Who Eases Frustration?

Real Estate Broker/Owner with MoonDancer Realty, Dillsboro,NC NC# 218097
What can I say? Today seemed like a real hard rock song and The Who always satisfies for hard rock and I choose "Baba O'Reilly" as carefully as I'd choose the right pain medication to ease an ache.

This seems like the friendliest way to vent a little frustration out. I listened to it three times this morning and have things ordered in my brain a little better.

Frustration isn't necessarily anger, usually anger is easier to deal with. We have a dog in kidney failure, one we watched being born.  She was part of an 11 puppy litter from a pregnant dog we rescued in a snowstorm. In a 24 hour period we gained a black & tan coonhound and her 11 puppies, this was almost 13 years ago.

I know there are those of you out there who've walked this kidney disease/failure road too. The first thing to go is the dog's appetite but they fool you. There are good days, so-so days and terrible days. First we always try the vet recommended K/D prescription diet that we know the dogs will never eat. Then we trot out every treat known to dogdom to whet their appetite. If they are small dogs we've had great success with using commercial human baby food in a syringe to sort of "prime the pump" but if they are large dogs, that isn't a viable option. Then we start with cooking the dog's food and that is usually works great for a week, two if we are lucky. Then begins the on again, off again...all the while our beloved dog loses more and more weight.

We aren't fools...we know what's coming...if we let ourselves, we could probably even predict when it will come.  The frustrating twist is that dogs are different than humans and can't tell us specifically when they want to give up. They are bizarrely strong even when they are starving they keep going. The eyes are bright and alert, the tail wags and they continue to run and play with the other dogs. People without dogs don't get it. They think the dog should be euthanized as soon as the meals are missed. So...the trial and error of dog meals is only one level of frustration and an additional frustration is people not understanding that if the dog isn't giving up, we feel we can't either.

Don't get me wrong. We are strong enough to make the gut-wrenching decision to end the dog's suffering when it becomes apparent that the dog has decided they are suffering. WE HATE IT WE HATE IT WE HATE IT. There are so many frustrating layers to the decision and we feel guilty beyond measure that cost even enters it. Not the cost of the euthanizing, that's the least of it. The cost of the special meals that end up being divvied up among the other dogs because the sick one won't eat them. The costs of the vet visits to tell us the inevitable, the blood tests that indicate what prescriptions to try next and the costs of the prescriptions that the dog never finishes because the end comes first.

The biggest cost, bar none other is the cost to our hearts. The roller coaster ride plays out the same way every time. It is said that all magic comes with a cost, so does including dogs and cats in our lives. The cost is tremendous and if you are in animal rescue long enough you start to wonder how many little pieces of your heart you can afford to lose. As long as they share our lives though, we accept the responsibility that comes along with the joys they do bring.

It doesn't however ease the frustration. Today's music selection doesn't make it go away but it and the writing does put it in perspective as well as knowing the unconditional support we will receive from those of you who understand.




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Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Mona. I am crying as I write this. There is no music that can make this better. I have no words only the sadness that inevitably comes with the reality that there is no more to be done. I am soooooooo very sorry.

Dec 01, 2013 09:48 PM #1
Clint Mckie
Desert Sun Home, commercial Inspections - Carlsbad, NM
Desert Sun Home, Comm. Inspection 1-575-706-5586

Hi Mona,

I hate is as well when the pets are suffering and there is not that much we can do but medicate and wait.

Thanks for sharing the Video.

Have a good day in Sylva.

Best, Clint McKie

Dec 01, 2013 09:49 PM #2
Mona Gersky
MoonDancer Realty, Dillsboro,NC - Sylva, NC
GRI,IMSD-Taking the mystery out of real estate.

Hi Sheila,  knowing others are out there understanding what is happening helps tremendously but the situation remains said and final.

Good Morning Clint, we will do our best to make sure Wiggles doesn't enter the suffering phase but it is hard.

Dec 01, 2013 10:01 PM #3
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Sad story Mona, but you're a much better person then I could ever be for several reasons.  Caring so much for your animals is #1.....listening to that song three times is #2.

Dec 01, 2013 10:28 PM #4
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

G-d bless Wiggles and you and Leslie too.

Dec 01, 2013 10:34 PM #5
Steve and Jan Bachman
RE/MAX Gateway, Reston, Herndon, Ashburn, Sterling, Fairfax - Herndon, VA
Realtors - Northern Virginia

Mona, Thank you for your rescue and the beautiful life you have given Wiggles. From my experience I am convinced that well loved dogs know when it is time to go, they sense your despair and affection and it is OK with them. Our last dog died in our daughter's arms on the way to the vet. It was actually beautiful...in hindsight :-(

Dec 01, 2013 10:55 PM #6
Patty Da Silva, Davie, Southwest Ranches Cooper City, Plantation, Weston, REALTOR
BROKER of Green Realty Properties® - 954-667-7253 - Davie, FL
Top Listing Broker

Mona, I feel you. "How many pieces of your heart can you afford to lose." I am sorry to hear about your dog Mona. She feels how much you love her. They just do.

Dec 02, 2013 12:04 AM #7
Pamela Smith
Award Realty - Sun City West, AZ
Sun City West, Corte Bella, Sun City Grand


There is nothing anyone of us can say to ease you aching heart.  We love our animals and they give us comfort.  Best wishes today and the days in the near future.

Dec 02, 2013 03:19 AM #8
Peter den Boer
Atlanta Communities - Woodstock, GA
MBA,GRI, Associate Broker, Realtor

Mona - Just think of the wonderful life you have given to Wiggles. As bad as the end is, Wiggles has been thrilled to know you I am sure. So sorry.

Dec 02, 2013 10:17 AM #9
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