This REALTOR Welcomes Helicopter Parents!

Real Estate Agent with Boardman Realty Minnesota License#90858


“I was accused of being a helicopter parent.”  This statement was recently made by a friend of mine while we were chatting at a local coffee shop about our adult children.

My response to her was, “Really? Did you say thank you?”

Being a helicopter parent doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. It means you care about your children enough to give them advice rather than let them go off on their own and make mistakes. Okay, it’s not a good thing to ride with them on the school bus, follow them into the classroom and do their homework. But a mom going to check out colleges with her daughter or a dad going to the car dealer with his son isn’t such a bad thing is it? 

As a REALTOR®, I come across helicopter parents all the time.
Buying a first home can be an exciting, but also a somewhat scary, experience. It is the first big purchase most young people make. One that will have lasting effects on their live if they make a huge mistake. I am not surprised when my young buyers say that their parents want to see the house or attend a showing. In fact, I welcome moms and dads to attend showings or a meeting where we write up a purchase agreement. Usually after a few minutes of questioning by a concerned parent, they realize I am not just out to sell a house as quickly as possible. What I want as a buyer’s agent is the same thing that any parent would want for their child. I want my client, their child, to be happy with their home purchase. When someone signs a buyer’s contract for representation with me, I have fiduciary duties to put their needs first. I work in the best interest of my client at all times. This means full disclosure on the condition of the home, pointing out things to ask the sellers or an inspector about as well as preparing the paperwork noting contingencies that will protect the buyer if everything is not as it seems.

I have received almost as many thank you notes and emails from parents after successful closings as I have from my home buyers.   After all, we had the same goal, for the new home owners to be happy with their first home

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Teri Eckholm. REALTOR with Boardman Realty, is a native Minnesotan who has lived and worked in the Minneapolis St Paul metro all of her life. She specializes in lakeshore homes, acreage properties and first time home buyers but assists anyone making a move in the north and east Twin Cities metro.

If you are buying, selling or relocating to Minnesota and need help from a professional REALTOR®, give Teri , a call or visit her website for a FREE Home Buyer Success Guide or FREE Home Value Report She specialize in acreage and lakeshore properties in the north and east Twin Cities metro area including Ham Lake, Lino Lakes and all communities in the Forest Lake School District! Serving Anoka, Chisago, Ramsey and Washington Counties in Minnesota.

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Comments (8)

William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Some guidance from parents isn't always a bad thing as long as the parent gives the advice and then stays quiet letting the children make a decision. 

Mar 11, 2014 07:06 AM
Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro

William--I have never had a problem with any parent not allowing their adult children to make their decision. I welcome parents comments in all circumstances and would much rather they spoke up before the negotiations and contract than waiting until futher into the deal to voice their concerns.

Mar 11, 2014 07:31 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Teri it makes plain good sense to have parents involved in 1s timers home purchase. We almost always do, if they live close. And most 1st timers want their help!

Mar 11, 2014 09:02 AM
Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro

Anna--Absolutely! They offer great advice and again, I would much rather address their concerns before the offer is placed rather than after the inspection contingency is removed.

Mar 11, 2014 09:24 AM
Barb Szabo, CRS
RE/MAX Above & Beyond - Cleveland, OH
E-pro Realtor, Cleveland Ohio Homes

I feel the same way Teri! I think we parents have a lot of experience to share with our kids when they buy a home and not just becasue we are Realtors!

Mar 11, 2014 09:59 PM
Randy Shamburger
Movement Mortgage - Greenville, SC
FHA, VA, USDA and Conventional Mortgage Expert

That makes sense, nice post, thanks for sharing.

Have a Big day,


Mar 12, 2014 03:59 AM
Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro

Barb--Some of my favorite deals have been where the parents were involved. It is a big decision and when a parent is there to guide & share concerns/experiences the buyer has a better chance of being a successful  homeowner. Involved parenting doesn't end but it does change to more of an advisor role. :)

Mar 12, 2014 04:24 AM
Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro

Randy--Thanks! You too!

Mar 12, 2014 04:24 AM