A missed opportunity to be kind---that still haunts me

Real Estate Agent with RETIRED 200305001

Three or four years ago I was in the check out line of a discount grocery store. The gal ahead of me was probably about 25. I;m guessing a single mom with kids, most that age here, are. I say that because we are mostly a town of older retirees.

She was trying to bu a big bag od shredded cheese on a electronic food stamp card. The total was probably less than $5 and the card did not have that much left and it would be a few days to reload it time

I watched as she had a forlorn look on her face and she put it back on the shelf and walked out. 

Why didn't I pay for it? There probably where some hungry kids involved and I was raised by a single mom that didn't always have it either. I know at times others stepped up. Even tho its been a few years it still bothers me, Why didn't I pay for it? Has this happened to you, a missed opportunity for some kindness?

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Rob Shepherd -  ABR, GRI, REALTORS® for Florence Oregon Real Estate
Expert in helping those buy or sell Florence Oregon property and retire in Oregon. Call me anytime or visit my website for local listings and information on Florence Oregon.
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Comments (13)

Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Rob. Boy are we on the same page today. When you know better, you do better, and so I am sure you do now.

Jan 24, 2014 09:57 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Regardless of who they might be from here forward you will most likely dip into your pocket for your loose change to help a person. I was close to doing that a few weeks ago when the person in front was fumbling in their purse, and then finally pulled out a $20. bill

Jan 24, 2014 10:11 PM
Jaclyn Erwin
Jackson Erwin Realty, Inc. - Charlotte, NC


I'm sure we've all experienced circumstances such as this. However, hopefully we will all be blessed with more opportunities in the future to help pay it forward, whenever possible. This is what makes us human: we learn and hopefully get additional changes to apply our learned lessons. 

Jan 24, 2014 10:14 PM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR

Sheila::We sure are!

Ed: Yep!

Jaclyn:Thank You!

Jan 24, 2014 11:33 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This story is a good reminder for all of us to take advantage of the opportunities to pay it forward. 

Jan 25, 2014 12:02 AM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR

Roy: Especially when it still bothers me years later.

Jan 25, 2014 12:47 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Rob, I think we all have some things that looking back we wish we'd have done differently.  I think from those lessons come the ability to better recognize a situation and take the best action the next time it comes around.

Jan 25, 2014 06:38 AM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR

Liz and Bill: I'm ready!

Jan 25, 2014 06:47 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

We all have those moments when we wonder why we failed to act...I'm sure you have more than made up for it in other ways over the years.

Jan 25, 2014 07:35 AM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR

Sharon: Maybe but it still bugs me.

Jan 25, 2014 08:53 AM
Peter den Boer
Atlanta Communities - Woodstock, GA
MBA,GRI, Associate Broker, Realtor

Rob - I have paid for things when this happens. I am just not quick enough sometimes to catch on there is a proble. Breaks my heart when I do see this kind of thing.

Jan 25, 2014 11:31 PM
Larry Brewer - Benchmark Realty llc
Benchmark Realty LLc - Nashville, TN

Hi Rob - we all have missed opportunities, and good people like yourself make this a learning opportunity and are always prepared for the next opportunity.

Jan 26, 2014 12:58 AM
Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR

Peter: We are on the same page.

Larry: Sure will try at least. Thanks for dropping by!

Jan 26, 2014 01:10 AM