Hi, How Are You? May Not Be The Best Greeting

Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

Hi, How Are You?

May Not Be The Best Greeting

how are you


When you are out and about and run into an acquaintance, a friend, a neighbor or even a client..

'Hi, How Are You?'

May Not Be The Best Greeting.


When you say 'Hi How Are You'  you need to be prepared to listen to the answer.

If you have a schedule to meet...you might not get away so soon. But we need to acknowledge our friends, co workers and colleagues. A better greeting when time is of the essence (had to get a bit of real estate in) may be...

"So Nice To See You."


 how are you



 'Hi, How Are You?'

May Not Be The Best Greeting


 Margaret Rome 410-530-2400



Comments (19)

Tim Lorenz
TIM LORENZ - Elite Home Sales Team - Mission Viejo, CA
949 874-2247


I do so agree.  Use other greetings or you may find a response you are not ready for.

Oct 19, 2013 02:42 AM
Women of Westchester Working Together
Women of Westchester Working Together - West Harrison, NY
Women helping Women get ahead

Margaret - Good call. This is friendly and can be much faster. - Debbie

Oct 19, 2013 04:40 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

A lesson I learned a long time ago Margaret.  Never ask "how are you?" unless you've got the time and really want to know.  Good choice of words, but you are "The Wordsmith".

Oct 19, 2013 04:44 AM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor
Margaret, thanks for the time management tip. Hope all in well in Maryland. Sun this morning; rain this afternoon.
Oct 19, 2013 05:40 AM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR

Hi, How can I get my hand in your pocket hasn't worked well either.

Oct 19, 2013 05:43 AM
Shar Sitter
Rooms With Style - Minneapolis, MN
Home Staging and Redesign Minneapolis/ St. Paul, M

Ha, still laughing at Rob's comment. You are so correct Margaret. We do need to take the time to listen and I normally wouldn't mind but as you say, sometimes you are in a hurry. I catch myself asking people how they are that I don't even know. Bad habit. 

Oct 19, 2013 06:41 AM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS
Hi Margaret, this is one of those cultural differences that I have had the hardest time adjusting to. In Germany, if anyone asks "How are you?" they genuinely want to hear how you are doing. If there's no time for or interest in small talk, then we don't ask. It's not so much the case in this country, I've found. I would prefer people don't ask if they are not interested or don't have time to chat.... A "so nice to see you" is a pleasant work around.
Oct 19, 2013 08:18 AM
Kathy Sheehan
Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021 - Atlanta, GA
Senior Loan Officer

Margaret, this is a great lesson for all of us.  At times we just don't have the time for the lengthy explanation.

Oct 19, 2013 01:20 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

You are so right Margaret! Most of don't have time to sit still long enough to hear the answer.

Oct 19, 2013 01:42 PM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, EXP - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Great advice Margaret, there are days when you would rather not answer this question, some days it is not possible to give an honest answer to this while still maintaining a positive conversation, and it would be much better to just have a positive greeting like "Nice to see you".

Oct 19, 2013 01:52 PM
Lisa Friedman
Great American Dream Realty - Essex, VT
30 Years of Real Estate Experience!

Margaret, I personally have never liked the 'How are you?' greeeting.  I totallt agree with Bob (comment #10).  You don't want to lie, however you often do not want to give an honest answer.

Oct 19, 2013 02:48 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

So often there is a note of insincerity....it is a "tradition" rather than a caring expression.

Oct 19, 2013 07:27 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


Very good point, and most of the time, I find that most of us answer "fine" automatically.  I can't remember a single instance in the last two months, when someone actually elaborated...LOL A

Oct 20, 2013 04:52 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Margaret I am always happy so see friends, old or new and if I have the time I do want to know how they have been

Oct 20, 2013 09:34 AM
Mary Douglas
United Country Ponderosa Realty, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado - Red Feather Lakes, CO
REALTOR, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado

Hi Margaret, you're right- if you don't have time to find out, I guess you shouldn't ask.  I'm with Ed, I'm usually happy to run into folks and find out how they are doing.   

?How about :  "Nice to see you, I wish I had more time to find out how you are doing, but I have an appointment in 20 minutes...I'll call you  later so we can catch up" 

Oct 21, 2013 02:32 AM
June Piper-Brandon
Houwzer Inc - Baltimore, MD
Piecing Dreams One Home at a Time

You are so right Margaret.  You have to be ready for the answer and to listen a while, I'll defintely be using the "So nice to see  you" in the future.

Oct 21, 2013 05:52 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Oh boy I have learned this one the hard way!  Don't ask the question if you aren't prepared to hear the answer!

Oct 24, 2013 10:17 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Margaret, you are a wealth of information! But what do you do with Chatty Cathys who cannot quit TALKING!? Acquaintances who "pop by" the office just to visit? One lady consistently stops by and I've tried everything short of being rude. Any ideas?

Jul 18, 2015 02:31 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Pat Starnes A "great to see you and wish I had more time but....

I am booked, have an appointment, working on a deadline or a ... fill in the blank. 

Jul 18, 2015 05:02 AM