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Don't Worry Be Happy..Speak Well of Others....

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Real Estate Agent with Aubrey and Associates Realty

We are now in the character traits of happy people that are difficult to do.  This is a trait that to me speaks of a couple of things.  It isn't just speaking well of others, it is also the inverse, not speaking ill of others!  It today's society both of these is becoming increasingly difficult.  If you have ever talked to someone who is always in a good mood or always happy, they never seem to have a bad word to say about anyone.  I have been fortunate to know people like this, and it is always refreshing to be in their presence.

Our society seems to want to find the flaws that people have.  Entire "news" agencies have made a lot of money digging up dirt on people.  Whether it is politicians, celebrities, or people who just seem to "good to be true", these agencies want to find any and all of the skeletons in their closets.  This is just wrong!  Everyone has flaws, it is called being a human being.  Instead of finding out what people do wrong, shouldn't we be extolling what it is that they are doing well!  One of the most tired and worn out phrases in the modern venacular is the "have you heard about ..." clause. 

We as Realtors have a Code of Ethics which we should abide by.  One part of this is that we shouldn't say anything disparaging about another Realtor.  Believe me, I know Realtors out there who make it very difficult to adhere to this part of the Code. What I am attempting to say is we should talk about what they do well!  I am reminded a story that my father told me, when he was a small child he and my grandmother were at her parents house for a quilting bee.  The ladies in that small town began talking about "poor Mrs. So and So, her husband was absolutely worthless, how terrible she had it being married to him.  My father was out on the front porch with his grandfather.  His grandfather, listened quietly, then stuck his head in the screen door and said, "I don't know that he is worthless, have you ever heard that man whistle?  He is the finest whistler I have ever heard.  He can whistle almost any tune that you can think of." 

The point being if we look hard enough, we can find something good to say about someone.  It isn't always easy, and it certainly isn't as tantalizing as the dirty gossip, but in the long run we will be better for it.  The thing about our propensity to share everyone else's dirty laundry opens our closets and our dirty laundry as well.  I mentioned knowing people who never speak ill of anyone, the thing is, I have never heard anyone speak ill of them either!  It is more than that, who will trust you with anything, however small if they know that you're willing to share gossip with other people?  I know that there are people who I guard everything that I say when I am near them.  I never know how my words may be twisted and used against me.

I believe that this World could use as much good news and positive stories as we can come up with.  I know that it can use a lot more kindness, and what is speaking well of others if it isn't being kind?  What would the world be without gossip?  I don't know, but I would bet it would be as boring as some would have us believe.  Seek the best in people, extoll their virtues and keep their secrets, it won't be easy, but you will be happier by doing so.  I am fortunate, I have a friend in whom I can confide anything.  This person won't let me get away with anything, but is still a great ear, one who I trust.  How much does everyone need a person like this?  I can't help but think almost everyone!  Be that type of person, and don't worry, be happy!

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Comments (10)

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

TONY & DARCY,

SUGGESTED FOR THE FOLLOWING REASON:

"We as Realtors have a Code of Ethics which we should abide by. One part of this is that we shouldn't say anything disparaging about another Realtor. Believe me, I know Realtors out there who make it very difficult to adhere to this part of the Code. What I am attempting to say is we should talk about what they do well! I am reminded a story that my father told me, when he was a small child he and my grandmother were at her parents house for a quilting bee. The ladies in that small town began talking about "poor Mrs. So and So, her husband was absolutely worthless, how terrible she had it being married to him. My father was out on the front porch with his grandfather. His grandfather, listened quietly, then stuck his head in the screen door and said, "I don't know that he is worthless, have you ever heard that man whistle? He is the finest whistler I have ever heard. He can whistle almost any tune that you can think of."

You drove your point home all the way to the finish line in this post. I hope it gets featured. It serves as an excellent reminder about the CODE which is often poked fun of by insensitive people.

Apr 25, 2013 08:14 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

This post reasonates with me very much. It is most difficult when you are in a tough negotiation (which I am presently in!) and the other realtor is pushing your buttons.  During this process you have to reach deep to find that inner sanctum of positive energy; grab your composure and put that happy face on for your customer. 

We always have to remember it's all about them (the customer). 

 

Apr 25, 2013 08:40 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Tony and Darcy

The best practice is if you don't have something good to . . . . its better to say nothing.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 25, 2013 09:26 AM
Tom Arstingstall, General Contractor, Dry Rot, Water Damage Sacramento, El Dorado County - (916) 765-5366
Dry Rot and Water Damage www.tromlerconstruction.com Mobile - 916-765-5366 - Placerville, CA
General Contractor, Dry Rot and Water Damage

I like the adage, "You get what you pay attention to". We can all find something good in others.

Apr 25, 2013 10:26 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

This is a really well written blog about an important topic!  I have always thought that would wish to gossip to me about another, would likely gossip ABOUT me as well!  I also agree with Patricia's #1 comment.

Apr 25, 2013 02:18 PM
Tony & Darcy Cannon
Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT
The C Team

Patricia, Thank you!

Sheri, There are times when focusing on the client is the only way to get past some of stuff that we have to deal with.

Lou, Very true!

Tom, That is wise advice!

Myrl, Very true, and thank you!

Apr 25, 2013 11:55 PM
MichelleCherie Carr Crowe .Just Call. 408-252-8900
Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! . DRE #00901962 . Licensed to Sell since 1985 . Altas Realty - San Jose, CA
Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years

My mother, the late legendary Silicon Valley real estate expert, taught me, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

Apr 26, 2013 02:51 AM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
MOOERS REALTY - Houlton, ME
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Don't take it personally. Don't think others are just behaving this way to wreck your day is good advice. Keep your eyes on your reaction to other people that are not just like you and me. That like ice cream come in more than 31 flavors.

Apr 26, 2013 03:01 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Tony and Darcy, speaking well of others in important in every profession, and negative talk only injures the profession.

May 02, 2013 12:43 PM
Tony & Darcy Cannon
Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT
The C Team

Michelle, My mother taught me the same thing!

Andrew, Thanks for stopping by.

Bob, That is very true!

May 03, 2013 01:19 AM