Just Say NO!

Good morning Jeff,

Love the video! We all have to learn this word and use it when needed! I have a button that says "That was Easy!" I press it after I have said "No" to reinforce my action!

I've found myself in the same position Jeff.  It's nice to help, but it's not worth over extending yourself and not being able to take care of your own business.

Great Button. I think I'll get one to keep next to my home phone so I can tap it every time I get one of those annoying telemarketing calls.

Love the button! But here's what I've found--that once you get used to saying NO in the right way, it really does get a lot easier to do it.

I am an advocate for a persons No & yes...to mean something. If not, they are just noises the mouth makes

Jeff, I’ve said it before and I am sure I will say it again many times. No is the biggest little word in any language. It is part of my business plan for 2014 … I plan to use it more often and eliminate a lot of wasted time trying to be nice to those that don’t give a damn about me in the first place.  Did I just say that, out loud?  

Enabler, can you say enabler? Sure you can, I knew you could. Now "no" can you say "no"... come on, say "no". Just say "no" or don't whine, complain and get all snarky upset when it all goes back to how did I get myself in the eye of a twister. Ask questions, listen to your gut, deep down in your bones instincts from experience. And you get better as saying "no" with a major relief feeling of being oh so glad. Because you remember painfully what happened the last time you said yes and regretted it dearly when the answer to avoid the buzzer should have been N-O.

I like you wish I used the word more often. NO! Not that hard to say. In this business it seems we try to accomodate the world. Am getting better at it.

Jeff, I pushed the button -- expected great help in learning how to say "no."  Why is it so hard to do?

No is a favorite word. It's an extremely powerful word. I don't offer excuses for it, either, which would only dilute its power. I've had people stare at me with that look in their eyes that says, "How could you be so RUDE?" Which is really code for, "I wish I had the guts to say no myself."

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This is particularly hard for the "people pleaser" personality types. YES can be so ingrained in the DNA!

I have come very proficient in the word NO. I was taught by my mother and wife

And as that video shows, there are a LOT of ways to say NO.   Simple word, not so simple to use, but very useful!

Hahaha, Jeff - I NEED one of those! Cute video!

I called a girlfriend one year to ask her to serve on an annual fundraising committee for a non-profit. It was a courtesy call, in my mind. When I asked if she could help again this year, she said, "NO."  I was stumped. After I caught my breath, I asked her how she did that. She said, "I've been expecting your call, and I've written "NO" on a piece of paper that's sitting by the phone!  We laughed about it.  Smart on her part.

Jeff, 

Just said NO recently to a client who I took on when I really should have known better.  We were just writing up a lease for a new tenant when she insisted I add a stipulation about "No children allowed EVER" in the unit.  It's not an adult only community and our brokerage won't do that as it's illegal.  Not worth it and I won't spend 10 seconds arguing about anything someone wants me to do that is illegal.  

The owner tried to relent and say if we insisted, she could allow children.  By that time, we shared we just weren't the right folks to help her and pulled our listing.  Life is too short and just saying NO is great advice.

All the best, Michelle

I still need to learn to say no more often.  I'm not good at it as I frequently want to help people so when they ask, I vounteer.  Sometimes there are good reasons to say no and not just to be dismissive.

Jeff, I think we should have a Christmas special to help us with our New Year's Resolution of Just Saying No to unnecessary entanglements and unserious buyers/sellers.

Jeff, I could not say 'NO' to watching the video - however, I learned many different ways to say 'NO'!

Jeff, no works for me, but I found myself occasionally placing an expletive before or after "NO"!!  Just for fun, of course!