Negative Stress

By
Services for Real Estate Pros with Royalty Homes USA

The first thing you must acknowledge is that stress is just stress. The only way to have no stress in life is to die, and we all do not want to deal with that option right now. Therefore, the "positive" or "negative" designation must come from our own interpretation of the event that caused this stress. When an event that causes you stress takes place, ask yourself "Why is this upsetting me?" Then decide what you are going to do differently so that it will not upset you next time.  If you don't decide right away, you will forget about it and it will happen again. If you don't want the same result, make a change. Use the event as though it was something that you needed in your life so that you can grow to meet a challenge that you will face at a future date.

This works for me. It is just another challenge that I have to overcome. Thanks for reading my blog. Royal..

Comments (11)

Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Well, it is easier to think that everything that comes our way has a purpose or a lesson.

We must learn, otherwise in a similar situation we again feel hopeless and even more stressed.

What you do is the best:  thinking positively about stressors, also try deep abdominal breathing and training in meditation and mindfulness.

Mar 17, 2013 05:51 AM
Royal Goodman
Royalty Homes USA - Madera, CA
"Goodie"

Inna. Thanks alot for the comment. There are so many different ways. I just hope we all wil use at least one. Royal...

Mar 17, 2013 06:01 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Hi Royal,

I do feel we all have our own way of dealing with stress and sometimes it takes awhile to what works best. Some take a walk, read, meditate, go to the gym, talk it out, take a deep breath and count to 10 etc.

Mar 17, 2013 08:42 AM
Royal Goodman
Royalty Homes USA - Madera, CA
"Goodie"

I have always thought that nothing can get me down. I just dare anyone that feels that they could succeed. I guess I am just too strong-hearted. Thanks for the comment. Royal...

Mar 17, 2013 08:53 AM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

Royal, Exercise helps me cope with stress better. I also do deep breathing and quiet time for collecting my thoughts so I don't react badly in a situation.

Mar 17, 2013 09:39 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

For years I fought letting myself get down or feeling negative......it gave me an ulcer.  Since then, I go with the flow, whatever the mood is, I let it happen naturally, but if it's bad, I give it 24 hours.  If I'm still feeling the same way, I "kick it's ass" and move on.  That's what works for me.  It doesn't happen often, but it does happen.

Mar 17, 2013 09:47 AM
Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

You always have great words of personal wisdom to share. Keep it coming, Royal. Great work on regular blogging. Have a wonderful night.

Mar 17, 2013 11:12 AM
Royal Goodman
Royalty Homes USA - Madera, CA
"Goodie"

Real Debbie. That also works for me. I look forward to it.

Roger. I have had the same experience. However, I have been working with kids with cancer. I think of them. Then, I don't have it so bad.

Debbie. Thank you for the comment. I do plan on keeping it up. I will blog about things that help me.

Mar 17, 2013 12:48 PM
Mona Gersky
MoonDancer Realty, Dillsboro,NC - Sylva, NC
GRI,IMSD-Taking the mystery out of real estate.

Royal, if we don't take the time to look inside and discover why a situation is upsetting us then we are doomed to let it happen over and over.  Sometimes stress can be a great educator and turn out to be a very positive thing.

Mar 17, 2013 02:34 PM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Kudos to you for working with kids with cancer............I'm starting to volunteer to help people recently diagnosed with diabetes, which I was in November.  Believe me, I don't feel sorry for myself, just allow myself to go with a bad day if it happens.  There are so many people out there much less fortunate than myself.  I feel blessed.

Mar 17, 2013 11:19 PM
Royal Goodman
Royalty Homes USA - Madera, CA
"Goodie"

Mona. You are so correct. If something did upset us and we didn't ponder over it or think about if it happens again in the future, we can not blame anyone. We did nothing so we will end up with the same result because we let it happen.

Roger. I have done it for almost 20 years and have lost over 100 kids due to this dreadful thing. I have learned so much about life and what it is about. I could tell you stories about the kids that I helped for months. However another day. Anyway, Kudos to you Sir for thinking about other people in their time of need.

Thank you all for your comments. Royal...

Mar 18, 2013 11:43 AM