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You don't need to be afraid . . .

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cornerstone Business Group Inc 0225086119

 

My morning routine is pretty simple.  I get up, turn on the coffee, read Active Rain, scan the national news on TV, shower and head to the office or somewhere.  When I was scanning the news this morning I heard the exact same statement twice.  The commercials said, "You don't need to be afraid . . ."

That made me wonder.  Why would multiple commercials for different Fear can paralyze you, or fear can motivate you.products use that line?  Are we a nation that is becoming afraid?  Or, has the marketing industry seized upon an undercurrent of concern that is in our national psyche?  Politicians use fear to get your vote. One side swears the other side is going to take your Medicare, and the other side says the other guys are going to take more taxes.  "Vote for me and I will protect you!"  It's marketing, and in the political scene it's buffalo biscuits designed to control you.  It's fear.

Fear can be a great motivator.  This morning, I watched a surveillance video of a pharmacist pepper spray a robber.  The small female pharmacist took out the would-be robber and put him in the hospital because of the bear repellent pepper spray she used against him.  Good for her.  She should have banged him on the head in the process. 

Fear can paralyze you, or fear can motivate you.  What you do with it will determine how it affects you.  It can make you cautious.  Or, it can make you bold.  Watch a mother when her child is in danger.  Suddenly, she has supernatural strength and courage.  She will go through fire to rescue her child in distress.

Fear can awaken your senses and make you alert, or it can make you make you cower and hide.  The commercial is correct.  You don't need to Fear can paralyze you, or fear can motivate you.be afraid, but you do need to assess the source of the fear and determine if it is something you are willing to confront. 

Starting a new business might cause one type of fear.  Jumping off a bridge with a bungee cord attached to your ankle generates another type of fear.  When you have determined the source of the fear, you can determine your response.  You don't need to be afraid.

 

Comments(13)

John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

Good morning Mike and Happy Birthday week :)  I had buyers a few months back and they constantly said... "Oh this is so scary, or we're so afraid." I kept reassuring them I would be taking care of them and now they say they feel silly for being so afraid.  It's part of the process sometimes more for some than others.

Sep 23, 2013 02:24 AM
Trisha Bush-LeFore
Preferred Properties Land & Homes - Walla Walla, WA
Providing Realtor Services in the Walla Walla Area

Mike,

Great post. Fear can be a motivator. I think it's important to identify the source of our fear first so we have control not the fear controlling us.

Sep 23, 2013 02:24 AM
Jean Jannopoulo
Love where you live - Sarasota, FL
Bright Realty

There is a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that over the years I have taped inside notebooks, onto refrigerators, and tried to refer to in tough times - especially the last sentence:

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

Sep 23, 2013 02:29 AM
Li Read
Sea to Sky Premier Properties (Salt Spring) - Salt Spring Island, BC
Caring expertise...knowledge for you!

Fear is a hugely powerful motivator to action.   I wonder sometimes if the return to hard assets/real estate investment might be driven by a preservation of capital fear?

Sep 23, 2013 02:41 AM
Marnie Matarese
DWELL REAL ESTATE - Sarasota, FL
Showing you the best of Sarasota!

Fear is often the result of not having the facts or just being uneducated about something.  I work hard with buyers and sellers alike to remove their fears by replacing them with good reasons not to be afraid.

Sep 23, 2013 02:52 AM
Marilyn Wier
RE/MAX Space Center - League City, TX
Your League City & Surrounding Areas REALTOR!

Fear is a perfect motivator! We often want to concur our fears and when this is done we feel accomplished! Great insiration post and I have suggested it.

Sep 23, 2013 03:50 AM
Nancy Conner
Olympia, WA
Olympia/Thurston County WA

I think there is a lot of fear - partly stirred up by the media and their concentration on stories of doom and gloom and tragedy.  There also seems to be a sense that some issues are so complex and difficult, that no one really has the answers (or at least can agree on those answers).  But where that fear leaches into the home buying process, it is still usually possible to gather the necessary data to get past fear and into the excitement of buying a home, confident that it is an educated & good choice. 

Sep 23, 2013 03:51 AM
Amanda S. Davidson
Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By Real - Alexandria, VA
Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale

Mike, I really like this post...suggested. Fear can generate a lot of emotions and in todays world it would be easy to live in fear. Being alert of your surroundings and having a proper way to protect yourself is important. Now, fear of starting a business...that's normal :)

Sep 23, 2013 03:56 AM
Charles Buell
Charles Buell Inspections Inc. - Seattle, WA
Seattle Home Inspector

Of course as FDR said:  "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."

Sep 23, 2013 05:32 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Thanks, John.  Another milestone.

Absolutely, Trisha.

That's a great quote, Jean.

That's a great question, Li.

Marnie, and I know appreciate it too.

Thanks, Marylin.

Good observation, Nancy.

It sure can, Amanda, and if we're not alert, it can be paralyzing.

There you go, Charles.

Sep 23, 2013 09:53 AM
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Ecellent point, Mike. Fear can be a great motivator, and it really cleans out the cobwebs in the nervous system, but only if you know how to deal with it productively. It's a frequent component of risk, and risk, properly handled, is how we make real progress.

Sep 23, 2013 10:20 AM
Regina P. Brown
MBA Broker Consultants - Carlsbad, CA
M.B.A., Broker, Instructor

Yes, there are several types of fears.  It's up to us how we're going to turn it positively.  Turning our fear to motivation is a great way to do it.  Regardless of whatever fear it is, we know that God is always with us, will never leave us nor forsake us.

 
Sep 24, 2013 05:06 PM