Ten Rules for Being Human

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1.   You will receive a body.

  You may like or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.

2.  You will learn lessons.

           You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called “life.”

3.  There are no mistakes, only lessons.

 Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation.  The “failed” experiments are as

 much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”

4.  Lessons are repeated until they are learned.

 A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it.  When you

 have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5.  Learning lessons does not end.

            There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons.  If you’re alive, that means

             there are still lessons to be learned.

6.  “There” is no better a place than “here.”

 When your “there” as become a “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that

           will look better than “here.”

7.  Other people are merely mirrors of you.

 You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something

           you love or hate about yourself.

8.  What you make of your life is up to you.

 You have all the tools and resources you need.  What you do with them is up to you. The

           choice is yours.

9.  Your answers lie within you.

           The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.

10.  You will forget all this.


We found this note in midst of cleaning our garage - and some of things left over from my mom's estate -- do not know where it came from, though there are sites on web attributing it to Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott, the original copy we have predates her life, and is attributed as above.


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Comments (31)

William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Steven..I love the list.  I am going to show this to my adult kids who need a reality check.

The red 'X' was not neccessary.

Jul 08, 2013 07:18 AM
Steven Cook
No Longer Processing Mortgages. - Tacoma, WA

William -- glad you found it to be useful.  I have removed the red "x" upon your suggestion.

Jul 08, 2013 08:13 AM
Nick T Pappas
Assoc. Broker/Broker ABR, CRS, SFR, e-Pro, @Homes Realty Group, @HomesBirmingham & Providence Property Mgmnt, LLC Hun... - Huntsville, AL
Madison & Huntsville Alabama Real Estate Resource

Steven, very interesting and oh so true...now regarding #10...what were we talking about once more?

Jul 08, 2013 10:48 AM
Jay Markanich
Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC - Bristow, VA
Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia

I don't know.  I dislike things in other people, like behaviors for example, that disgust me but do NOT reflect anything or characteristic of my own!

And sometimes I go extra-world, indeed to another place in the universe, for answers that do not reside inside of me!

Jul 08, 2013 08:38 PM
Steven Cook
No Longer Processing Mortgages. - Tacoma, WA

Nick -- they tell me there are three things that show you are getting up in age, your hearing starts going, then your memory,..... and I can't remember the third!  ;-)

Jay -- very good points you are making, especially for those of us who have a solid religious foundation in our lives.

Jul 09, 2013 04:43 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Steven:  I am very much intrigued by #6... "There" is no better a place than "here."

Your list goes on to explain that "When your 'there' has become a 'here,' you simply obtain another 'there' that will look better than your new 'here.'"

Wow... there is so much inner knowledge packed into those words.  I wish I had learned this long ago.  In fact, I even wish I knew this better than I do right now.  Thanks so much.

Jul 10, 2013 06:04 AM
Steven Cook
No Longer Processing Mortgages. - Tacoma, WA

Karen -- glad we could help get your brain working on thinking through this point.  Hope you have a wonderful week!

Jul 10, 2013 06:08 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

By the way... I don't think that what you call a "religious foundation" necessarily has anything to do with the items on this list.  Of course, for some individuals, they can... but these things can very easily and very simply be called "wisdom."

Jul 10, 2013 06:09 AM
Steven Cook
No Longer Processing Mortgages. - Tacoma, WA

Karen -- some folks might see the religious foundation of their life giving them a different take on some of the points made in the list.    I agree that most of this is what should be termed as wisdom, which unfortunately, like common sense is not a prevalent as many would like it to be.

Jul 10, 2013 07:36 AM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Steven, what a great list! Thank you for taking the time to share it with us. Like Pat said, number 7 holds a great deal of weight, I have been discussing this recently quite a bit.

Jul 13, 2013 11:32 PM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

I saw your post on Pats weekly wrap up...I can see why she included it..thanks for sharing!

Jul 13, 2013 11:55 PM
Debbie Gartner
The Flooring Girl - White Plains, NY
The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers

Wow, what a great list of life's truth's.  Interesting note on the history/attribution of this.  Oh, and I just realized I wasn't subscribed to your blog, so I fixed that.

Jul 14, 2013 12:41 AM
Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities
Charlemagne International Properties - Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A.

Wow, your mom saved that clipping for a purpose and perhaps you just fulfilled it by sharing it with your AR peeps!

Jul 14, 2013 12:59 AM
Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Steven~ Isn't it great what you find when you are cleaning? We just went through some old boxes in our basement getting ready for a yard sale and came across a small book of Zig Ziglar quotes. Thanks for sharing the "rules" with us!

Jul 14, 2013 02:58 AM
Jay & Michelle Lieberman
Keller Williams World Class - Agoura Hills, CA
Creating Calm in the Buying and Selling Chaos

All of the mistakes and failures are lessons.  Painful sometimes, but if there were easy they would not be something to learn from.  They would be ignored as annoyances.

Jul 14, 2013 04:40 AM
Nancy Frimann
Eagle Ridge Realty/Signature Homes & Estates - Gilroy, CA

Great list and great comments.  Very interesting.  Good post, I enjoyed it.

Jul 14, 2013 06:22 AM
Brad MacKenzie
Brad MacKenzie - Duxbury, MA
Turning Houses into Homes on the South Shore

Front Cover 

Yes, Steve, this is from Cherie Carter-Scott's 1998 book, "If Life is a Game, Here are the Rules". The rules were very popular and eventually were published in Chicken Soup for the Soul, where they became even more popular. That's where I ran into them for the first time. Good stuff!

Jul 14, 2013 08:33 AM
Steven Cook
No Longer Processing Mortgages. - Tacoma, WA

Andrea -- some of these do indeed make you stop and ponder them, rather than just rush through.  Of course, those who don't ponder them, are more likely to find number 10 coming to pass sooner.

Kristin -- thank you for coming by and commenting.  It was interesting to see what happened after Pat noted it.

Debbie -- that little bit of history makes it all the more interesting in my view.  Thanks for your comment and for subscribing.

Norma -- the one issue with ALL the things mom saved, is knowing which can be tossed, and which, like this one should be shared with broader audience.  Thank you for your comment.

Donna -- we found a Zigler booklet while cleaning out the garage -- and I will have to get some time to look into it again.

Jay  & Michelle -- aren't those annoyances things we should be learning from as well?  Or is it that we are in too much of a hurry to stop and recognize the lesson we could have learned there?

Nancy -- thank you for stopping by and commenting.  I am glad you enjoyed reading it, and hope that it will be beneficial to you.

Brad -- it would be interesting to find out how many other common comments like these have been attributed to some person, when they were originally noted as "anonymous".

Jul 15, 2013 02:45 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

#7 is one to ponder.

I try to avoid using the word "hate," but I certainly don't like many things I see in other people. For instance, mass murderers. ARe they a reflection of me? I don't think so! 

On a different level - how about the media and government people who work hard to stir up hatred between the races. I have no use for them. How about the teachers and school officials who have gone so crazy that they kick small children out of school because their food is "bitten into the shape of a gun." Nope, don't see myself in them, either. 

Jul 18, 2013 04:42 AM
Steven Cook
No Longer Processing Mortgages. - Tacoma, WA

Marte -- I usually don't use the word hate either.  I think that the point is that only those things we find within ourselves lead us to that extreme level (either love or hate) -- other things may make us upset, frustrate us, get us in a lather - but I don't hate people as in your examples, as much as I pity, am confused by them (and their supposed motives).

Jul 18, 2013 04:47 AM