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What happened to the Thank You Note?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with The Thayer Group 023259

Growing up, I used to spend hours the day after my birthday, diligently hand writing "thank-you" notes to all the people that gave me presents.  I remember my mom reading over them to make sure they were "good enough" and that my handwriting was somewhat legible, then helping me address them all and take them to the post office - or bring them to school to give my friends.

There was a drawer in a piece of furniture in the formal living area of my home that was the "go to" drawer for thank you notes.  I knew I could always look in there for a blank one, ready for my scribbling.  I dreaded writing thank you notes - as a boy, hand writing anything was right down there on the list of my least favorite things along side of cleaning my finger and toe nails.  

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But I did them, and so did my cousins, friends, neighbors, siblings and parents.  We all did them, regularly, following any gift received, holiday dinner cooked for us, or just general act of kindness that was blessed upon us.  It was standard procedure. 

Today, out of habit I guess - or good upbringing (thanks Mom!), I still hand write thank you notes.  I take the time after a meeting with a potential client, after receiving a gift, or after a special dinner at someone's home, when a referral has been led to me - to jot down a quick and heart felt "thank you" - in my own scibble, on a thank you note card.  I actually address it, stick a stamp on it, and mail it.  No emails - no texts - no facebook posts about it - an actual hand written note card sent in the good 'ole US Mail. 

What's amazing about this is the number of "thank you's" I actually get in return.  A "thank you" for a "thank you" if you will.  Why?  Because it's rare - it's not an every day occurance today to receive a nice hand written note in the mail.  It stands out - and it definitely reflects the sentiment of true, heart-felt gratitude.  So regularly, people call, text, email, stop me in the grocery store - and just say "hey, thank you for the thank you note!"  Makes me smile every time. 

Thank you for reading this!  

 

 

 

 

Anonymous
Jan Mullins

AMEN Steve! And thank you for bringing the "thank you note habit" back into the light of day. It makes me laugh when people thank me for sending a handwritten thank you note, as though it were something no one else does.  Glad to know at least one other person out there remembers to write a thank you note.

Sep 05, 2013 04:19 AM
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Phil Stevenson, CRMP
PS Mortgage Lending 305-791-4874 or 888-845-6630 - Miami, FL
"Mortgage Nerd" in Miami, Florida and Texas

Steve, it's definitely a more personalized touch, but because it takes so long to do, or longer than sending a text, it's not worth the effort. Or so people think...Thanks for the reminder!

Sep 05, 2013 04:32 AM
Marnie Matarese
DWELL REAL ESTATE - Sarasota, FL
Showing you the best of Sarasota!

Steve, I still write thank-you notes and love the responses I get from people who no longer receive anything personal in their mailboxes.  It is a gesture that is appreciated and makes the recipient feel very special.

Sep 05, 2013 04:52 AM
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
850-476-4494 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

I have always wondered if I should include a business card, what do you think? Some do not know what I do for a living.

Nov 03, 2013 09:40 PM
Steve Thayer
The Thayer Group - Castle Rock, CO
- 2015 DERA Realtor of the Year

I usually toss a business card into the Thank You note, unless it's a purely personal one that is goingt o someone that knows me well, or is more "emotional".  Got to use some judgement there on when it's appropriate and when it is not.  

Nov 03, 2013 11:15 PM