Use your fear as fuel

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Trash talking important work

The self-induced anxiety formula often goes like this: What I'm about to do is important. I've never done it quite like this. It's incredibly crucial, a turning point, a high risk venture, a moment in time I won't have again. Therefore, I am nervous. And I need to get morenervous, because the importance of the moment warrants it. This is going to fail. I can vividly picture all the ways it won't work...

On and on.

A common approach to decreasing the unhappy cycle is self talk to minimize how important the upcoming event is. The mantra is: No one will be watching, I'm exaggerating this moment, it's no big deal, it's not as important as you think, it doesn't really matter...


The problem with that approach is that you spend your day trash talking your leverage and impact. By actively diminishing what you've accomplished, you make it less likely you'll see yourself as worthy of even bigger achievements tomorrow.

In fact, it does matter. In fact, this is an important thing you're about to do, and denigrating it undermines the very reason you're doing this work in the first place.

Here's an alternative: It's okay to be nervous.Instead of fighting that anxiety, dance with it. Welcome it. Relish it. It's a sign you're on to something. "Oh good, here comes that itch!" This is important after all.

When we welcome a feeling like this, when we embrace it and actually look forward to it, the feeling doesn't get louder and more debilitating. It softens, softens to the point where we can work with it.



Use your fear like fuel!




Thank you Seth Godin









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Established in 2002, Family Abstract, Inc. provides Title Insurance to clients and customers throughout Florida, Maryland, New Jersey and Pennsylvania with more than 40 years of combined experience in management alone. We pride ourselves on retaining the most skilled and knowledgeable employees who share our goals of providing the best service in the industry.

Located in Horsham, Pennsylvania, Family Abstract, Inc. maintains an extensive network of skilled title insurance abstractors in all the states we service in addition to a nationwide network of qualified closing agents who are available to close loans at any location.

Backed by the strength of four title insurance underwriters, we are able to provide expert attention to detail without sacrificing versatility in the closing process, thus providing more options in difficult title situations. Due to our depth of industry knowledge and commitment to excellent service, Family Abstract, Inc. has been able to develop client relationships that have endured for decades.

Having successfully settled and insured thousands of transactions, we have already earned the trust and confidence of hundreds of customers, lenders, brokers, and realtors and now we would like to share our expertise with you!

Comments (6)

Dana Hollish Hill
Hollish Hill Group, JPAR Stellar Living - Bethesda, MD
REALTOR * Broker * Coach

Great post, but it is easier said than done. Dancing with nerves can be exciting, but getting out on the dancefloor has to come first. 

I hope you dance. 

Dec 04, 2013 02:38 AM
Glenn Freezman
Family Abstract, Inc. - Horsham, PA

Love that comment.   I do.  

Dec 04, 2013 02:42 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

One of the things I used to do when I had to give a big presentation in my corporate job was to first tell myself something like, "In 5 hours, this will be a memory and I will celebrate with a nice glass of wine when I get home" and then I would picture how GREAT I would feel when it was over and had gone well.

Then I would just take a big breath and get started.

Dec 04, 2013 03:18 AM
Glenn Freezman
Family Abstract, Inc. - Horsham, PA

Kim, I happen to be one of those strange people that absolutely loves public speaking, just by your picture and your attitude I can't imagine that you would ever be afraid of speaking in front of a group. Personally, for you, I think it was all about the wine.  Lol


Dec 04, 2013 03:43 AM
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Being a little "edgey" about things can actually work in your favor, I agree.  The energy level is high .. and that always provides an extra boost for the presenter .. and the presentee, I think.  Instead of dodging this or trying to calm yourself .. I say go with the flow!!  Great thought ..


Dec 04, 2013 04:05 AM
Glenn Freezman
Family Abstract, Inc. - Horsham, PA

Gene I believe that passion and that energy is intoxicating.  I agree with you, it IS amazing for the presenter but if delivered correctly, even better for the reciever.

Dec 04, 2013 04:41 AM