OK...so I acted like a baby today! Give me my bottle and leave me alone!

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Gotta tell you when I was growing up I had a great family and a great life.  I went to college and spent 5 and 1/2 years graduating from a 4 year undergraduate school.  I found and accepted Christ into my life and "grew up" so to speak.  I went on and got a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and then went on and got a law degree at Northern Illinois University. 

That brings me to today.  I have a number of commercial deals that I've been working on for over 9 months.  Today they've stalled somewhat.  No different really than any other day.  It's just that it was one of those days that I felt as if my feet were stuck in quicksand.  Everyone else was moving forward, but not me.  Everyone else's life was moving forward.  Mine was stagnant.  I, the epitome of hope and inspiration for me, my employees and others was distraught and despondent.  I was buying "the lie" that since my current dreams hadn't materialized as I HAD PLANNED, that feelings of hopelessness set in.  The reality is that I have 15 large commercial deals so close to funding...should fund any minute or any day now, but since it hadn't happened as I expected, I was having a heavy heart.

Hours later I get notice that a gunman opens fire at my Alma Mater at Northern Illinois University prior to killing himself.  My wife and family go out there every week and I know a lot of people out there.  As far as I'm aware, many of my friends are all safe....but still....horrible and icing on the proverbial "bad day cake."

Later I took my 9 year old to basketball practice and opened the bible.  I don't carry a bible with me all the time...it was just one of those moments that a guy needs a rock to hold onto.  This is not a preachy post, but I opened up to Mark 23:9.  Basically someone says to Jesus "help the little faith that I have" and Jesus does just what the man had asked....

That got me thinking that I was being a "ussy"....er...wussy.  So I'm just having a bad day.  REally my partners have all said that this is only about the 3rd bad day in the last nine months....that's one frickin time every three months.  Sooooooo stupid.  I work hard and think that I just haven't been taking care of myself with rest and self-attention.  Needless to say, after reading about the faith that the man exercised, and the hard work and relentless work ethic that I exhibit, I just need to chalk it up as a bad day.  That's it....nothing more.

This may sound as just griping or poor me post, but really I want to use it as an encouragement for those who are having their bad day, bad week, or even a bad year.  Mike Ditka always when it came to negative things in his life "THIS TOO SHALL PASS." 

For me recognizing that I was in a funk for just having a bad day is as liberating as getting out of the funk.  So, now that I'm no longer throwing a frickin pity party, I want all of you who are having the same to have permission to have it, live it, and then bury it.

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Jennifer Steck
Rocky Mountain Homescapes, Keller Williams, Denver Colorado - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate
Larry- It's amazing how tragedy reminds us to put things into perspective. Why is it that we always seem to focus on the bad day when there are so many great ones? Your post has really inspired me to believe and to get back to a more balanced life. Thanks for sharing your struggle.
Feb 14, 2008 02:44 PM #1
Bob & Carolin Benjamin
Benjamin Realty LLC - Gold Canyon, AZ
East Phoenix Arizona Homes
Bad days come and go. Sort of goes along with this market. But staying positive helps to get through them. Take care.
Feb 14, 2008 02:48 PM #2
Brian Schulman
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage, Lancaster PA - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster County PA RealEstate Expert 717-951-5552
Larry, "this too shall pass" was one of my father's favorite sayings for bad times.
Feb 14, 2008 02:53 PM #3
Debra Gambill
Weichert Realtor's Southern Coast - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Realtor, N.C. / S.C

What seems like a big deal suddenly becomes small potatoes when we hear about tragedy like that

Feb 14, 2008 07:18 PM #4
Sandra Workman
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Kankakee, IL
One of the Realtors in my office has Lou Gehrig's disease (ALS).  Whenever I'm having a really bad day I think of her and the problems that she has and is going to face.  Pretty much puts everything into proper perception for me! 
Feb 14, 2008 10:27 PM #5
Kelly Shoemaker
Coldwell Banker SELECT - Broken Arrow, OK
Realtor Broken Arrow, OK
Everybody is entitled to that "bad day", the "pity party" whatever you want to call it.  What I like about AR is you can get it off your chest and feel much better.  Than when you start receiving the comments you realize "you're not alone"  There is always tomorrow and just remember it could be better than today or god forbid it could be worse.... Hope your day is a good one TODAY!
Feb 14, 2008 10:34 PM #6
Ginger Wilcox
Sindeo - San Francisco, CA
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. geez louise.  Sorry, talking to myself. Glad the pity party is complete.  I'll let you know when mine is done.  ;o)
Feb 15, 2008 08:10 AM #7
Larry Bettag
Cherry Creek Mortgage Illinois Residential Mortgage License LMB #0005759 Cherry Creek Mortgage NMLS #: 3001 - Saint Charles, IL
Vice-President of National Production

Jennifer---yes....gut check time.

Bob & Carolin.....we just have to keep in mind that it's just a moment...not a reality

Brian...he was in good company with Ditka

Debra...you got it.

Sandra...humbling actually

Kelly...yes it really is almost therapeutic

Ging....we'll hook up soon.  I have my next read for you.

Feb 15, 2008 02:27 PM #8
Alexander Harb
Knights Investing - Mesquite, TX
Dallas, Texas Real Estate Investing

I LOVED this post, Larry....... "This too shall pass".. so true....and something we ALL need to be reminded of..... from time to time.....

One thing though.... could you change the "female dog word" to something a little less...."non-Christian"??? You did post this to,"Christianity and Real Estate", correct?

The rest of the post is dead on...even through your feelings of frustration and everything....
Just that one little itty bitty word......

I thank you in advance....



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