Trying to help my friend David somehow - Please read!

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Austin Texas Homes, LLC 453249


Many of you have been following the story of my dear friend David Wilder and his battle with cancer.  My last post about this (Another update on my friend and my mother-in-law ) spurred some of my AR friends to action, and for that I am eternally grateful. 

Several people emailed or commented that they would be willing to give money to assist David and his wife, Jan, with their expenses and debt as a result of David's two cancer treatments in 2007, as well as the surgeries that he has undergone over the past few months. 

To the left, you can see a photo of David and Jan before his illness hit. 



My friend in Tennessee, Melissa Grant, has taken things a step further, by volunteering her time and money to coordinate a fundraising effort for David by selling "Friendship Pins".  She is willing to purchase all of the materials necessary for this, as well as ship the pins to those who purchase them.  Please see her post about this here for more details on how to donate via this program:

AR Member Jason Crouch...NEEDS OUR HELP for his friend DAVID WILDER - Please feel free to copy her post into your own blog if you like, or link to it as I have done here.  The same goes for this post of mine.  We are really just trying to spread the word as much as possible.

If you are willing to donate ANY AMOUNT of money to help, it would be appreciated.  I have witnessed firsthand how the collective efforts and generosity of ActiveRain members have been instrumental in helping fellow members several times during my seven months here, and I hope that this is no different. 

The photo below was taken before the surgery they performed to remove David's tongue and vocal chords back in November.  According to Jan, he has lost a good deal of weight since then (about 110 pounds total).

David had NO health insurance when this happened, and the mountain of debt is unthinkable at this point.  I am really just trying to help them with their basic expenses (mortgage, utilities, food, gas, etc.).  Jan cannot really work full-time because she needs to be available to care for David at this point, until he can hopefully be back at full strength.  Right now, she works at a small local church near their home. 

When I last visited them, Jan mentioned to me that she was thinking of posting something on her own blog as well, and she said that even $1 per person reading her posts would help right now.  Considering the limited reach of her CarePages blog, this almost brought me to tears in front of her, as it would probably only be $100-200 total.

Frankly, David has been one of my biggest encouragers over the years that I have known him, and I would love to provide a small measure of this help back to him as he goes through this extremely difficult season of his life.  When I was first considering getting my real estate license, I spoke with David (who is a lifelong salesman) and his enthusiasm and his supportive comments in late 1996 helped me to make the final decision to dive in to this business headfirst.

The photo below was taken about a week ago, and Jan shared this on her blog.  She called it his "mad scientist" picture.  You can see the extreme swelling in this neck from the most recent surgery.

 If you are unable to give money right now, but you would like to send a note or card instead, I know that they would be happy to hear that they are in your thoughts and/or prayers.  Any correspondence like this, along with any checks or money orders can be sent to them care of my address, which is below:

Jason Crouch, 3636 Executive Center Drive, #210, Austin, TX  78731

Please make any checks or money orders payable to Jan Wilder.

If you would prefer to send money to them via PayPal, their account is set up under the following email address: (there is an underscore between "jwilder" and "99"). 

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me on my cell phone at 512-796-7653 or email me at

Thanks in advance for ANY help that you are able to provide, as I know that many people are going through tough financial times right now.

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Mike Frazier
Carousel Realty of Dyer County - Dyersburg, TN
Northwest Tennessee Realtor


Does your friend go to church? I would be willing to make a check out to his church and they in turn give it to him! If so, name and address of the church? 

Feb 29, 2008 10:27 AM #47
Tracy Santrock
Fonville Morisey/Santrock Realty Group, Inc. - Cary, NC
Raleigh - Cary Realtor/Broker In Charge
Since you are a supporter of Jason you are a supporter of mine.  I'll see what I can do for your friend. Sardi & Jennifer suggested I help.
Feb 29, 2008 11:26 AM #48
Ginger Wilcox
Sindeo - San Francisco, CA
You always have my support Jason.  A check is on it's way. -g
Feb 29, 2008 03:21 PM #49
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
ALEX - Thanks very much for that. I realize that there are many, many needs out there. Anything you are able to do to help would be appreciated, even if it is prayer alone. KAY - You're welcome. JACKIE - THANK YOU for your prayers and support. They are both greatly appreciated.
Mar 01, 2008 01:37 AM #50
Trey Thurmond
BCR Realtors - College Station, TX
College Station , Texas Homes


Both  my Mom and Dad have cancer right now .. They are doing really well.  Your friend has that  " I won't give up sparkle look" in his eye...we will pray.

