I have discovered that it is relatively easy to respond to a "you can't" or "no way" or "that's not possible" or to "not now" with a "Why not?" when it comes from other people. It only is an affront to my personal liberties. The answer to this question gives me the information that I need to either proceed or to back off. I think that we all interact with people pretty much this same way. After all, since childhood have we not been used to asking "why?" or "Why not?" Or, better yet growing up in Maine, it would be "how come?". As in, "you will not be able to sail your raft over to Porcupine Island"! "How come?! ( Translated it means the same as "Why not?" )
Now, having said all of that, the problem that I wrestle with is not someone elses "nots" but my own "nots". How many times have I thought to myself, "you can't" or "no way, Ken" or "that's not possible"or "that's the dumbest thing you have ever thought of", or "not now". Why is it that I can not ask MYSELF, "Why not?" Or, in a language that I can understand, "how come?" Lately, I have been trying to 1) recognize the "nots" in my life. And 2) asking myself, "Why not?" The answers that I give myself are very enlightening to myself.. and sometimes hilarious!
For example, whatever task that I really do not want to do, I have a "valid" excuse. Ken, why don't (not) call so-and-so? "They are probably having lunch". But, it is two o'clock? "They are probably having a late lunch"! See how easy it is.
If this is the first time that you have read our blog, my wife Pam and I recently relocated to our beloved Hutchinson Island, Florida. We have been entrepreneurs all of our lives. We started in advertising and marketing. When the sky rocketing interest rates of the Carter era forced us to become creative, we started our new business, "We will work for shares!" After we sold our latest business, we decided to "retire" to our most favorite place in the world, Hutchinson Island. Hutchinson Island is a personality unto itself. Connected to the mainland by three causways, it still vigoursly maintains its independance. On the Island there are no strangers, only friends that we have not met. We have settled here. If you would like a tour, give us a call!