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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Avion Realty

It was a cold February morning in 1980 when a father and his son, on their way to school hit an ice patch and slid off the road and down a snowy hill. The car tumbled over a few times leaving the father miraculously unharmed but the son was thrown from the car and it came to rest on the top of his legs. Upon examination of the cars cockpit, the father realized his son was nowhere in sight and began to look for him outside the car in the frigid snow. That is when he found him trapped beneath his car. With a sudden unexplainable rush of adrenaline, the father lifted the car until his son was free.

In life, we are often told of all the things that we can't do. Unfortunately, the people who are generally advising us are unqualified to do so. The saying goes, "If you want what your friends have, then do what your friends do." Ben Franklin once said, "Those who despair to rise in distinction by their own efforts are happy if others can be depressed to a level with themselves." Nobody can lift a car. But the father did. The reason the father was able to lift the car off of his son, was that his WHY was big enough. That is to say, in that situation, he simply knew not the word can't.

Scientists all agree that bumblebees can't fly. Its body is too big for such small wings and furthermore, their ratio of body weight to wingspan is disproportionate. Apparently nobody told the bumblebee that! After all, if they didn't fly how would they eat?

You see, I know a little about motivation. My four year old son was born with a brain injury generally classified as cerebral palsy. Since the costs involved in caring for someone with a disability are very high, I simply have no choice other than to be successful. He needs therapies which cost thousands of dollars each year that insurance companies don't cover and the cost of medical equipment is astronomical. Even simple things like Christmas toys need to be adapted so that he can use them. Of course, that adaptation comes at a premium.

Don't misunderstand me, you don't need tragedy to strike in order to get yourself motivated nor am I complaining. I am simply illustrating a point that you need to find that which will make you act in spite of yourself.  What is it going to take to make you take that first step and venture into the world of plenty? What needs to happen?  Take that first step. Everything that you have ever wanted lies in wait for you just outside your comfort zone. Stop telling yourself the stories and stop making excuses. Excuses kill desire and thus your dreams. You deserve all that life has to offer.

Yours in Success,

Ron Bouchard

Comments (2)

Judith Clausen
Buyers Advantage Real Estate of Metro Denver - Denver, CO
Judith R. Clausen

Who is it who said "Necessity is the mother of invention?"  You're right.  It was instructive to see Josh Blue's achievement as America's Last Comic Standing. His "why" was big enough.


Aug 12, 2006 04:40 AM
Teri Isner
Keller Williams Realty at the Lakes - Orlando, FL
Ron, I loved reading your blog and the "why" story.  When we hire for our team we always go to 10 deep with why, it also works with a listing why are you selling...to get to the real motivation speaks volumes. 
Aug 12, 2006 10:00 AM