Mind your PDA's! They're catching...

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors

Mind your PDA's - They're catching.

PDA's, in this application, mean public displays of attitude. You see it all of the time - attitude, attitude, attitude. And, it's not always pretty. You may notice it in co-workers, friends and family. Sometimes you can actually feel it when you read between the lines of some posts, tweets, and even in certain blogs.

You can tell when people are carrying around a big chip, or an abundance of negativity. The arrogance and boastful nature of yet another personality, all but slaps you in the face. You wonder if these carriers of ill-will realize how their attitudes affect other people (and the world)- and if so, why they don't care. 

Think your negative attitudes don't hurt? Better mind your PDA's - others can catch them.

Happy BrainNegativity and complaining is plain bad for you. Listening to just 30 minutes of negativity - in person, or on TV - can damage neurons in the hippocampus. The hippocampus is the part of the brain responsible for problem solving. The more you gripe and complain, the less likely you are to find a solution for things.

Perhaps what's worse, studies show that passively listening to negatively, for example in the workplace, spreads.  Imagine all of those collective brains that struggle with a loss of reasoning due to others PDAs. Do you suppose that's why so little gets resolved in the nation's capitol?  (Sorry, I couldn't resist)

If you don't want to catch the negativity - avoid these toxic PDAs.

We can likely agree, there's enough negativity in the world. And according to researchers, anger and resentment are the most contagious of the negative emotions. Being around people with these attitudes, long-term, actually changes the chemical and neurological structures of the brain. And, not in a good way. After a time, those negative patterns become your new way of thinking.

Conversely, if you want to affect your brain waves in a positive way - hang around positive people. A 20 year study found that happiness spreads like the flu, making its way through groups of people much like a contagion. That's good to hear isn't it?

Researchers also found that one person's happiness could affect another for up to a year! Perhaps, at a time in our world where there seems to be challenges all around us, the best advice is to stay positive. And, to take it one step farther, spend time with those co-workers, friends, and family who spread happiness.

 

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Joan Whitebook
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Good advice.  When it comes to PDA - 2 negatives do NOT make a positive!

Oct 31, 2013 11:02 AM #26
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Nancy Conner
Olympia, WA
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LOVE this Debb! It's astounding how much my own state of mind can be impacted by the energy around me - and I certainly prefer that positive, uplifting type!! Being around negativity is such a drain, and who needs it? No thanks.
Oct 31, 2013 11:22 AM #27
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Kelly Young
The Platinum Group Realtors - Colorado Springs, CO
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Debb, I just finished & posted a blog post about something very similar and am in complete agreement with you.  I started working from home years ago and one of the greatest gifts I got from that is never getting into the habit of having "complain sessions" at the office.  Doesn't help, isn't productive and as they say "misery loves company".  I don't think that's for me so I guess I'll keep doing what I do and reading your blog!

Oct 31, 2013 11:47 AM #28
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Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette/West Lafayette, Indiana - West Lafayette, IN

Debb, this is a timely and inspiring post!  It sure is important for us to set the tone so we don't drag others down with us.  As a high school teacher of 31 years in the classroom that is why I only visited the teacher lounge about three or four times.  It was too negative!!!  No regrets staying out of there my last 30 years in my education career!

Oct 31, 2013 11:49 AM #29
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Meghan Pursley
York, SC
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Great post, I hate to start reading a blog to find it BLEEDING (couldn't resist) with negativity. It just puts a sour taste in my mouth. Imagine if that was the first thing your potential clients read... you think they would sign on with you? 

Think before you type, it is there for everyone to see. 

Oct 31, 2013 12:09 PM #30
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Patricia Kennedy
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Hah! And here I thought that PDAs were public displays of affection! So Rush Limbaugh really is tocic. Gppd to know.
Oct 31, 2013 01:04 PM #31
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Richard Iarossi
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Debb,

You reap what you so...or so the saying goes. Positive people can be infectious...in a good way.

Rich

Oct 31, 2013 01:39 PM #32
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Jimmy Faulkner
Florida. Homes Realty & Mortgage - Wantagh, NY
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I make my own happiness by my thoughts and deeds. We all become our own thought and can change our behavior instantly by thinking of something that is good.
Oct 31, 2013 02:01 PM #33
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Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
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I love the positive aspects; that happiness can be spread and affect people for long lengths of time.  I do find that negativity tends to dampen the mood, so I limit time with negative people as much as possible.

Oct 31, 2013 09:51 PM #34
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Charlotte, NC
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It's the old glass half full or half empty issue. I'm more of a half full kind of girl, myself. Attittude is very much contagious both in terms of oneself and those around us.

Oct 31, 2013 10:03 PM #35
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Drick Ward Property Management / Broker Assoc
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"Happiness spreads like the flu" - golden

Oct 31, 2013 11:13 PM #36
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Bill and MaryAnn Wagner
Wagner Real Estate Group - Ocean City, NJ
Jersey Shore and South Jersey Real Estate
Debbie, Great information. We avoid negative people like the plague. Maybe we can all start a very positive "flu" season.
Oct 31, 2013 11:27 PM #37
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
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Debb, you're right about one thing, negativity is contagious. A positive mental attitude and associating with positive people can make a big difference in one's life.

Oct 31, 2013 11:55 PM #38
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Suzanne Otto
Six Twenty Designs - Lansdale, PA
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I think a little venting is a good thing though. I'm not talking hours of negativity here, but just to get it off your chest and brain can help a lot.

Nov 01, 2013 12:17 AM #40
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
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People will be people and wear or express their thoughts randomly at times. Being human cant be helped

Nov 01, 2013 12:56 AM #41
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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Joan - just as two wrongs can't make a right. Happy Friday.

Nancy, you strike me as a positive and upbeat person. And, you've proven that when I've met you in person and talked with you on the phone.

Kelly, I'll come read your post.

Hi Bruce - good for you. I'll bet you were a fabulous teacher.

 

Nov 01, 2013 01:01 AM #42
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Laura Foreman
Referral Maker Real Estate CRM - Carlsbad, CA
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Great post! It reminds of Jim Rohn's quote “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If you hang out with Negative Nancys, you're going to become one (no offense to anyone named Nancy). Plus, positivity is much less stressful anyway. Thanks for the post!



Nov 01, 2013 01:50 AM #43
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Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
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I love this!  Attitude IS everything.  And everyday, you choose yourself what it will be and you alone let someone else change it.  Every day is a new opportunity to make it better. Thank you for sharing!

Nov 01, 2013 05:25 AM #44
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Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
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When you have been where I have been and hang out with the people I have hung out with you cannot help being the happiest person in the world or at least in mine

Nov 01, 2013 07:42 AM #45
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Brian L. Sirota, Esq.
Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney) - Orange, CA
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HITTING THE RIGHT NOTES! 

HITTING THE RIGHT NEURONS!

 

Debb, remember Bobby McFerrin?   I know you do!   

Take a listen...    "Notes & Neurons:  In Search of the Common Chorus" ...  so aptly named!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ne6tB2KiZuk

Contagious?   Oh yeah!    ;-)   Brian

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