Mar 01, 2008 01:47 AM #51
Melissa Grant
A Serendipity World - Greenbackville, VA
The Law of Attraction In Life & Business
Jason - I just wanted to pop in and say hello and let you know my thoughts and prayers are with you as well as David and Jan. It was a long night for me last night, didnt get much sleep at all. I kept counting points left, making pins and answering emails that came through...the response is overwhelming. There is a check on it's way to me from Nashville in the amount of $300.00 I will talk to you about that soon. I have the picture from my daughter that I told you about  and my check that I will be getting out very soon. Jason, If there is anything else I can do please let me know. This is hitting closer to home for me as I approach the anniversary of my Grandfather's death taken by cancer. I am sad and very the perfect place to give it all to God and let his will be done.
Mar 01, 2008 02:25 AM #52
Bill Somerset
Re/Max Realty Group - Dover, NH
ABR, e-PRO - Realtor - NH Real Estate Agent
I think this is an amazing thing you are doing for your friend.  This just goes to show how good people really are.  Far too often we hear in the news about all of the bad that is happening in our society.  I wish I could help right now, but just can't.  However, you will be in my thoughts everyday.
Mar 01, 2008 02:41 AM #53
Tina Farinas
Fusion Real Estate Network, Inc. - Roseville, CA
You are a great friend ~ my thoughts and prayers goes out to your friend.
Mar 01, 2008 02:43 AM #54
Sarah Eubanks
Hill Valley Financial Services - Oregon City, OR
Preferred Oregon Loan Consultant & Notary Public
Jason ~  Good friends are hard to come by!  You are both blessed to have the other in your lives.  I will be holding him in prayer as I deal with similar things right here in my neighborhood and circle of friends.  God Bless......
Mar 01, 2008 07:27 AM #55
Mike Norvell Sr
Morris Williams Realty - Leesburg, FL
Norvell Consulting Group

Jason..I am working with a family now for nearly 2 years. We finally have fixed the credit, changed the spending habits, and along the way they decided to forgo the heath insurance on the wife to save extra money toward the down payment...Five months ago we found out she has liver cancer, and has to go in weekly for blood filtering and treatment until she can get a liver transplant...And with no insurance, ....My only goal is for her to see her family finally get the home she has been dreaming of...We did a lease option so she could actually move into to her dream home....

Its everywhere, there is no end in sight for the folks without insurance... A few months ago it hit me at my home....My wife and I have been dealing with a bad diagnosis for nearly three months after a yearly physical came back with some not perfect readings...After a weird few months of testings and specialist after specialist, we are now finally sure she only has to do a minor surgery on her thyroid...The bills for all of this, based on a bad diagnosis, is over 50 thousand...we do have insurance...but mentally, we have been on edge with all the doctors...Now we finally have verification that my wife is not going to need chemo..just a minor outpatient surgery and a little white pill every day for life...

So we now feel good that we now have a future into our 80s again, it was only a bad scare..It gives me a little taste of what these other families are going thru for real...But for a while, it was real to us....My prayers are with them, your friend is lucky to have his family, his church, and people like you behind him...I wish all of you the best...

God Bless us all...

Mar 01, 2008 01:34 PM #56
Roberta LaRocca
Simply Vegas Real Estate - Las Vegas, NV
REALTOR®, Broker, Salesperson, Property Management
Jason, It is great that you are helping David.  I sent my contribution through Paypal.  I hope it helps!  I will also say a prayer for him.
Mar 01, 2008 04:58 PM #57
Vanessa Stalets
RE/MAX Elite - Brentwood, TN
REALTOR, Brentwood TN Homes, Real Estate
Jason- There are so many posts out there about this. I just wanted to check in and see how it is going. Have you heard anything more from the hospital? You should get my check today or tomorrow. My wish would be for anything that can help. At the very least my prayers are sent daily.
Mar 02, 2008 10:50 PM #58
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)

TO ALL WHO HAVE COMMENTED: I would like to offer my sincerest thanks to you.  David's condition has taken a strong turn for the worse, but Jan will still need financial assistance from whomever is interested in helping.  Here is an update post that I wrote last night:

This is the hardest post that I have ever written - An Update on my friend David

Mar 03, 2008 09:15 AM #59
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)

UPDATE: I went to see David today with my wife.  It was far harder than I even anticipated.  I may write more later about it.  To date, we have raised almost $1100 for them.

Mar 06, 2008 04:43 AM #60
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
We have now raised over $2500 for the Wilders, but I know that they could certainly use more.  I spent about three or four hours there today with them.
Mar 11, 2008 04:18 PM #61
Courtney Cooper
Ben Kinney Brokerages Leadership at our Keller Williams North Seattle Office - Seattle, WA
Hey Jason - My heart goes out to Jan and David - I sent in $100 via Paypal for some of Melissa's points - I wish I could do more.
Mar 18, 2008 10:19 AM #62
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
COURTNEY - THANK YOU for this.  Everything helps right now.
Mar 18, 2008 10:54 AM #63
Stacey Pierce
Licensed Real Estate Salesperson - Manhattan, NY

Cancer has truly affected my life in the past two years. My partner's dad passed 20 months ago from esophageal cancer and my stepfather from the same cancer two weeks ago. My uncle has stage 4 lung cancer and my friend has breast cancer. It is a sad situation. I became teary-eyed reading your story about the passing of your friend. I know you will find comfort as you are a child of God. He will comfort you and make you and his family stronger. God needed another Angel which is why He called David home. I know He was comforted in knowing what you have done to help Him spiritually and financially. You are a good man and a great friend. Be blessed and I will pray for you and David's family.


Sep 13, 2008 12:37 AM #64
Glen Kotulek
Home Critique Property Inspections LLC - Austin, TX
Austin Home Inspector, schedule online

Jason,  you are a truly great friend!  What power you have in your story about your friend David.  I listened to that great song "Lifesong" and it is truly moving.  God bless you and your efforts for David and his wife.  I will be paypaling soon!

Jan 27, 2009 01:31 PM #65
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)

Glen - Actually, this was written about a year ago.  David passed away last March - thanks for your kind words.  I could email all of the posts about David if you are interested to read the whole story.

Jan 27, 2009 03:43 PM #66
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