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Sheila Anderson
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Hello Gayle. This is just terrific and I totally agree. Beautiful.      

Jan 09, 2013 09:06 AM #62
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Hi Gayle your post reminded me of taking two of my granddaughters for ice cream recently.  As the 14 year old reach for her iPhone I told her NOT while we are eating our ice cream!  She put it away.  lol

Jan 10, 2013 04:10 AM #63
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Sheila, thank you and I'm not surprised that you agree with this philosophy.

Bob, well, thank goodness the grandkids listen to the grandparents. Rewarding good behavior, TOO!!

 

Jan 10, 2013 04:44 AM #64
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teens and their incessant texting!!! reminds me of a former relationship...teh mother told the daughters not to text, but if i told them to stop texting (duing dinner) I got tossed in the dog house!!!

Jan 11, 2013 09:19 PM #65
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Gene Riemenschneider
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I find it frustrating to see my kids buying into it so much.  I can control it some but not completely. 

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