You Are So Well-Preserved For A Middle-Aged Woman

Real Estate Broker/Owner with North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate

Woman Reading By The Swimming PoolThat is precisely what a 20-something neighbor –  a young lady I'd never met before said to me as we both lounged by the pool recently.  She delivered the fabulous news in-between text messages she was exchanging with a girlfriend that was sitting right next to her.  At first, I turned around to see who else she might be talking to then graciously said "Thank You" as I buried my head back into the latest issue of Reader's Digest magazine.

A Healthy Dose of Reality Can Ruin Your Whole Day (If You Let It)

To say that my neighbor's comment 'hit me like a ton of bricks' is an understatement.  Quite frankly, I didn't know whether to feel incredibly flattered or incredibly depressed.  Either way, her unsolicited declaration triggered a pensive, nostalgic journey down memory lane.  Specifically, I began to think about major shifts in communication styles which have essentially transformed how we relate to each other on a professional level.  Since the business world has always been and will continue to be survival of the fittest, we often find ourselves desperately riding the waves of technological evolution or risk getting left behind.  Meanwhile, although I absolutely, positively embrace technology, it is of this well-preserved, middle-aged woman's opinion that certain things never go out of style.

What Can I Say?  I Like Vowels

When it comes to text messaging, I am unfamiliar with the ins-and-outs of 'text speak' on purpose.  Personally, I text like I talk using grammatically correct words and sentences including punctuation.  And, I'm pretty sure it drives some people crazy.  It's just that I don't care much for misinterpretations and in my experience, texting abbreviations and partial expressions tends to leave too much room for error.  Now, don't get me wrong.  In many cases, I will text 'short and sweet' messages (albeit using sentence structure that would make my high school English teacher proud.)  However, when it comes to business conversations, one should expect lengthy-War & Peace-quality-text-messages from me.  Rather,  how about a phone conversation instead?  When it comes to the 'Misunderstandings Department,' a solid phone conversation has rarely let me down in the past.  Of course, both parties must be willing to dial a phone.  Oh, did I mention that I still use phrases like 'dial a phone' too?

Hey Carie!  Nice To Meet You

As I continued to reminisce about the days of yore, I distinctly remembered 'face-to-face' as being the Gold Standard when it came to sales and relationship building.  Back then, we essentially had to meet with people in order to recruit more businessIn other words, there was 'virtually' no better way (pun intended.)  Sales was (and still is) a numbers game.  And, the odds for success were (and still are) highly dependent upon the quantity of viable contacts initiated or established on a daily basis.  That said, little compares to the value derived through in-person conversations.  Simply stated, whenever I attend networking events, conferences, and most other meet-and-greet-types-of-gatherings (and I attend my fair share of all of these,) I have the opportunity in real time to ask questions and practice the art of 'active listening'.  Without a doubt, both are conducive to business relationship success and to the success of any relationship for that matter.

So Back To This Middle-Aged Stuff

When exactly did middle-age become a part my life?  I probably should have noticed something was lurking when clerks at the checkout counter started calling me "Ma'am."  Alas, I did manage to get carded the other day, however, my excitement was curtailed when the clerk said he was required to card everyone.  *Sigh*  Perhaps I'll go listen to some music.  I always feel better when I listen to music.  Now, where did I put those Frank Sinatra albums.  Oh, wait they don't call them albums anymore.

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Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Carie, my friend, as always, you are a delight to read! I text like I talk too!

Jun 07, 2013 05:21 AM #58
Jon Karlen
Finish Line Realty - Shelbyville & Louisville Ky Real Estate - Shelbyville, KY
Louisville & Shelbyville Kentucky real estate

Heh, thats just a rather odd comment to make.  I suppose taking it in stride as a compliment is the best way to handle it. :)

Jun 07, 2013 05:27 AM #59
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

Had to come back and read all the great comments.  And here's another reply:  "Just wait, my dear!"  ;-)

Jun 07, 2013 05:45 AM #60
Richard Iarossi
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Crofton, MD
Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate

I went to the movies a little while ago and the little snot at the window didn't even ask me whether I wanted the senior discount...she just gave it to me. Oh well, even with the $4 discount, there was nothing at the counter to buy.

Jun 07, 2013 05:48 AM #61
Michelle Carr Crowe,Altas Just Call...408-252-8900!
Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! . DRE #00901962 . Licensed to Sell since 1985 . Altas Realty - San Jose, CA
Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years

What can you say to a "compliment" like that except "thank you."

Jun 07, 2013 07:58 AM #62
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Carie, YIPPPEEEE!! I knew this would get featured....I am quietly proud as my granny used to say.

Jun 07, 2013 08:07 AM #63
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Richard:  Yes, my exterior is aging faster than my interior too!  And, if we knew then what we know now ... I think we'd ALL be more dangerous :)

Kimberley:  I'm very lucky too!  Hope you are enjoying your world as well.  'Enjoy Your World' is really a terrific phrase ... I like it.  Thanks :)

Tom:  Totally agree!  Technology + People Skills = It's All Good!

Helen & Larry:  And, I do a fair share of volunteer work too.  Never thought that some folks might think that means I'm retired?!  Maybe I'll wear a badge that says:  'I'm Not Retired, I Just Love To Volunteer' :)

Andrew:  Great comment and message!  Being comfortable in our own skin, content in being where we are personally & professionally, and living a full life with good friends and family is what matters the most, yes?

Michael:  And, with photo editing software ... the sky's the limit!

Ed & Tracy:    Thanks!  Good Luck and Success to you too!

Gary:  He's one of my all-time favorites, for sure!

Edward & Celia:  Thanks ... glad you could relate :)

Bryan:  Well said ... I agree with you completely!


