Do you ever lose your cool?

Real Estate Broker/Owner 01293735 CA

One of the leys to succes in real estate is being calm and cool through many very emotional situations. It is not easy and Most of us probably relapse in to reaction mode with drama once in awhile. For many years, I have worked hard to do real estate with as little drama as possible. Some days are easier than others. I have learned to not talk to irate people. If people leave an irate message, I wait awhile before calling them back. If they are aggitated when they call, I tell them I will call them back when they calm down.

I still get my buttons pushed when clients or other agents talk down to me or act like they are superior. Day by day I am tested to stay cool. Some days I think I have gone to far on taking the high road. I  know in the long run it is way better not to react and just move on. No matter how long I live, I still slip and react once in awhile.

My main question to my self before reacting is," How important is it?" Usually, what really irritates me does not really matter in the big picture.

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Marnie Matarese
Showing you the best of Sarasota!

Now that I have moved into an office that will accomodate my treadmill desk, I have to remember that with no door on it I must even be more careful not to make comments when someone pushes my buttons.  Like you said, how really important is the drama and if you are able to just let it go, it seems to really dissapate.

Oct 21, 2013 03:05 AM #1
Shannon Milligan, Richmond VA Real Estate Agent/Associate Broker
RVA Home Team - Richmond, VA
RVA Home Team - Winning with Integrity.

We all get irritated, but the one who talks the most loses. I now sit back, listen, give a long pause when they are done, and ask if they are ready to discuss whatever issue is going on as professionals. 

Oct 21, 2013 03:06 AM #2
Des & Spiro Kouridakis
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices CA Properties - Yorba Linda, CA
- North Orange County Experts

Love that question "How important is it?".  But at the same time it's hard because although we have our own answer to that question, the client we are representing will be on the flip side saying "It's REALLY important."  It's our job to do our best for our clients and ourselves...that's all we can really do.  

Oct 21, 2013 03:35 AM #3
Charles Stallions Property Manager
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pace, FL
Pensacola, Pace & Gulf Breeze Property Management

I have to constantly check my actions as I seem to get louder for some reason and it isn't intentional.

Oct 21, 2013 12:39 PM #4
Jill Penman
Coconut Grove & Coral Gables Lifestyle Expert!

It is imperative that we remain polite and calm at all times. It's one of the most important aspects of the work that we're hired to do.

Oct 29, 2013 01:25 AM #5
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