Ever get pissed off or feel hurt inside when you find out that your Uncle used another Realtor to list their home? Does it make you upset if your "best friend" uses a different person to find a home to buy? It can sting. It used to bother me.
I could not figure out why they did all not call me. Sure I have had a bunch of people close to me who have used me to buy or sell property, but not everyone. One day I was at a listing appointment and having a serious talk with the home owner a woman who had just been divorced. She is a financial planner and we started really hitting it off and talking about our work.
She said to me that her favorite neighbor across the street was a Realtor as we walked around. Then she said to me "heck I don't want her to know my business, that is why I called you". Then she said that she has someone do her finances, her 401k and IRA that she hired away from her own company.
As I left, contract in hand I got to thinking. I don't want to get too heavy here but if your Aunt Sally who you really loved was a doctor would you like to have her examine you in an intimate way to make sure you were healthy? Not me, I want someone I do not know all that well personally but professionally yes. Even if my aunt was top notch and it was common knowledge I think I would pass on a prostate exam.
Enough of that. Do not let your ego get hurt if you find out the friend of family member did not use you to buy or sell their home. It does not mean you are a bad Realtor. Do not hold any grudge inside about what that did and congratulate them when you hear, don't mention your feelings
Be a professional