Jun 07, 2013 11:51 AM #64
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Jimmy:  I like the advertisements :)

Wanda:  Yes, coming for a young 'un, I think you're right :)

Donna:  Exactly ... there's a time and place for it!  And, a pay phone?!  Haven't seen one of those in ages ... cool!

Bill:  That's so true!  On some days my body feels older than on other days.  But, my mind and my personality ... always young!!

Betty:  No, getting older doesn't get any easier ... so I guess we'll just have to accept it, right?

Suzanne:  Thanks!  I think she meant it as one.  And, I know what you mean ... how r u 2 day?!? :)

Bette:  Ha!  I'd heard the phrase about being like a fine wine improving with age before.  Yet, I'd never heard that last part ... 'but a bit of a slow pour'  I love it!  Thanks :)

Tammie:  You're right ... it is a brave new world out there!  And, I'd rather embrace change then get sent to the 'old folks home' too :)  Ha!

Alan:  Thank You, Kind Sir :)

Allison:  Thanks for stopping by!




Jun 07, 2013 12:05 PM #65
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Tamra:  That's a great texting practice with your kids.  Technology and good grammar don't have to be mutually exclusive, yes?

Connie:  What a nice comment!  Thank you for the kind words, my friend :)

Jon:  It was one of those 'you can't make this stuff up' moments, for sure!  So, you just have to laugh about it :)

Carla:  Thanks for stopping by again!  Yes, really great comments and I like your newest addition ... I'll remember it!

Richard:  Your 'little snot' remark has kept me laughing since I read it!!  Yeah, when they just give you the discount without asking ... ouch!

Michelle:  Yep, that was all I could say at that moment :)

Gayle:  Awwww ... thanks, Gayle!  And, I like your granny's expression :)

Jun 07, 2013 12:13 PM #66
Fred Griffin, on leave of absence from ActiveRain
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

Growing old is better than the alternative.

  FWIW, my cousin Lillian is 105.   Aunt Mary made it to 102, our family friend Faye Miles also lived to 102.  You and I have a long way to go, Carie!

Jun 07, 2013 10:20 PM #67
Wayne and Jean Marie Zuhl
Samsel & Associates - Clark, NJ
The Last Names You'll Ever Need in Real Estate

Good morning Carie - Funny post :) I think "middle aged" is always about 15 years older than I am. 

Jun 07, 2013 11:20 PM #68
Brad MacKenzie
Brad MacKenzie - Duxbury, MA
Turning Houses into Homes on the South Shore

That's funny. You're funny. Being able to handle aging with grace and humor is a sign of wisdom and health. Does that help or not so much? ("Not so much" being "what the kids say now".)  

All I know is that people seem to find it difficult to be sensitive - to empathize - about other people.

"Aging gracefully is for quitters"

Here's one I got recently. I was talking to an agent in another broker's shop and the managing broker called over from her desk, "You know, you're a pretty good-looking man for a Realtor. Do you want to come work here?" Um, thanks? I really didn't know which of the three parts of that to respond to first.

Jun 07, 2013 11:41 PM #69
Marti Steele Kilby, CRS
Steele Group Realty - La Mesa, CA
Broker/Owner, San Diego, CA

Great post Carie, and I couldn't agree more!  I refuse to use text talk even if it takes me twice as long to send a text, and really, if it's all that important pick-up the darn phone! 

Regarding the aging comment... well, I think that manners have gone the way of complete sentences for some young people.  I'm sure she didn't mean it to be rude, but who would say that to a stranger?

Jun 08, 2013 01:22 AM #70
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Carie-  your post has reminded me that it's time I schedule a complete overhaul.  It's hard when my 40 year old "self" keeps trying to climb out of my much older body. 

Jun 08, 2013 07:20 AM #71
Wallace S. Gibson, CPM
Gibson Management Group, Ltd. - Charlottesville, VA

When I get comments like that...I just say BETTER WOMEN THROUGH CHEMISTRY!  Let them guess what type

Jun 08, 2013 08:44 AM #72
Rob D. Shepherd
Windermere/lane county - Florence, OR
Principal Broker GRI, SRES

GREAT POST! I still tell people "call me, its NOT a typewriter".

Jun 09, 2013 05:32 AM #73
Helen and Larry Prier- Re-Max Gateway - Residential Real Estate
RE-MAX Gateway- Residential Real Estate Sales - Anacortes, WA
Anacortes & surrounding Skagit & Island Counties

Carie I thought i would let you know I included your post in my Favorites for last week.

Jun 10, 2013 12:59 AM #74
Hella Mitschke Rothwell
(831) 626-4000 - Honolulu, HI
Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker

Sounds like a compliment that she even SPOKE to you. Amazing that she didn't ask for your text number to tell you that. I think it's sad that the young generation CAN'T TALK to each other, they have to do it in chopped up misspelled phrases. No wonder that, when they do, they come out with these little "thoughtlets" that, to us, are kind of rude, albeit well meant (I think). We are lucky we are not them, to navigate in today's youth culture.

Jun 12, 2013 03:23 AM #75
Kathy Sheehan
Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021 - Atlanta, GA
Senior Loan Officer

Carie, I don't like text messaging either for the same reason!

Jun 12, 2013 09:57 PM #76
Glenn Freezman
Family Abstract, Inc. - Horsham, PA

My wife and I went to the night club at the Casino, long line to get in, checking EVERYONES ID, Almost everyone.  My wife and I go up, and he just waives us right through, if that's the case why not have an "Oldies" line for speedier access to the bar.  My wife tells everyone she is 60, so they tell her she looks great!

Jun 18, 2013 06:29 AM #77
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