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Somewhere Between Diapers And Kindergarten

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Services for Real Estate Pros with The Real Estate Investment Institute 1retiredsage

Somewhere between diapers and kindergarten we were taught to shake hands. Early on it was considered cute, Mom or Dad would say shake and out would come our hand just like "Teddy" our Chow-Chow extended his paw, often at the same time.

Somewhere between diapers and kindergarten ou

r Parents went from announcing: "That's Billy our oldest!" to introducing us "John this is my son Billy, Billy this is my co-worker Mr James."and we'd shake hands

. Wow! We were no longer accouterments. We were now people!

 

"Hello, I'm Bill Archambault"

Slowly, shaking hands became away/a part of saying hello and/or goodby.

We learned to offer our hand to men and to wait for Ladies to offer their's first. It was just the way it was done. Kids were another matter, if we were introduced by an adult we shook hands, by another kid we were all happy if our eyes met ever so briefly. An exception was if we were in dress clothes, we always acted like adults.

 

At some point we discovered girls felt different and we started shaking hands with them as often as possible.

 

By high school a firm hand shake was the norm.

Somewhere between diapers and kindergarten

we set the standard for the rest of our lives. Simple, innocent, warm, and caring reassuring human contact.

 

I worry about people today. Somewhere between kindergarten and adultery, adulting,, adultering, adultrating, life many have lost one of God's greatest gifts, simple, innocent, warm, caring and reassuring human contact. Something that can’t occur fist-bumping.

 

It's bad enough when Joe Paycheck never touches anyone with out a lustful, felonious or contrived intent, but many salesmen have forsaken such practices.

We except people to trust us with their financial futures, nay their very lives, yet many never touch. Sad, very sad indeed!

 

Human touch is the most reassuring thing know to man or beast. Human touch allays doubts and fears in man and beast. It's something that's been known by all since the beginning of time. Michael Anglo portrayed it best when he painted God touching Adam giving him life. God understood, he made man, mate instead of spawning.

 

At a time when we can "reach out and touch someone" anywhere in the world there is very little real, warm touching of the people just across the desk from us.

 

At a time when cynicism runs rabid salesmen can il afford to lose this simple skill!

 

As a REALTOR® or Loan Originator once you've found the prospect nothing before closing is as reassuring as a warm firm touch.

No touching commutates better than welcoming and parting handshakes!

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Bill

William J Archambault Jr

The Real Estate Investment Institute

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Comments (14)

Tim Lorenz
TIM LORENZ - Elite Home Sales Team - Mission Viejo, CA
949 874-2247

Shaking hand is a type of touch.  I was well schooled in.  We need to care and touch if we are to have a long career.

Feb 23, 2013 05:28 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

 

I’m embarassed by how this loaded. Has anyonne else had trouble cutting and pasting into AR?

Feb 23, 2013 05:29 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Bill- I'm from Houston where everyone you met you treated with courtesy and as if you'd known them forever.  There was at the very least a handshake and more often than not a little hug.  It's often a very different world we're in. 

Feb 23, 2013 05:29 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Tim,

I couldn't agree more.

Bill

Feb 23, 2013 05:30 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Bill- I'm from Houston where everyone you met you treated with courtesy and as if you'd known them forever.  There was at the very least a handshake and more often than not a little hug.  It's often a very different world we're in. 

Feb 23, 2013 05:31 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Kathy,

Houston you say is friendly. Brenda and I have been researching that for the las 4 years, I think you're right!

I'm looking forward to that hug!

The world is different, but people still respond.

Bill

Feb 23, 2013 05:32 AM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Bill, just to go back to the simpler days would be just fine with me.

Feb 23, 2013 08:24 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Bill, Mr. F,

"Simpler days?"

Well maybe, I don't lkie children calling me Bill!

I just want to be in the same room with the people I deal with.

Bill

Feb 23, 2013 09:29 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Bill, I was raised the same way.  And "adultery, adulting,, adultering, adultrating" was and is unacceptable touching.

Feb 23, 2013 09:56 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Grorge,

 

8>))

Feb 23, 2013 10:07 AM
Melissa Zavala
Broadpoint Properties - Escondido, CA
Broker, Escondido Real Estate, San Diego County

I do not think that I have a very firm handshake. It's not because I don't try. I am just a total weekling. Maybe I should get a squeezeball or some weights.

Feb 23, 2013 10:55 PM
Rob Arnold
Sand Dollar Realty Group, Inc. - Altamonte Springs, FL
Metro Orlando Full Service - Investor Friendly & F

I think that most people still like a good handshake and for you to look them in the eye and smile.  It still goes a long way towards making people feel good.

Feb 23, 2013 11:32 PM
Bill Roberts
Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate - Oceanside, CA
"Baby Boomer" Retirement Planner

Hi Bill, It looks like you are in-touch with a lot of your friends.

I, for one, abhor the fist bump. I'm a little too old fashioned for that. I'm just not hip.

So, expect a hand shake when we meet.

Bill Roberts

 

Feb 24, 2013 11:50 PM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Mr. R,

I’m also in touch with a lot of potential friends!

Bill

Mar 14, 2013 11:34 AM