Struggling With Balance When Grieving and a New Home in Citrus Heights

Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Gold DRE #00697006

new listing sacramentoAs real estate agents who work with sellers and buyers in the real estate industry, we often have to deal with death, whether we want to or not. It comes with the territory. There are buyers who die in the middle of escrow, especially if they're waiting for a short sale. And there are buyers who just feel like they have died in the middle of waiting for a short sale. There are sellers of homes who have inherited them from relatives who have passed away. The homes are filled with memories, and it's not always easy parting with them. It's like selling a part of your soul, to some people, like cutting off a leg.

I had to sell a home last year for a guy whose wife died in her bed and wasn't discovered for 3 days. Even though this couple was divorced, it was still painful for the seller to deal with selling the home. We need to always be as empathetic as we can when dealing with clients who are going through pain. When we're going through the same painful process ourselves, it can intensify the situation, but it can also give us an opportunity to be more sensitive. You can never be too sensitive about how other people feel.

Read more in my professional blog today on my business website about this very matter. A New Listing: Home in Citrus Heights for Sale. We all struggle with balance when we're grieving.

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Elizabeth Weintraub is co-partner of Weintraub & Wallace Team of Top Producing Realtors, an author, home buying expert at The Balance, a Land Park resident, and a veteran real estate agent who specializes in older, classic homes in Land Park, Curtis Park, Midtown, Carmichael and East Sacramento, as well as tract homes in Elk Grove, Natomas, Roseville and Lincoln. Call Elizabeth Weintraub at 916.233.6759. Put our combined 80 years of real estate experience to work for you. Broker-Associate at RE/MAX Gold. DRE License # 00697006.

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Comments (7)

Debra Hight
Coldwell Banker United, Realtors - Houston, TX
Debra Hight

How true Elizabeth.  Earlier this year one of my dear friends died tragically and I was in a fog the first few days.  I was blessed at the time to be working with the very best clients who were out of town buyers.  Finally, when it was apparent to me I wasn't going to at the top of my game I told them my friend had died. They were so understanding and kind it made me want to work even harder for them.

Aug 18, 2013 06:55 AM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%
RE/MAX Gold - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

Hi Debra: I thought you were going to say they couldn't see you sobbing because they were out of town. What's hard for me is when agents call about my listings and ask: How are you? I realize they don't want to know. But still.

Aug 18, 2013 07:02 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Elizabeth,  We sure to struggle to achieve balance. Death is a tough one. Agents keep working even when we are struggling with grief from loss.  We truly do need to be sensitive to what our clients are faced with. 

It's strange for me to read this. Because of how I live, very much a recluse, I've pondered how long I might be dead before anyone found me.  I worry about my pet, Mikey. He could only survive a few days. 

Aug 18, 2013 07:24 AM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%
RE/MAX Gold - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

I hate to say this, Kathleen, but if you died and Mikey was starving, he would eat you. In a New York-minute, Jack. I guess it depends what Mikey is, you don't say if he's a dog or a cat or a bird, like, if Mikey was a hamster, it would take him a long time to chew you up. Ah, you make me laugh today, so thank you!!

Aug 18, 2013 07:32 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

It's life funny.  I went to bed after petting my cats last night... who are 9 and 11 years old and had you on my mind.  Early this morning came one of "those" phone calls and I'm grieving the loss of someone I love.  yet from the ICU waiting room I was emailing clients today.  I have to play catch up and work fast in the morning, then back to the hospital.  Yet here I sit next to my chatty cat thinking about you and Pia.

Aug 18, 2013 02:34 PM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

This is really scary. Death is a terrible thing for the family and friends, but to die and to be found days sad.

Aug 18, 2013 04:50 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

When I was a cop I grew to not have a feeling on the death of anyone.  Been there seen that.  After awhile you become desensitized to that sort of thing.  Sad to say but it is true

Aug 18, 2013 10:28 PM

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