I see a lot on AR about referrals that turn out to not really be referrals. Is anyone really surprised? Think about it. When you refer someone you are placing your credibility in someone else's hands. Your credibility is now at risk.
Personally speaking, I have to have the utmost assurance that my credibility is going to be returned to me intact before I am willing to put it at risk. I do enough stupid things all by myself, so there is no need to enlist aid, from someone that I do not have complete confidence in, to do more harm.
Relationships need time to develop in order for trust to solidify. If the person referring you has not crossed this line of trust chances are the referral will not live up to your expectations. AR is a great place to introduce yourself and be introduced to others and begin building relationships. It requires a little more than a great blog, some quick comments and on line time to generate a good referral.
My question is: What are you doing outside the cyber world to move your relationships into the wide world of great referrals?