Just got a call today to show a house. Was told they don't want to use friends. Want someone new. Have an appointment on Monday. Will see what it brings. Sounds like they are looking for a deal and their friend wouldn't do it. Time will tell. 

I find most friends just don't want you to know their business, I have had a many that were losing their homes and never called. 

John & Shannon,

Maybe it's best that all real estate transactions be purely business rather than friendship based.  Sometimes it can be a little tough to put oneself in the shoes of the seller or buyer choosing an agent.  As we develop our sphere of influence and professional skills, then I think more of us become known for our real estate skills more than simply being a friend or relative of someone.

John & Shannon, it is an emotional business at times, and working with good friends and family can be tough.

When I sold my home two years ago, I had to make a very hard decision.  Being a stager I have a relationship with many different agents.  On top of that, one of my closest friends from high school is an agent.  I didn't choose the close friend because her office was not located in my city.  I called my friend and explained my choice, before listing.  It was a very hard call to make.  She was very understanding, and we hired her as our buyer agent.

John and Shannon, I gave up worrying about my friends years ago. Nashville is small enough that they all know at least 3 agents. I get what I get.

When they chose someone else it does hurt and can cause resentment but honestly I would rather not work with family/friends because when something goes wrong and it always does you get blamed.

I tell newbies that they are not a REAL agent until a friend/family member throws them under the bus. Most laugh and say that would never happen to them. Poor things, if they only knew what was coming...

Hi John and Shannon, I think this happens to all of us and it's not always easy to separate personal feelings from the professional relationship.  

I know that kicked in the gut feeling of being passed over by someone who should have offered the contract.

But after nearly 30 years in business, I would rather not work with friends or relatives, better to send them onto a trusted colleague.