What's The Secret To Being Happy?

Real Estate Broker/Owner with North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate

Happiness Is A Choice


Have You Ever Noticed That It's Difficult To Be Grateful And Unhappy At The Same Time?

Go ahead.  Try it.  Sure, we all have trials and tribulations.  Sure, there are those of us who have struggled through - and survived - enough adversity to last a hundred lifetimes.  And yet, I often recognize that I need not look very far to be reminded of the gifts for which I am truly blessed.  And thankful.

It's True:  We All Make The Choice To Be Happy.  Or Unhappy.

So, what's your choice?

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Tim Lorenz
TIM LORENZ - Elite Home Sales Team - Mission Viejo, CA
949 874-2247

If you are in a time of trials and tribulations give to someone less blessed it will make you happy.

Aug 25, 2013 04:19 AM
Brian Sharkey
SharkeyRE LLC - Singer Island, FL

Carie, If I wasn't happy, this post just made me that much happier, Thanks for sharing.  Suggested.

Aug 25, 2013 04:19 AM
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Tim:  Absolutely!  Nothing like volunteering and/or helping those less fortunate to put our lives in perspective.

Brian: Thanks, Brian!  I'm happy you're happy :)  And, thank you for the 'Suggest' too!

Aug 25, 2013 04:24 AM
Jean Hanley
Coldwell Banker Kivett Teeters - Hemet, CA
Specializing in Folks Who Want To Buy/Sell Homes

Carie, i am one of those people that other people love to hate.  I am seriously always happy.  I don't believe in unhappy.

Aug 25, 2013 04:25 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Carrie people wonder why happy people are so deliciously happy!  Why are we happy - because we're happy! It really is a simple as that and folks make it so complicated. Chose every moment to be happy ...or _____ but why not chose happy!

Aug 25, 2013 04:40 AM
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Jean:  I've never understood how someone could 'hate' someone for being happy?!  I love being around happy people -- and much prefer to gravitate towards them.

Anna:  Exactly!  Why not choose happy?


Aug 25, 2013 05:53 AM
Nancy Laswick
United Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
Your REALTOR® For The Valley Of The Sun

Carie, I learned a long time ago that I cannot choose all the circumstances of my life but I can choose how I deal with them. 

Aug 25, 2013 06:40 AM
Janis Borgueta
Newburgh, NY
Retired RE Salesperson

I choose to be happy. The alternative is no fun at all. I'm traveling right now and the rain is following me. I am looking to find all the great things I would never have found if the sun was shining.

Aug 25, 2013 07:31 AM
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Nancy:  I learned the very same lesson, Nancy!  Was not an easy lesson to learn at first, however, the ways in which we respond to life's circumstances (plus maintaining a postivite attitude) makes such a difference, yes?

Janis:  I could tell that about you, Janis!  You seem like a happy, upbeat, and optimistic person.  And, the way you describe your travel circumstances reflects those positive qualities too!  I know you are enjoying your vacation :)

Aug 25, 2013 09:54 AM
Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Carie~ Thanks for the's my choice! Sometimes I just let bad attitudes and behaviors get the better of me.

Aug 25, 2013 10:15 AM
David Spencer
Keller Williams Northland - Kansas City, MO
Show Me real estate in Kansas City

It is not politically correect, but join a church, synagogue or mosque. You need something to do to not have a pity party.

Aug 25, 2013 10:35 AM
Tom White
Franklin Homes Realty LLC (615) 495-0752 or - Franklin, TN
Franklin Homes Realty LLC, Franklin TN

Carie, what a thought provoking post! I'm going to complicate it further by saying that I'm not always happy, but I'm always joyful...

Aug 25, 2013 11:19 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Carie - agreed!  Too many people don't really thing it's an option.......and it 100% is an option!

Aug 25, 2013 02:55 PM
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Donna:  I hear you!  Believe me, I allow those things to get to me sometimes too.  And, those are the times I must work very hard to let go of that stuff and move on.  I've learned that it's a a better choice for me and my psyche. :)

David:  Whatever works to eliminate the pity parties!

Tom:  Agreed!  I may be more 'joyful' at times too.  But, when I'm feeling optimistic, hopeful, and grateful ... I'm definitely happy :)

Anna:  Yes, it is.  It reminds me of a saying:  'Pain is inevitable ... suffering is optional.'  Or, something like that :)


Aug 25, 2013 09:50 PM
Andrew Payne Realtor® Richmond VA Homes For Sale~804-938-5257~
Piedmont Real Estate - Richmond, VA
Richmond, VA, Real Estate, SRES®, NAR Green

Gratitude is the secret to a lot of success in life.  If we desire more, I think we first need to be grateful for what we have.

Aug 25, 2013 10:01 PM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Carrie, it is something I can forget, and allow circumstances to dictate, but at the end of the day it truly is my choice on how to react, such as to choose happiness instead. Thanks for the reminder!

Aug 25, 2013 10:10 PM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

Choose to be happy here :)

Aug 26, 2013 01:03 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Choosing to be a happy and truly being grateful for what you have is definitely a better way to live.

Aug 26, 2013 08:23 AM
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Andrew:  I read somewhere that the one thing most successful people have in common is:  Gratitude!

Andrea:  I'm the same way.  People and circumstances get to me sometimes too.  But, in the end, it's up to moi how I let those outside influences affect me.  Best to let it go, right?

John:  Ditto!

Chris Ann:  Absolutely!  I totally agree with you.  And, I like your new photo, Chris Ann :)

Aug 26, 2013 12:39 PM
Georgia Title & Escrow Company - Atlanta, GA
Attorney at Law

I think the secret to happiness is sharing your happiness with someone you care about!!!

Sep 06, 2013 01:06 AM