A mothers work is never ending

By
Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Preferred Realty

While sitting here reading some of the blogs by parents with smaller children, I think back to when my kids were small.  The worries were still there but it's a whole different set. 

   My oldest is 21 - and is living out on his own for the first time.  I still lay awake at night worrying if he's O.K., is his rent and utilities paid.  Does he have enough groceries?  If I don't hear from him at least once a day I think he's in a ditch somewhere needing help.  I have recently become his daily ride from work. His girlfriend drops him off at work at 6 a.m., comes to our house to sleep until she goes to work at 8:00 a.m., then I pick him up at 2:00 every day.  Yes, it's a pain to work my day around this, but at least he's coming to my house and I can make sure he has eaten at least one meal a day that isn't just macaroni and cheese.

   My middle son is 17.  This winter he has wrecked his car and has caused "damage" to my car twice.  We are now in the process of looking for headlights for an 87 Nissan Sentra, of which only 2 years of headlights will work for this particular car.  Once his car gets back on the road, I can stop worrying as much that my car will be in another accident and I'll lose my transportation.  Until then, I have to be home daily at 3:30 to make sure he gets to work on time.

   Last night I brought my daughter, who will be 16 on the 29th of February to her Winter ball dance at school.    Seeing her standing there all grown up makes me realize that we're in for the second set of worries from her now.  Gone are the "mommy I need" days and here come the "she's late for her curfew days."  Yes, I am a blatant "DOUBLE STANDARDS" parent with her.  I keep her on lockdown a whole lot more than I did the boys.  I trust her, but I don't trust 'the boys' that come around!  She's my baby and I try to remind her of that daily!

   So, to all you parents who have little ones - spend as much time with them as you possibly can.  Once they are teenagers, trying to spend the day with them is like pulling teeth!

Comments (10)

Mike Jones
SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) - Tucson, AZ
Mike Jones NMLS 223495

Sandra,

You're a Mom, and a good one!  It'll be okay.

Mike in Tucson

Feb 17, 2008 02:20 PM
Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist
Kingsbridge Realty, Inc - Hubert, NC
Hi Sandra,
My little one is 4 years old and I do not look forward to the "dating" years.  I'm thinking about putting her in a convent!  LOL!
Feb 18, 2008 02:10 AM
Carol Lee
Dilbeck Real Estate - Oak Park, CA
Realtor - Agoura, Oak Park, Westlake CA Homes

Hi Sandra- I have two sons, aged 16 and 18.   I remember well the days of day care and preschool!  Getting dinner on the table is still a challenge these days!!

The older one should be off to college next year.  He is still waiting to hear from one other school before he makes his decision on where to go.  I told him at dinner tht he was responsible for knowing when to apply for housing.  My husband looked at me, saying he would get  a lousy dorm cuz he wouldn't remember to send in the info.  Well, I guess then it will be his own fault,eh?  He has tolearn to take care of his stugg sometime!  do I worry about him?  Sure do!  How will he do onhis own in college?  He has food allergies,and refused to carry his epi-pen around.  What if he heats something he shouldn't?  Time for Mom to let go.  I traveled halfway around the world with a girlfriend at age 17!

My younger boy just got his driver's license.  If he ish't back by 11 PM I am in panic mode.  He insists he is a good driver.  And he is correct, he is.  But he has only been driving on his own for 2 weeks!

I don't think we ever stop worrying about our kids.  But it sure is easier to go out and work now!  They are out with friends, or working, and sadly, don't need us as much anymore!  But we will still all remember holding them in our arms as infants, and being up all night when they were sick.

 

Feb 18, 2008 05:39 PM
Sandra Workman
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Kankakee, IL
BBA, Broker, CRS, GRI, ABR, SFR, CNE, ePRO, CNHS

I try to reason with my kids that it isn't that I don't trust them - I don't trust others around them!  :)

Feb 18, 2008 11:25 PM
Joddie Roberts
Mountain Real Estate and Property Management - Spokane, WA
Your Spokane Realtor - Spokane, WA
Sandra, we're moms, and we have a hard time letting go of worry!  I have 8 kids, the oldest to graduate from High School in June, and everything in me wishes I could protect them from everything...and yet I know I can't.  I feel fortunate in that my teenagers, though they are busy, still play games with us, want to watch movies with us, run errands, etc.  I'm taking advantage of my time with them now, as much as I can!
Feb 19, 2008 08:11 AM
Carol Lee
Dilbeck Real Estate - Oak Park, CA
Realtor - Agoura, Oak Park, Westlake CA Homes
Joddie- 8 kids?? You are a saint!  I can barely manage to keep (somewhat) sane with two!!
Feb 19, 2008 10:40 AM
Sandra Carlisle (Ayers)
Berkshire Hathaway California Properties - Newport Beach, CA
Real Estate Marketing & Sales
8 kids!!! I am just happy that my 1 kid loves to spend time with me. He even like to look at houses with me sometimes when I need to preview. Of course, I have to bribe him with Goldenspoon.
Feb 19, 2008 12:45 PM
Kim Wood
The Tech Byte - West Chester, PA
Kim Wood ~ The Tech Byte

Girls: 21, 18, almost 5...

18 yo called yesterday "Mom, Wanna go to lunch" our schedules have been crazy. I had SO MUCh work to do... but ....

You take them when you can get them..... I enjoyed our hour together!!!!  Very little conversation, but she took time with ME

Feb 19, 2008 01:57 PM
Carol Lee
Dilbeck Real Estate - Oak Park, CA
Realtor - Agoura, Oak Park, Westlake CA Homes
Wow!  Lunch with a kid!  I get monosyllabic grunts, unless someone needs money or to use my car.  But then again, I have boys.  :)
Feb 19, 2008 02:32 PM
MELISSA BATDORF ~ West Tennessee Agent/Broker
RE/MAX ASSOCIATES - Oakland, TN
I hope this is somewhat encouraging.....My oldest who sill lives near by calls to have lunch frequently..... and sometimes even picks up the tab.
Mar 02, 2008 09:51 AM