Boundaries are a healthy aspect in life. Everyone needs them. How do you determine the difference between a healthy boundary or unhealthy control?
John Stibbs explains what emotional boundaries are and how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships:
Unhealthy boundaries are generally as a result of being raised in dysfunctional families where maturation and the individuation process was not properly understood nor the child respected as an individual. Respect is key for the son or daughter at any age by their parents, grandparents and other family members.
Healthy boundaries are the limits we set in relationships that allow us to protect our selves from being manipulated by, or enmeshed with, emotionally needy others. Such boundaries come from having a good sense of our own self-worth.
As a young parent, I took the a seminar on "Love and Logic" where it taught how to make parenting and teaching both fun and rewarding, instead of stressful and chaotic. It covered practical tools and techniques that help adults achieve respectful, healthy relationships with their children.
The idea behind the "Love and Logic Theory" is this: Parents should provide an atmosphere of love, acceptance, and empathy while allowing the natural consequences of a child's behavior and actions to do the teaching.
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