What's the Magic Word?

Home Stager with Transition Stage LLC

What's the Magic Word?

My mom frequently managed to introduce important life concepts with memorable phrases, and one I heard pretty often growing up was, "What's the Magic Word?"  This was my cue to say one of two things: "Please." or "Thank you."

Even as a child, I could see that these had a positive effect all around. But as the years roll on, I've become more aware of just how magical these words can be. "Please" can soften so many interactions where, even if I'm just asking someone to do something that's part of their job, it can give the person hearing this a pleasurable feeling of helping, of giving, of delivering something beyond the same old everyday stuff.


Thank You

And "Thank You!"  Well, here's where the real magic exists. It says, "Yes, I have received YOU (as well as whatever the service or item is). It can give the thanker the extreme pleasure of receiving something, in effect, twice. This was so after my recent birthday. As I sat down to write Thank You cards, I thought about seeing family and friends celebrating with me, re-living the talk and laughter, the loveliest off-key singing, the glow of love and friendship on their faces.

As I wrote each card, I reflected on the gift of years of relationship and love with this person, the thought that went into their gift, their anticipation of my happiness on opening it. Each time, my heart was full, and each time, I strove to put some of that feeling into my Thank You.

The magic of Thank You is that, each time we say this or write it, we experience the gift again, and we have the opportunity to convey how much that means to us.

Have you said a Magic Word lately? Find someone to thank today. You'll be amazed at how many opportunities there are every single day. And at just how good it makes everyone feel, including you!



Comments (45)

Jonathan Lerner
Five Corners Properties - Scarsdale, NY
Licensed RE Broker

You made me smile... was I was a teenager I was a very active professional magician...so the magic word would have been either Hocus Pocus or Abracadabra    ... thanks for making me smile this morning   Jon

Mar 17, 2013 02:54 AM
Charita Cadenhead
eXp Realty - Birmingham, AL
Serving Jefferson and Shelby Counties (Alabama)
Thank you for this post and please let us hear some more of these "mom gems."
Mar 17, 2013 02:57 AM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566
I want to reblog this but keep getting error messages. Here is my intro to come back later! This is so easy to do but so easy to forget, too. Just a little please or thank you goes a long way during the day. Otherwise, it sounds like an order or an ultimatum. This is a great little reminder to start the work week off again. And...oh, thanks for visiting my post today!
Mar 17, 2013 04:20 AM
Rob Thomas
Prestige Homes of The Tri Cities, Inc. CALL....423-341-6954 - Bristol, TN
Bristol TN-VA & Tri Cities Agent, ABR, GRI, e-Pro

Judy ....Congrats on the feature!!! This is a great reminder for all of us young and old!


Mar 17, 2013 04:53 AM
Liz McGinley
Florida Indeed Real Estate, Inc - Merritt Island, FL
Service with Integrity Indeed!

Simply refreshing. Thank you!

Mar 17, 2013 05:35 AM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

i like the tradition of Hawaii,

they  say:

'I Love You, I'm Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You'.

This is the words I use the most, even just in my mind...:)

In any situation with friends or strangers, try to think this way......you feel blessed and peaceful right away.


Mar 17, 2013 05:55 AM
Ira Bodenstein
PNC Mortgage - Montclair, NJ
NMLS#: 445143

Thank you is so easy to say yet so easy to forget.  As we are all in sales and are selling ourselves as well as our product, we should be thankful for business and let people know we appreciate their time and respect.  Thank you for your post.


Mar 17, 2013 06:34 AM
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

Your Mom and my Mom were cut from the same cloth!  When I read your into to this post I could just hear my Mother's voice say that to me "What's te magic word?"  And it was either "please" or "thank you" . . . sometimes, pretty please with sugar on top!  I'm still very much aware of those magic words.  I find that there are quite a few people that didn't have our Mothers!

Mar 17, 2013 06:43 AM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Hello Judy and I really like your post, very well written!


Mar 17, 2013 06:54 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Nothing substitutes for "thank you." We know how often people forget this small politeness by the reaction we get when we do say thank you!

Mar 17, 2013 07:37 AM
Kathy Sheehan
Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021 - Atlanta, GA
Senior Loan Officer

I too heard that phrase many times while I was growing up.

Mar 17, 2013 12:07 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M
Judy - My little one is so polite, and it delights everyone around him. It's amazing the results those words bring.
Mar 17, 2013 01:48 PM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Judy, Thank You for a beautiful post - really thoughtful and love your Mom's gems. PLEASE continue sharing them with us. Once again, THANK YOU!

Mar 17, 2013 04:21 PM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County

There truly are some magical words that can minimize or eliminate conflict, express gratitude, sooth hurting. Amazing how each of us hold the power to be a magician! Thanks!

Mar 17, 2013 10:06 PM
Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

Please and thank you are two of the most powerful words we use.  I use them a LOT.  It really does make a difference!  Thanks for sharing.                                

Mar 17, 2013 10:17 PM
Ridhi Raheja
Movement Mortgage (Illinois) - Naperville, IL
FHA, 203k, VA, Jumbo, PreApproval, Jumbo Home Loan

Judy, what an inspiring post to start the week right. THANK YOU for sharing ;)

Mar 18, 2013 02:23 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Judy- how timely.  My husband and I were talking about being taught to say "Please" and "Thank you".

I loved this: 

"The magic of Thank You is that, each time we say this or write it, we experience the gift again, and we have the opportunity to convey how much that means to us."


Mar 18, 2013 11:03 AM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi Andrew - "real, genuine, honest down to Earth" - YES! Life is so much more enjoyable when we strive for these.

Hi Pamela - I totally agree that frst and foremost, if we start by thanking our families, we will make it a very good day.

Hi Jon - Abracadabra - and just like that, you smiled! Thanks.

Hi Charita - "mom gems" - what a great name! I'll have to consider a few more, as you suggest. Thanks for that.

Hi Cheryl - Thanks for thinking of reblogging this! A wonderful compliment, thank you.

Hi Rob - Thanks very much!

Hi Liz - How great! Thank you.

Hi Inna - What a wonderful saying - it really covers most of the human condition, doesn't it?

Hi Ira - It's funny how easy and yet how easy to forget, isn't it? yet thank you goes such a long way. Thank you for stopping by and commenting!


Mar 19, 2013 09:34 AM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi Carla - It's funny just how many Moms used this phrase. It certainly works!

Hi Vegas Bob - Thanks so much! I LOVE that photo. Being hugged by words - perfect.

Hi Nina - I know what you mean. So easy to say, and it gives pleasure to everyone involved.

Hi Valerie - Yay! I wasn't able to stop back until now, and boy, was I surprised!! It's good to see you here, so thanks for that!

Hi Kathy - It must have been part of the Mom Handbook!

Hi Christine - That's delightful!

Hi Praful - Thanks very much. I will certainly see what I can come up with.

Hi Gary - Yes! The magic of these words is how healing and happy they can be.


Mar 19, 2013 09:41 AM
Judy Klem
Transition Stage LLC - Shelton, CT
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties

Hi Jared and Amanda - That's great - Thank you does so much in this very stressful world.

Hi Ridhi - Thanks! I'm glad you found inspiration here!

Hi Kathy - Thank you very much!

Mar 19, 2013 09:45 AM

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